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I second the established group/club route. The ones I went to had theme nights: gangbang/orgy was very popular, and they always had a spot for me as a single guy. It's the one time that they want a few more men than women.

I think we were assuming swinger friends/ friends who know your situation and have participated at some point.

Best thought is to find a swingers club and ask them about arranging something. It might just be showing up on a busy Saturday night or they might want to set something special up but make sure that you ask them first. DO NOT USE FRIENDS (and/or exs). Nothing good will come from that.

There appears to be at least some suggestions otherwise... Correlation between pubic hair grooming and STIs: results from a nationally representative probability sample From the summary, they did adjust for age and lifetime sexual partners, but without knowing the details of that hard to say if this is a good example of "correlation does not equal causation" or not since there are other factors (frequency of condom use, hair removal method, etc.) that don't appear to have been taken into account. Now having said that, I think it's pretty much proven fact that cut/abraded skin is more susceptible to infection, so there's probably something to it. It's just a matter of how much of a risk factor it is, and as we have frequently discussed here, risk is one of those personal things that you just have to evaluate for yourself. I think how much of a factor probably depends too - sex one hour after shaving probably carries a higher risk of transmission than sex three days after shaving. Study seems to back that up with the results for "extreme groomers", "high frequency groomers", etc.

Interesting that before Clair joined us, I was living with a husband and a boyfriend, but didn't think of it as a family, just a woman with a husband and a boyfriend, until Clair joined us. What cemented everything among all of us was when Clair became accidentally pregnant with hubby's child. It was totally unexpected, she cried and offered to abort to keep things right between us, but we were all overjoyed. I/we quickly decided that I would try to become immediately pregnant as well. And pretty much did.

Isn’t this sort of like going to a restaurant and asking if they know of any good restaurants?

Got with a couple of other couples we know last Saturday. Pleasant time had by all.

I am almost 50 and though people will say "she can eat whatever she wants", that is soooo not true, I do have to work at it. However, I work in a male lead technology organization, I remind my male pals that i have not had children and have the time to work out, unlike many mothers with children. (though I do have a teenage stepson that we have 70% of the time) Even my husband will say, I am only comfortable with a non bloated belly, ben gay on my cellulite to reduce lines and dim lighting. My point is I HATE when my girlfriends are going through a divorce and then decide to start taking care of their self, but I also wish and tell my guy friends that they don't care what they look like "-), us gals need a sense of confidence, especially when looking at hot 25 yr old pornstars (that I want to be when I grow up

Two men in you at the same time is not easy. For me my butt is my least favorite opening to have a penis in. I won’t say I never do it, I just rather other things. It wasn’t my idea that we try this. Finding the right position the guys thought was fun. Believe me Google helps a little but it looks easier than it is. And when the guys decided they would change places when the first tries failed I made them really clean and wash first. Then we needed both up and working at the same time. We did have some laughs, at my expense. As Chicc said a vibrator and a penis did the trick. Our friend said he enjoyed feeling the vibe too.

I love DP. But i still Need time to relax... I am still very tight...so it has to be with a lot of lub ... but i love it

thanks everyone! Trace hit it right on. Now that I think back, the other couple (especially the husband) was definitely control freak. But I have to say, at least they were very nice about it.