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I had an experience last night that will definitely be my memoir if I ever sit still long enough to write one. Fox was out of town for an extended period of time, and this happens to be the first and only time that we have spent a significant amount of time away from each other since we have been together. I honestly enjoy spending as much time with him as possible. This is the first time in my life that I can say that I thoroughly enjoy my partner. Man, if I knew then what I know now, but c’est la vie. I digress. Due to a crazy work schedule in my private practice during the day, Fox running all of our marketing and SEO (he tries to explain all that to me and I hear the teacher from Charlie Brown) throughout his work day then both of us spending our evenings working on the show, we are pulling 12-14 hour days, six day a week. Oh, and I failed to mention that we are in a global pandemic! Needless to say, we have not been feeling as sexual as we were and want to be in the very near future; adulting has absolutely put a damper on our sex life. Don’t get me wrong, it is still amazing but we are so tired at the end of the day we both pass out from shear exhaustion. Being an essential worker (read that again using an entitled voice with a hair flip for dramatics) if extremely draining! Again, I digress. Fox feeling extremely flirty and adventurous while on his trip sends me a challenge/request to be extremely naughty. As the day progresses I send naughty pictures and flirty messages, remember I am at work. Then I get THE message. This message implied that I would be getting a visitor at home and had a list of directions for me to follow. I want to remind everyone that I have never played without Fox so I was extremely nervous and unsure about this whole situation, but being the good girl that I am, I obliged. My instructions were to go home, get ready for a sexy evening (meaning make sure my legs were shaved) and to put a note on the door saying “Come In.” Can anyone else feel the anxiety rising? Only me, yeah, freaking out! I was told to adjust the security camera to point towards the couch so he could watch this adventure live, be naked on the couch playing with myself with my favorite toy and to be ready for a sexy single man to come play with me. I was also instructed to be extra slutty and to have fun. Granted, I know this particular single man but I have never met him. Before you ask, yes I took a few shots to calm my nerves! So here I am freshly shaved, slathered in lotion, naked, playing with my favorite toy on the couch waiting for a sexy man to walk through my door and do naughty things to me. No pressure! He arrives and immediately wastes no time! There were minimal pleasantries exchanged before he plunged his face between my legs enjoying all that my vagina had to offer. It might have been that I knew Fox was watching, or the extra shot I took right before he got there but I threw myself into the experience fully and didn’t look back. I woke up this morning feeling sexier than I have in a long time. This man, whom I have never met, only chatted with, made me feel like a goddess. He told me how sexy my curves were, how good I felt in various positions, I moaned, I made sex faces according to Fox, and I got fucked! He finished about 45 minutes later (we were on a shorter time schedule) by squirting his manliness all over by belly, which was only fair because I had squirted all over him a few times, put on his clothes, thanked me for a great time and left. Fox frequently tells me all the same things, and in my mind that is normal, but hearing a stranger say it was empowering. This was definitely a confidence booster that I didn’t even realize I needed. Knowing that I am prone to getting scared and not following through, Fox made this spontaneous and gave me just enough information to keep me intrigued and adventurous. I feel so much closer to Fox right now, a deep connection that had been buried by the strains of life. I cannot wait for him to get home so I can properly thank him for orchestrating this amazing adventure.

Something strange and can I say uncomfortable occurred a few weekends ago. We are not very involved on a regular basis in swinging. I like to say we enjoy swapping and have been to a very limited number of full swing parties. Our regular swap partners live far enough away that it is real special occasion when we visit them or they visit us. I am still not totally into girl play and as we say I am at last open to some play. We were invited to visit our friends, they told us we would be just the four of us one night and asked it was fine with us to have two other couples the next night. I hesitantly agreed. I do enjoy our friends and their house parties we attended had fun people. It does bring out a side of me I repress. Night one was everything I looked forward to. We did some play together and then swapped for the night. Next day two couples joined. The evening was a normal night of meeting new people. Knowing more was going to happen it was great that we all melded. The new couples gave a vibe of knowing themselves very well. It turned out the husband of one couple and the wife of the other couple were brother and sister. I didn’t believe them at first even when I saw a resemblance. I know I must have looked shock. They made many jokes about their relationship. Their spouses said they both knew from the very beginning and has made for interesting family get togethers. To them it was funny and made jokes about rural trash and everyone does it where they are from. I knew they were pulling my leg. I thought incest was not a real thing up to then.

Have you every meet someone that you knew at a swingers party/club, and you had no idea that they were into that. When I first started going to my local swinger club, i met an old teacher I used to have. She was there with her husband. It was quite surprising to see her there. Had no idea she was into those kinds of thing. They were fun to be with. A few years later after I got married to my husband, and we went to a club, he met an old friend with his that he used to play hockey with , when he was young. He was pretty surprising to see him there as well.

Most likely that was the norm many many years ago. The Roman’s had communal toilets, I attached a picture from Pompeii. I enjoy my privacy in the toilet, my alone time. It is strange that Americans who are usually much more private about nudity compared to Europeans, have less privacy in public toilets. We have toilets with doors that only partially block the view, small doors, with sides that allow others to see, while many other countries have private water closets. Urinating and defecating are the most natural thing all living animals do. Why do we hide when doing it is a good question. Maybe we defecate privately due to the stink. Mike has told me about men’s rooms that still have communal urinals. Back to the original post, sex in the open has become less of a problem for us. Maybe it is the excitement of maybe getting caught.

Depends how you define "swinging." If you include anyone in our poly family other than my husband, it was this morning. If it has to be someone outside the family (Clair, Lora, and my boyfriend and/or his wife), then three days ago.

I made my first post not quite a year ago while going thru divorce. That got final and after dating a few ladies, one captivated me. She was monogamous and that was totally fine with me. She's amazing. One of the times I picked her up for a date at her house, I laughed that she had blue flowerpots, which is a mythical "sign of swingers" in my community. I made a joke about how she must be a swinger. Well, that led to months and months of communication and discussion and reading and discussion and podcasts and more discussion until finally action was taken. We put up a profile on a site and began conversations with others. Once our state allowed restaurants to partially open, we "covid screened" another couple who had been careful in lockdown, met them for dinner, and it was on! Since then, we've had several encounters with other couples who have also been working from home and avoiding crowds. One couple took our temps at the front door as part of their protocol. We seem to be following a familiar pattern. I the male introduce the topic, we enter the LS world together with her nervous about everything, then she enjoys it a lot. And so we're in. Now we're in the process of moving in together permanently, and we will be marrying not too long after. After 10 months of knowing each other, sheltering in place together since March and working thru an entrance into the LS, we have never had a single cross word between us. We could not be happier! We look forward to learning and growing further and have enjoyed the wisdom shown on this board.

Are you saying that you have a standard letter-size dick? If so, I have a standard legal-size (17 inches tall and 11 inches wide).

If anal play is your thing, why not invest in undergoing natural colonics hydrotherapy for a few sessions. It cleanses the colon and any toxic accumulations in those areas and good for the health too. I did one, though I dont like play partners giving me anal. Only my SO and bf can touch me there to a limited degree. No thrusting motions but they can do rimming on me or shoot their loads in there instead, when Im on fertile days.

Haven't been to a club yet, closest is 5 hours drive. But we've planned a night at one soon, and wondering if it will turn out to be one of these unexpected meeting. We have close friends of 40+ years that we know swing & get away about every second weekend. We cross paths with them once or twice a day in everyday life, and they would assume we are just vanilla. Our night out has accommodation that turns out to 1/2 a block up from the apartment they own & stay at when away. Think there's pretty much only one club locally on that scene, and we know they visit on some of their trips. So at this stage there's a 50/50 chance they will be in the region when we visit, and whatever chance of running into them. We won't be particularly surprised, but I'm sure they will.

Ears pierced is great... But only one or two per ear. Nothing else should be pierced. Belly buttons may be OK. I tend to not like them but I have actually seen some that look pretty hot so I don't know if my opinion is changing or these were just different. Tats are an extreme turn-off. Just makes a woman seem like a low class tramp... Even when I get to know the person and know they are not. Just not classy. I will also go on to say that I can live with a small classy tattoo that is generally not visible somewhere in the pubic area. I just haven't seen many others that I think look good. Another exception may be some small type arm band tattoo that doesn't look like its gang related. So now everyone can just say that I am an old fart with outdated opinions.