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I have related our first experience before and I still get excited thinking back to a vacation that was life changing. Our experience also started on a nude beach with couples we met on a cruise. We figured being nude with people we would never see again would be safe and fun. Looking back I had no idea that I would have sex with anyone but my husband. Drinks, laughs and a dare led to a night I will always remember. I didn’t think of it as swinging that night which of course it was.

We were on a vacation at Club Orient, a nudist resort. We met a contingent from a southwestern state who invited us to lunch and explained that they were swingers. We knew nothing about it. One of the couples asked if we wanted to go to their cabin to see their art etchings. We knew it was a seduction move, but we went anyway. We were married for five years at that point, were about 32 years old and frankly it was too much for us. We chatted at their cabin, but chickened out of playing. We weren’t ready. But this incident sparked our curiosity. We went to a local club, Desire, Trapeze, hotel parties, cruises over the years and we became very experienced. The good experiences were fun, the bad ones became funny and we’ve met some great people. I think that there is a different level of communication with people after you’ve been intimate with them. Looking forward to the end of the pandemic!

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So, this is a good story, I think. For quite awhile, my wife and I had been considering opening up our marriage somehow. We told each other stories. One of hers was that she had gone to a luxurious and expensive ‘sex club’ in Milan with her first, Italian husband. She made it sound like a thing out of Eyes Wide Shut, where women would step onto pedestals and pose. Apparently, it was a mixture of ‘normal’ women and prostitutes. [According to my wife, she didn’t do anything at the sex club, just hung out in the sexy vibe with her husband.] So, one Friday morning after Thanksgiving, I suggested to my wife we should go to a sex club, and she agreed. We immediately got on the Internet (a fairly new thing at the time,) and found two ‘Swing Clubs’ in our area. That night, we were at D.J.s Island in Pittsburgh.

No not us either. Until there is either a vaccine or the American people start taking it seriously it's not going away anytime soon.

no. too soon. we have our one friend and we're just sticking to the three of us for now.

Hello, I am the original poster. First of all, I would like to sincerely thank all of you for sharing your views and advice! Just to give you some follow-up... I mentioned to my wife that I had submitted the question to this forum and then we had a good and happy discussion... As to the advice given by Sunday, she fears a club is too sleazy... When she was a gorgeous 18y old (she is now a gorgeous 30 something) she went there with her boyfriend at a time and all she recalls is numerous older men fancying her... I respect her personal view on that... Then, as to selecting a couple on an internet dating site for swingers, a lot of her reluctance is related to Covid. In fact since March (and for a variety of good reasons) we made the decision not to go to restaurants, bars, and basically put our social life on hold until there is a vaccine or real testing. So her objection is: "Why bother to email or whatsapp other couples if cannot meet"... That said, she is really interested in a first "real' date the moment it is possible again. I think that this is a valid reason... I responded that we better postpone the email and whatsapp messages... until there is a real perspective to meet people. And then we discussed the idea of the restaurant, as was proposed by some posters above... She liked the idea... To be continued without any doubt... But thanks very much for your valuable advice!

Like @njbm we also liked to go to nude beaches and resorts (still do now). We both already knew the Lifestyle was a thing, and saw some evidence of swingers on nude beaches but we didn't consider it our scene. One winter while on vacation in Fla we visited Paradise Lakes in Tampa, met some friendly couples, and were invited to an after hours party. We suspected they were swingers so we didn't go. On that same vacation we visited an unofficial nude beach (no longer there) on Sanibel Island and were basically picked up by a local single male and had our first LS experience with him in our hotel room.

We are reaching a generational divide in the lifestyle, so dress according to the age of the women you want to attract. If you want to sleep with 20 somethings, don't wear an untucked Robert Graham shirt with boot-cut jeans, or If you like your women milfy, don't rock a Supreme T-shirt with skinny jeans. Ultimately, men should get in as good a shape as they can. When you are a physically fit guy, women are more likely to look thru your clothes rather than at them. lastly, I've never met a women who didn't look at my shoes upon first meeting them.

Personally, I just don't worry about it. I'm 52 years old. I've been in the gangbang lifestyle since I was 17, and never use condoms. I've absorbed on the average 10 ejaculations every weekend for 35 years. A typical ejaculation discharges about 6 mL of semen. So my body has absorbed 35 X 52 X 10 X 6 = 110 liters (roughly 30 gallons) of semen. Aside from contracting Herpes when I was 16 (which I got from a monogamous boyfriend), I never caught anything. So, as I said, I just don't worry about it. I enjoy bareback intercourse, and I enjoy my life. And don't give me the trite "it's just a matter of time", because 35 years proves otherwise.

When I first started in the anonymous gangbang scene, everyone was bareback. Those were the days before HIV. When HIV hit, we all went to condoms … and something huge was lost. Women are evolved to feel a special little (actually not so little) thrill when a penis ejaculates inside her. The vagina has special texture sensors in the lining specifically designed to detect the subtle changes in hardness, bloating, and texture of the head and shaft of the penis in the few seconds before ejaculation (the so-called “point of no return” when the man feels that he is GOING to cum). Condoms remove those sensations. But the thought of a fatal disease overwhelmed our need to feel that. The result was dulled sensations, men losing erections while fucking, and ejaculations that take longer to get there and are weaker for the men. The real culprit wasn’t HIV, but the condom companies. They would give free condoms to “save sex” advocate groups in exchange for hyping the threat. It was soon discovered that the odds of contracting HIV from one episode of unprotected sex is one in 300, and that’s for the female taking an entire ejaculation in the vagina. For the male it’s more like 1 in 500. When you combine these probabilities with the probability of someone at the gangbang being infected (0.5%), the chances of getting HIV are 1 in 60,000. Finally, when the protease inhibitors were discovered, the risk dropped to near zero. Still, my husband and I were concerned. My sexual mainstay is adult theater sex, where I will take upwards of 25-30 vaginal ejaculations and I want them all bare, but not at the risk of dying. We mulled around the numbers. The probability of getting killed in a car accident on the way to the adult theater is 10 times higher. The probability of contracting hepatitis from making out with a stranger at a bar is 100 times higher. Still, we brought 24 condoms with us on each trip to the adult theater, and usually ran out of condoms before the crowd all were satisfied. Just to show you how “dead” the condoms make it, it normally takes about 40 minutes to finish off a crowd of 30 men at an adult theater. With the condoms it took over an hour to do 24 of them … and I couldn’t feel any of the ejaculations – a huge part of my thrill. Our caution ended abruptly in the early 90s at an adult theater called the Barbwire in Toronto. This theater had two rooms separated by a wall with a gloryhole behind the screens. A woman can fuck through the gloryhole while simultaneously blowing someone else in her room, or getting felt up by 20 hands. It was a great venue for hole fucking because you can bend way forward with your butt up against the wall, and the guys in your room will hold you still. That night the first cock to come through the hole was throbbing. That kind of erection so solid that it does a little bounce with each heartbeat. The head was bloated purple, and there was a stream of precum hanging off the tip. I did NOT want to put a condom on this. I looked at my husband and he just nodded. That cock exploded as soon as it went in me, and that huge thrill hit me for the first time in almost 10 years. When the guys in my room saw I took it bareback up the vagina, the room emptied. They were not running away … they were running to the other side of the wall. And that was it. Never slapped another condom on another cock again. Swingers are very vindictive. I have been called “evil”, “stupid”, “foolish”, “slimy”, and a whole bunch of other names I won’t repeat because of my love of bareback. But I’m 52, I’ve been doing bareback at gangbangs and adult theaters since age 17, and I’m still alive, still healthy … and I’m happy. That’s hardly “stupid”.

At the club we used to go to quickie intercourse was common on the dance floor. It was always done bareback. The ejaculation load was usually taken internally, at least in preference to getting it sprayed all over your legs. At couples parties condoms are the norm. However, bareback is the norm at adult theaters, dogging sites, and gloryholes. It appears the more anonymous/spontaneous the sex, the higher the propensity for bareback. Bareback is sweet. I'm willing to take the risk, but I fully respect others who aren't.