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you may also try to modify your sexual positions as to minimize face to face contact..think doggie

Sometimes it is better to enjoy what you have rather then chance losing what you have because you want just that much more.

Welcome to the forum. I think you'll find this site is a place for calm reflection on our successes and advice about potential issues with the LifeStyle. In general we're very polite. There are other sites that are more appropriate for harsh language and stories, such as on reddit or ourhotwives.org. To answer your questions, if your wife is interested in the activities you mentioned she will perform them for you. If not, it's her life and body, I advise you not to push her. Best of luck.

Life itself is a sexually transmitted, terminal condition.

Just voted. If you haven’t, go now. Over the years I have been with guys who pull hair (I don’t like it) and had my butt spanked during sex. There is a fine line between a stinging pleasing pain and being hurt. I never want to hurt or be bruised. I understand some people enjoy pain, I don’t. My husband knows just how much pressure he can use. He knows how much to squeeze my nipples, rub my clitoris and how hard to spank. I have never been spanked on my puss. Now I have found that some men enjoy being spanked. Other than my husband there is one guy who really opens up to his sexual desires with me. He likes his butt spanked hard and his junk lightly slapped and squeezed. He says it is difficult to tell others he is with what he likes. I feel special.

This question surfaces at this board with some regularity. Some insights. 1. The question of what is appropriate for kids really depends on the family dynamic generally about bodies and physiology. Some families are comfortable with casual nudity, discussion about assorted physiologic functions and so on. If sex is part of age-appropriate conversation, then sex partners will be part of age appropriate conversation. Eventually the question may come up whether mom and dad have consensual sex with others. Decide in advance whether you will answer or you will dodge. There is some likelihood you will eventually be asked. Bear in mind, kids think of parental sex as "Ewwww". What matters to kids is that their parents are happy and the marriage is secure. We grew up with parents having affairs leading to divorces. Our child has grown up with her parents together for > four decades, yet having 'special' friends. She has plenty of friends with the parents-who-divorced phenotype and is MUCH happier that we are still together. 2. Non-immediate family have no need-to-know. Say what you choose, but remember information can never be taken back. Once you're out, you're out. There are ways to provide accurate yet indirect responses to questions. 3. Friends are something else again. There are again matters of trust. A few friends know, obviously those in the LS, others who have been in the LS, and a very trusted few who want to know why we come back from some of our vacations a lot happier than so many others. 4. Keep private lives out of the workplace. There is one community that NEEDS to know: your healthcare team. The lifestyle has its own issues and risks.

I'll throw my two cents in here. I'm certain to get a lot of angry responses here from people on the opposite side of the discussion. If you want to ensure that you don't have Covid you have to get tested. Given the incubation period from infection to a positive test, you should get tested twice, a few days apart...e.g. get tested on Monday, hunker down until Friday and get tested again. Make sure you get tested at a location where they use the more reliable test. There are some tests that has a false negative rate of nearly 30%. Other tests have an accuracy rate of 97%. This isn't a guarantee that you don't have it since, in theory, you could have picked it up after the first test and not show when you test on Friday. If you want to swing, you should have the other couple do the same thing. With that said, I would recommend looking at what demographic you fall into. The fear baked into the virus is unbelievable. Yes, the virus is easily transmitted. No, the virus is not some sort of super virus that kills at some unprecedented rate. The statistics don't support the fear rhetoric. Locking down the whole economy has destroyed businesses, caused health issues we'll learn about in a year or two (delayed diagnostic tests, delayed starting of treatment, delayed surgeries, etc), run up debts at the city, county, state and federal level that will be felt for decades by taxpayers, set student education back, etc. Go talk to people who are in the medical billing field, especially those who deal with Medicare billing, and you'll learn some eye-opening things. I used to be in that line of work and have spoken with nearly a dozen former colleagues who remain. Do your own analysis as to where you fall in the stats and make your own decision. I read some responses where people aren't swinging because of Covid and others looking for stay within their circle of friends. To each their own.