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I made my first post not quite a year ago while going thru divorce. That got final and after dating a few ladies, one captivated me. She was monogamous and that was totally fine with me. She's amazing. One of the times I picked her up for a date at her house, I laughed that she had blue flowerpots, which is a mythical "sign of swingers" in my community. I made a joke about how she must be a swinger. Well, that led to months and months of communication and discussion and reading and discussion and podcasts and more discussion until finally action was taken. We put up a profile on a site and began conversations with others. Once our state allowed restaurants to partially open, we "covid screened" another couple who had been careful in lockdown, met them for dinner, and it was on! Since then, we've had several encounters with other couples who have also been working from home and avoiding crowds. One couple took our temps at the front door as part of their protocol. We seem to be following a familiar pattern. I the male introduce the topic, we enter the LS world together with her nervous about everything, then she enjoys it a lot. And so we're in. Now we're in the process of moving in together permanently, and we will be marrying not too long after. After 10 months of knowing each other, sheltering in place together since March and working thru an entrance into the LS, we have never had a single cross word between us. We could not be happier! We look forward to learning and growing further and have enjoyed the wisdom shown on this board.

Let's say that both of us are mainly heterosexual but with curiosity. However, in the past we have had no particular problems finding couples with both bisexuals. We believe that many people have bisexual curiosity but maybe they don't say so. In the community that we use to transgress the search is very simple, there is a special section for full bsx couples. Personally it happened to me that while I was fucking a normal man's wife he started to lick her pussy with me inside. When I came out he took it completely in my mouth. I didn't know about anything and it was a surprise. But again, I prefer women and my boyfriend prefers men.

I think there is a spectrum. Some people have a 10% inclination towards same sex activities, some 90%. I do find that some homophobes are concerned about their own homosexual interests.

I agree with this. I like separation between me and any other guys but sometime accidents happen and I just try not to panic. But I know other guys that just don't seem to care. They'll put their dick right into my GF's mouth while another guy's is in there. Some of my friends do some stuff that I would consider pretty bisexual but they would NEVER say they are bisexual. Like you said, I don't know if it's because there is a female involved, they just get caught up in the moment, etc but I think bisexual might mean something different to a lot of people.

I've been swinging/poly/whatever-you'd-call-it since my 30s. I've always been a single male, though--haven't been able to find another half. I started in earnest after my divorce, and was happy to find several local groups that would allow single men. As much as I enjoy the parties, I tend to like more connection. I did a lot of explicitly open dating (I guess moreso than straight dating, where people have multiple partners but don't admit to it) and found single and paired women. AFF women would go to parties with me, but tended to like more distance; OKC women/couples tend to be more romantic. Nothing really adventurous sexually. I just like being open, not being repressed, and curling a lot of different toes.

We are both in our early 40s. We began with a swap. before we were married, with friends while on a camping trip. That was 20 years ago. We've been married 18 years. My wife tricked me into swinging 3 years ago, we have one regular couple, and have managed a couple of house parties. We got back with our old friends which was fantastic. In total 0e have swapped about 10 times in the last 3 years. Currently on hold, don't know how long for.

Same for us. "I'm hungry." "Let's have sex first."

Male bisexuality is a difficult thing to define. Our guys will do things like DP, sloppy seconds, go down on us after the other guy has ejaculated inside, one kiss a woman while the other fucks her, etc. There are perhaps homosexual aspects to it, but they never do full-on oral or anal gay acts, the exact things that they do with women. They really believe that it isn't gay if there is a woman involved. Or it's more that guys want to get off in a woman and will tolerate just about anything that gets them there. That seems to be the real dividing line.

I am a Freudian, there are no simple mistakes.