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This relationship is not solid enough for open sex with others. Stop all swinging and work on that.

I agree with everything here. This isn't a relationship it's a train wreck. Anyone who repeatedly makes you do things you are uncomfortable doing, with people you detest doesn't sound to me like that is someone who loves you. And the pouting like a little kid if either one of us tried that the other would laugh hysterically. We have a no way rule and it's about the only rule we have. We have stuff we don't like. But if either of us doesn't want to there is no way. We will talk about it later, in private. I could never imagine trying to talk anyone into doing anything. I would spend the whole time wondering if they we having as much fun as I was. Kinda a downer that vitamin V won't fix. IMO ?

There should always should be boundaries. You are Queen and he is King and that is where the trusting love connection is. Y'all suppose to agree to rules and not make one or the other uncomfortable. Our rules are we play with couples together in our home their home and singles (not a couple )are toys. They do not get a pleasure of home, they get hotels, we have a she shed we added a room for single fun. This away one or the other is not giving up a home for private time with toy. . . You have a red flag with him if he is communicating with her about having his baby and wishing you would leave. I would be Ranger roll his t-shirts and pants show him the email about having baby and wishing you to leave and tell him he is free to f'ing leave do not let the door hit you on the way out. It is not worth to be put in an uncomfortable position.

Same for us. "I'm hungry." "Let's have sex first."

MrMrsswinger is offering sound advice. You describe a pattern; he breaks the rules, you confront him, he whines and you cave. Add to this his demonstrated willingness to use someone in a vulnerable mental state for his pleasure one really has to question his ethics. Why are you still in a relationship with the man you describe, let alone considering marriage?

I very often kiss my wife after our friend cums in her mouth and go down on her after he cums in her vagina. It's great fun and my wife loves it.

Do American let their pets lick their faces? Yes. Think on it. The dog has been out in the yard tasting his own poop. The cat has been eating flea-infested mice. Semen, on the other hand, is sterile and does not smell like poop.

I've never had doubts of my sexuality. During an evening of swinging it was hard to avoid encountering semen somewhere. I just never worried about it. When I kissed my wife, I was more interested in expressing how much I loved her, not that she'd just swallowed another fellow's load. There is nothing I wouldn't give to be able to kiss her just one more time.

My dad taught me "What is good for the goose is good for the gander". And yes, that's about as old and as corny as it gets. But, as I remember it, every time he brought that phrase up it had to do with some man expecting his wife to behave differently than he did. SO, my comment has nothing to do with the virtues of kissing my lover after she's sucked another man off. The point is simply this, if you expect your wife to kiss you after you go down on her and/or another woman and see it as sensual and erotic then you shouldn't never hesitate to kiss her after she's sucked you or another guy; something she no doubt finds equally sensual and erotic