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Things that begin with deception, rarely end well. This is your wife. This is your marriage. Try talking to her.

njbm, I understand your trepidation. However, other people have different opinions than yours. For us, we usually play together, but sometimes we (especially Mary) play separately. We find that there is a naughty atmosphere about it that is subtly different from playing together, even in separate rooms. It can be quite a bit of fun. Also, we often meet single men for the purpose of MFM threesomes. We've become adept at finding out which ones are married, and of those which are cheating. So we don't feel we have to have a 'notarized' hall pass. But, we encourage you to play the way you wish to.

Welcome Youngcouple! Talk it out with your wife. Tell here what you would like and why, and let her talk about her wants and desires. Do so without any judgment, or even any light sarcasm as it can set the stage for defensiveness. Being utterly and completely open can take time, but it's important for a healthy relationship, as well as for a couple who swing. Also; you can't get your wife into swinging. There are LOTS of guys who try and fail for precisely the reason of trying to get their wife to do it. You don't. Instead, you talk and open the door of possibility and give her the time, space, and love necessary for her to make a decision. For my part, that took about seven years, though I wasn't even asking her to consider it as something for us; non-monogamy was just something we discussed from time to time in the context of other people.

I was just wondering how the women here who've done gangbangs felt after their first one. My first big gangbang was with another woman and we had 12 guys show up. It was pretty intense for both of us because we may have overestimated the number of guys we could take. It was really difficult for both of us because we each played with all 12 guys and we both did anal. There were times during that night when we thought we couldn't take any more. Afterwards I had a mix of emotions. I was exhausted but after about an hour I felt a sense of calmness and peace. It might sound strange but I was really proud of myself. What really surprised me was that before the night was over I was feeling horny again and played with some of the couples who had come to watch our gangbang.

My wife and I didn't "find out" about swinging, we just did it. First her getting reacquainted with two exes, who knew that I knew what was going on and approved but didn't know about each other. Then MFMing with them; later dropping them and doing traditional swinging with couples who we hadn't met before. The question now is: Are my wife and I still swingers since we only play within a closed group of married couples? It's all good, but quite different from our previous "true swinging." There is alone play, no condoms, emotions, what feels like dating (not with our spouse necessarily), double dating, and a casualousness to it that has taken some of the excitement away from what was the edginess of my spouse having sex with another man/woman/couple. IDK.

First off let me say I’m kinky af and my wife is a good ol christian country girl.. so I always assumed my fantasy of watching her in a gangbang would never happen. I thought it wouldn’t happen with anyone actually.. until my wife was gone for two weeks on a cruise to Jamaica. Her gorgeous sister was staying with us temporarily and that second night her boyfriend broke up with her.. we had a couple drinks.. talked.. and that was it. The next night tho she asked me to come to a house party with her.. I went.. we got too drunk to drive and decided to stay there. Around 2-3 in the morning it was just her, me, six other guys and the hosts wife who was sleeping. I don’t remember who did it.. but someone put a porno on in the background. We migrated from the kitchen to the living room.. all awkwardly watching porn. My sister in law noticed one of the guys was rubbing himself under his pants.. I don’t know if it was that or the porn but something turned her on. She slid closer to me and put my hand on her thigh. It didn’t take long before I was fingering her and the other guys started to circle around us. We slid her clothes off and laid her across the couch.. everyone had a hand on her, groping her.. my buddy from high school was the first to have sex with her. I kid you not.. this was something out of a dirty porno with everyone stroking themselves over top of her.. my buddy pulled out and finished on her belly.. she didn’t hesitate touching the next guys thing and lining him up.. this went on for about 30 minutes each guy taking a turn.. some finishing on her belly, on on her face and the last didn’t even bother pulling out. Now I’m normally not into this kind of thing.. but she was dripping their leftover out.. kinda gently rubbing it around.. I honestly only intended to finish myself off until she sat up halfway and wrapped her legs around me.. she was BEGGING me to do it and by now I ain’t have the willpower to stop.. I slid into the creamiest, loosest and warmest vagina I’ve ever been in.. I pounded away for a few minutes and when I told her I was about to cum, this girl pulled me closer and told me not to pull out.. it was the largest load I’ve ever pushed out in my life. We slept together that night.. didn’t talk about it for months.. until she text me one night asking me to come hang out. I declined. My wife never found out.. I thought the whole situation would never be brought up again. But a year ago that dirty little B word was hanging out in the city with my wife/her sister.. when she came back the next day she was acting weird/distant.. bugged the hell out of her and she finally told me she was drunk at a party (of course) where her and my sister had a “threesome”. Turns out it wasn’t a threesome tho and she let 3 or 4, maybe even more, guys have sex with her. She blamed it on the liquor.. I flipped tf out.. our trust has been shaken to its core but we still together. That’s the first and the last story I hope I ever have to share on this topic.

That is scary that someone remembers what I first posted. I should be afraid lol? Some told me to tell my boyfriend, others said being we weren’t engaged or married I should not tell him. Some were supportive others thought i ought I was a cheater. I had plenty of guilt. I confessed and it didn’t go well at first. Maybe it was a big mistake, but if you have followed my journey we got married. I still don’t call myself a Swinger, I think of myself as a free thinker and enjoying life without others casting aspersions on my lifestyle. To make my posts on this site relatable I allow the label Swinger. BTW I enjoy most of the posts and responses to my posts. I think on a few occasions I have expressed opinions that some didn’t agree with. C’est la vie.

I think this is a good path. I really don't see any huge danger signs in how things have gone so far. In fact, the two of you's first swinging experience was much more successful than a lot of first tries. People often think that since they have been having sex for decades, so already have decades of experience and this swinging thing no big deal. Nope, It's totally different, and no amount of sex in the years leading up to swinging with your partner will better prepare you for it, emotional wavelength is just totally different. But, I do think you both need time to just sort of process everything that has happened up until this point, talk about it together, and then together decide where you go from here. There's no timeline on when each step of that needs to happen, just let it come naturally.

There just aren't any 'good' signs out there so we don't use any. We've said it before, once there is a secret sign, there will be those who are not part of the group who still know what that sign is, and they will let the world know what it is and who is showing it. Wait, the one thing that we always do with our swinger friends is take our clothes off...does that count?

From a woman's perspective, I like to turn these kinds of questions around. Have you ever been part of gangbanging a guy? Lora, Clair and I have had three-on-ones with hubby, Red and Walter. Getting them to do two of us is not too difficult, but the third erection and orgasm is a struggle. He had to lick each one of us too. None of them have raised any subsequent concerns about being "abused."

My god we just had one of these experiences and it’s actually sad. We brought home a great guy that we casually met and simply clicked. I was in flirty mode and hubby was in chill mode. The guy and I hit it off and we revealed that we swing. He said he always wanted to join a couple but never acted on it so we invited him back with us after a couple of drinks. We got home and things went great. My husband started undressing me and then invited the guy to finish. I like to be the centerpiece, I know he’s dying to see me so I like being in that role. My next move is to get up against him, kiss him and let him touch me while my husband is on the other side. When i ready i get on my knees and do what naughty girls do while my husband gets undressed. Watching a new guy get hard never gets old for me. Once I have his attention, I help him out of his clothes and we stand together. I like being in the middle and feeling them in me. I like feeling their cocks getting hard for me in my hands. While I was rubbing their cocks, I fucked up and pushed them together so the heads touched. My husband never flinched and loves this but this dude jumped out of his skin and went off. We ended up kicking him out - suck a fucking unnecessary buzzkill. I just don’t get it...

I wanted to share an idea for a house party that worked great this weekend. We are always looking for ways to get things started in a fun and natural way. We usually resort to drinks and playfulness in the hot tub or while hanging in our basement. One of the wives had the idea to treat the boys to some fun. We had five couples attended and we set up a makeshift massage parlor in our basement. The idea was to have a handjob workshop. We set up tables and made them comfy for the boys and then projected porn hub and other instructional videos from xnxx on our flat screen. The guys were naked in their backs while the ladies used the videos to try various techniques. The only ask was to prolong orgasms as long as possible so it didn’t quickly devolve. It was super fun, super hot and obviously the guys loved every second. After close to an hour and a couple of the guys finally released, the real play started and we had an amazing night with our friends. We will obviously be switching roles soon. Wanted to pass along as it worked very well for us nd we know house parties can be difficult at times.

as soon as I know he’s cumming I almost always climax as well

Yes - it’s definitely something I enjoy after having a good vaginal orgasm. 9 times out of 10 when we are playing with another guy, we get into a DP session as long as his cock isn’t too big - that does nothing for me. My husband and I enjoy it as well.

When I first became non-monogamous I was having sex with my new love, the man who would become my husband, and my ex-fiance. I was screwing them separately at first, but they both knew about the other and were fine with it. It felt perfect, natural, the way it should be for me, and it made me feel powerful, in control, appreciated. Those feelings continued as I got into MFMing, and being a part-time hardcore Lesbian. I've only been with five men in my life, and still screwing three of them. The most I ever had at one time was four of them: my husband (does that even count?), my boyfriend/ex-fiance, Lora's ex-husband (she left him to join our family), and the guy who Lora, Clair and I share now as a FWB. It all seem "right." Yeah, guys like anal and I like DP, so there was that. I always prefer their cum inside me, so after a guy put his first load in my vagina he could go around back after I sucked him up again. It was good because it was all what I wanted.

I get that - and we are the same. We were with a couple a while back. We full swapped. He was done with me and my husband had made his partner cum twice and still hadn’t penetrated. We laid there watching and I was waiting for him to get hard again with me. It never happened so I joined my husband and the guys wife. My husband ended up giving me the penetration I needed.

Yes there was a point where I was on all fours and one of the guys pulled out of me and slipped his cick inside my ass. After an orgasm or two it felt great.

Mixed emotions after the first one. I was with a previous boyfriend and it was really all about him. We belonged to a nudist club that was very vanilla all day and then completely hedonistic at night. He enjoyed showing me off during the day and introducing me around. I was 24 and definitely got attention. My first involved 8 guys of mixed ages. It started out as a card game with me serving drinks naked. My boyfriend asked how I would feel about letting a couple of them touch me. I was horny as hell from being naked all day so Inwas all in. I sat on the couch and they took turns feeling my tits and rubbing my pussy. Eventually one guy started giving me oral and i was in heaven. As I leaned back a guy started jerking his cock by my face to I took him in my mouth. Another guy added his big cock to the mix and soon I was sucking three cocks. I knew what was next so i got on all fours so they would have easy access to my open pussy. As i concentrated on sucking their cocks I could feel them taking turns sliding their cocks in me. They would pump me hard for. minute or two and then switch. It was crazy, i didn’t look at them I could just feel their cocks in me. A couple of them were bigger than what I was used to - I loves they way they felt. After I had my first orgasm, I could hear them as they moaned and I stared to feel their cum landing on my ass and on my back. One guy was seated so I got on top of him so I could face the other waiting guys. Another guy got in front and worked his cock inside me as well. I was wet and loose at this point so I easily took both of their cocks inside me. I was sucking cocks and taking loads of cum on my face and in my mouth. I was so taken with all the guys and the whole experience that I wasn’t sure where my boyfriend was or if he was even there. Afterwards I felt pretty weird coming back. It definitely rocked my world but it didn’t happen again until I was married. I liked being used and I definitely loved being the center of attention - still do. 8 is bit much, but three or four fun guys is perfect for the occasional slutty workout at this point in my life and relationship.