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We met a couple where they admitted they wanted only me and hinted around the next time invited we would like for you to leave your hubby at home. I found it a little rude. It was not going to happen. I find anyone pick to split a couple a little rude. Maybe best to find singles to play with. Hubby and I has never try to split a couple . We would like the same respect.

Answers below: 1. What are the major pitfalls for new, married swingers? And do you think it's worth the risk of falling into one of these pits? The pitfalls come from having poor communication and one or both partners possessing a jealous streak. This lifestyle is NOT for everyone. It is a common fantasy to talk about but the reality is much different. ANY jealousy that exists in someone is amplified 100x over when they're in a swinging situation. Imagine the guy/woman who gets a small jealousy feeling when their other half talks about someone from work, is a little flirty at the Christmas party, etc...change the "talks about someone from work" to kissing another guy while he fondles her tits" or "moans loudly as another man penetrates her"...yeah, recipe for disaster. I've seen a handful of guys just start boiling when their sexy female half gets a ton of attention while he gets little. News flash to the guys...your female half will get significantly more attention than you will. Be ready for it, better be able to handle it. Along the same lines are couples who set too many rules. Making a list a rules hints at possible jealousy. Mrs and I see red flags when talking with a potential play couple when they start bringing up a list of rules. Yes, setting some rules is fine, but when the list is long, it starts to appear as if one of the couple isn't fully in, and rules are set to control their hesitation. Also, when people drink a little (usually turns into a lot because of nervousness) and they're with other couples who are more experienced, rules bend. Sometimes couples will try to separate those new to the lifestyle, making it easier to bend those rules. I've known a few couples who had specific rules about kissing, soft swap, same room only, etc and within 15 minutes every rules was broken. I actually tried to intervene and help the couple out because they jumped into the deep end so fast. 2. Does AFF actually work? Or are there just too many fake accounts and accounts that are too old? Can't speak about AFF but other sites (I won't specify) have been good for meeting quality people. Different sites have different pros and cons. You have to try a couple and see what works best for you.

Anyone in the area? We’ll be coming in next month. Would love to meet and possibly play. (We’re new to this)

Reading your post I don’t think you should be swinging. You are not describing an isolated incident, have your own insecurities, she can’t remember what happens. It’s more than the alcohol.

If a hall pass is allowing the other partner play solo count us as yes. Swinging is newer to us, playing around is not. I travel extensively and I did meet women who were more than eager to join me in some fun. I sometimes spent the night with female clients and associates. I never hid my marital status. Many of the women I met are married too. I was sure my wife knew I was with women over the years. At a Las Vegas trade show I shared a room with a business associate. I had always talked about her to my wife as someone I enjoyed going to dinner with. This one time my wife asked if I was sleeping with her and I gave her the answer of what happens in LV stays there. Without getting mad she pressed for details. All this led to her asking if she could meet men. Our rules: Be Careful Don’t lie Be open to sharing details No falling in love No long term relationships Our deal was no more than four dates with the same person. My wife signed up on dating sites and cheating sites. I suggested she meet married men as they most likely don’t want a relationship. She gave me her passwords to prove she wasn’t hiding anything. We shared our intimate details. Finally we got to a point where we agreed to swinging. I encouraged my wife to find our swinger friends. For me giving her all the freedom of meeting men was easier than playing with her and watching her.

And we're happy to have you here with us on the site! My advice would be just continue to explore the fantasy on whatever timeline feels right, no need to rush anything. You may decide next week you are ready to move forward with it, or six months from now, or maybe it ends up it just always stays a fantasy. No right or wrong answers, just walk the journey together as a couple and see where it takes you.

My wife has a hall pass but not the other way around (am ok with this). My only ground rules are that she communicate with me before and after and to stay safe. To date she has not taken me up on this offer though I know it is something she is curious about. We'll see in time...

I emphatically agree with your post, and your longer answer is appropriately thoughtful; it deserves more than just a ?. The only quibble to make is that hubby and I no longer consider ourselves a long-term, lifetime married couple. We are part of a poly family and our bond is not just a single M-F relationship. There is an equal romantic and sexual bond between each man and woman, and between us women. The two men are joined for a lifetime by the inter-mediation of the women and our children.

Rude? Yes, but look at it this way: They saved you a bunch of time and effort for no reward.

The couple I play with, we/I pull out and cum over her tits and face...she likes it and the husband likes to see my cum over his wife's face and tits.

This right here sounds like you're setting yourself up to fail in the lifestyle. At least in our opinion. And quite frankly this sounds very homophobic. Let me add this edit in, if you're using condoms yea the guy would have to do it intentionally, but you know as well as any guy here, unless there is something to stop your cum, that thing will go flying up, down, left, right or any of those directions combined. We've certainly seen it happen. Also to OP just saying this whole thread sounds a little off. I am still not totally understanding it. Are you playing with someone elses missus? If so and the hubby nuts in her first you would be offended because you didn't get first dibs? As much as I'd like to put in a some helpful information here, I'd suggest taking the advice one of the other posters gave you and just avoid group play or just play only with females. Maybe we misread it.

I'm not a fan of foreign jizz but if it was messing with my mojo I would just grab a towel or dish rag. If the girl's desire is to have lots of jizz on her, then that's another issue. I can't decide if seeing cum all over her would be hot or creepy. I'm gonna go with hot for now and just try to avoid touching it