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My view is the same as the majority. I probably had it and probably gave it to others. I was told by more than one medical professional that if I was sexually active, I had it, the end. I never had any symptoms, but I my gf developed the abnormal cells after we got together. I tend to think I gave it to her, but there's no way to know. In my opinion, HPV is similar in effect to Epstein-Barr, the virus that causes mono and can lead to chronic fatigue, and also seems to lead to a susceptibility to some cancers in some people. Most people get mono and don't even notice, or it's just another cold. Others it's devastating. Would you not be sexually active because you had a bad case of mono, and so are perhaps more likely to pass the virus to others, when the overwhelming likelihood is they already had/have it and it's a non-issue? For upcoming generations, it'll be more of a weird outlier, because you'd have to have foregone the vaccine, and why would you do that? The strains that are cancerous have no symptoms.

So, given that, many (most?) cases of HPV are asymptomatic (show no symptoms), men aren't (cannot) be tested, women are often only tested if they have an abnormal cells in their pap test, and the infection is very common. The question becomes, what is the difference between someone who volunteers the info, vs someone who doesn't (to deceive), or doesn't because they don't know (the latter being the most likely case)? I completely understand the ick factor of knowing someone has an infection, but at the same time, it kinda feels like rejecting someone who voluntarily disclosed would be punishing the wrong person in this scenario. I don't have an answer, and I'm not trying to shame, it just feels like a weirdly complicated ethical dilemma. D