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I am 78 and my wife is 70. My first wife and I started by chance with a couple who were close friends in 1969, and with a few gaps continued until our divorce 17 years ago. My second wife and I started again about eight years ago. After 50 years I can assure you that it is still as much fun, although a little quieter.

We have those rings and we love them! This company has been around for quite a while now, they are not new. We bought ours in France while vacationing and never have any vanilla friends asked if they mean something.

Just started looking, sounds like the best kind of foursome. Everyone just having fun no matter who.

We’re both 37, been married for 15 years in August this year. Had our first meet and repeats this year and looking forward to many more.

Sex is fine after 60. I will advise that vitamin V helps.

I see that this is your first post so let me say, WELCOME to Swingersboard.

We wear these black rings and have had luck with them already! They are from Partners ID. Never heard about Tide boxes or blue flower pots!

I guess Mr. Sweet and I are the odd ones out again. We have been very lucky to find friends through swinging that we can hang out with "vanilla style". Just a couple weeks ago, we hosted a vanilla party and the majority of the guests who showed up were swinger friends. And I've made the Bff connection, too. Heaven knows I never expected it to happen via swinging, but I'm grateful that it has. That said, I do understand the difficulty in finding a balance of how to spend your free time. Do you spend it with your family, your vanilla friends, your swing friends for vanilla stuff, or do you play? But to the original question . .. I agree with the theory that you're better off not trying to be friends first when looking for playmates. We look for that "spark" first, and if it's meant to happen, the friendship will develop naturally. =)

Developing friendships as adults is probably one of the most difficult things that anyone encounters. We all want to do it but at the same time we all have a difficult time doing. As was said earlier in the thread, I do think that within a very short amount of time we know whether or not the person we are talking to is someone that we COULD be friends with. And every once in a while you meet that person who is just your BFF from minute one. But once we grew up and got married it got a lot harder. Now short of the instant BFF thing happening, it takes alot more to develop a friendship, for starters there are more people involved. Not only do I have to get along with this person, but my husband does too, and not only does she have to get along with me but her husband does too. We often talk about the 4 way connection required just for two couples to feel comfortable swinging together, but if you want to actually develop a friendship then it requires an even deeper connection. Then take that a step further and include the fact that we're grownups and married and often have kids that take our time and that severely limits our time to really establish a friendship. And for many swinging couples they get so little time where they can go out and do things without the kids that they would prefer to take that limited time and go to a club/ house party/ social or hookup one on one, because that's the only chance they get to do those things. We are like you, we'd love to meet some couples we could do all the other stuff with, but the reality is, we have a hard time getting our vanilla friends to find enough time to do those things. So I guess all in all it boils down to, it's hard to make true friends as adults.