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I'm certain that people talk about me behind my back, or more likely used to talk about me. The novelty of a woman living (and presumably being intimate) with several other people has worn off. Plus now there are openly the gay guys, the butch Lesbians, the bisexuals, the girls who braggingly tell tales that grown men only used to say in hushed voices. In my own mind I sometimes wonder if I'm the prude; I have plenty of sex, but it's with the same three men and two women. I've only had full intercourse with five men in my life. Lots of teenagers, including girls, have had many more partners than that. At this point in my life I am proud of who I am, so there is nothing for me to endure.

We don't proposition friends but we were once propositioned by friends in our vanilla circle. Years ago (before kids) my wife had a co-worker friend (let's call her Tina) and occasionally we would hang out with her and her hubby. One night the four of us had dinner at their place and after dinner, to our surprise, the hubby put porn on the TV. As if this bold gesture wasn't enough, he announced his wife Tina recently had her nipples pierced and encouraged her to show us - and she did (they looked beautiful). Our 'vanilla' friends had set the mood with porn and now the wife had her tits out. My wife and I had swinging experience. We were active nudists, we had been to sex clubs... yet this moment of being hit on by our vanilla friends caught us off guard and felt very awkward. Even though we were swingers things could have easily gone south then and there. I decided to help and try to save the situation so I said "I think it's unfair that Tina is the only one with her tits out". At that moment all eyes went to my wife. I had totally put my wife on the spot and for a moment i thought she was going to kill me, but after a couple seconds of hesitation she pulled he shirt off over her head and now both ladies were topless at the dinner table. The ice broke, the tension lifted, we began to laugh and flirt and to make a long story short we swapped with them and after that they were lifestyle friends and no longer vanilla friends. But I wondered how they knew. Did they see our profile on a swingers site? They insisted they just caught a vibe and acted on nothing more than that!

Hi all. This is my first post. My husband and I are new to swinging. With his job we are unable to really pursue swinging locally so our options are kind of limited. We do have a second home in another state so we typically try to look there or wait for our trips to Desire. With this, our playing doesn't get to happen like we would like. We have some friends who asked us about Desire and we took them there. Since they are friends we haven't really approached them about the possibility of playing. They have never played with anyone but I do know they are looking to spice up their marriage. They are close friends, but becoming closer. Anyone ever approached this? TIA

Amazing! This is the first story I've ever heard where someone did not have a problem with a contractor. ?

I think my GF just sees her behavior as normal or at least acceptable. When there have been times where another guy or girl was judgemental of her she always shakes it off as "what's wrong with them?" or "why do they even care?" I love that attitude about her. But let's also be honest......... she gets turned on by some people knowing she's a dirty little slut. I know it turns her on that her friends, coworkers and even strangers know.

My wife and I have been open to the idea of emotions and a real relationship developing beyond just a sexual interest in play partners. My wife has had two long term boyfriends that lasted for years. Primarily it was about sex, but in both cases it was a fair bit more than that. She developed emotions for both of them, especially one of them. Though they never shared an "I love you" moment, the feelings were there. This bends more into polyamory than swinging. But, our experiences in swinging helped lead to this. Having sex with new people is fun certainly. It isn't uncommon to run into a dud while swinging. Ok, the sex was alright, but it wasn't great. However, when you find someone with whom you really click then why not keep having sex with them? If you do, chances are that some sort of feelings will develop. Many swingers aren't comfortable with that. Initially we weren't open to that, but as we learned finding a great sex partner was hit or miss so we revisited the idea and made it work. There are sexual rewards for it as well, as a partner learns more about what makes you sexually tick.

I’ve been with 2 sisters and a mother/daughter.

We hear things a lot. I felt bad for my GF because she usually takes the worst of the gossiping and a lot of people at her job know as she is VERY active around the office. But she takes the gossip extremely well (better than I used to) and pretty much laughs it off.

We've asked a lot of our friends. Unfortunately we have had a very low success rate with our couple friends however we have an extremely high success rate with our single (and some in relationships) friends (well mostly guy friends). Approaching this with guy friends is very easy and usually very successful. With a couple it's a little different because you have to get two people on board and the emotions of it are very different. If you're very open about your lifestyle I don't see much of a reason not to approach friends but if you're trying to keep it a secret then friends can be difficult because they know people within your inner circle and might tell other people.

Wow, this thread dates back 10 years? A lot has changed in a decade. Getting ED meds is easy from your doctor. Personally I wouldn't trust most online pharmacies. Why would you when you can get a 100mg prescription from your doctor which now costs a few dollars. Cut the 100s into four 25s and the price is extremely cheap.

Same kind of approach here. We do like to learn a little about potential couples but we're really out to add something to our sexual adventures that the two of us cannot do alone. Adding a couple opens up the MFM, MFMF, FFM, etc. It is much easier to continuously pleasure your partner when there is another couple. Taking a break to watch extends the night for the guys and overwhelms the women with pleasure. Though I would love to create a small group (2 couples, 3 max) where everyone has the same mindset. This way we could open up more areas including bareback sex. We would never go without condoms unless it was with a partners we knew were staying within the group. If a small group was created, I could see some sort of friendship developing. Outside that, we're in it for the pleasure only.

Have you ever been interrupted completely unexpectedly while having sex? Or walked-in on others in the middle of their fun, unexpectedly? Last night, we had the house to ourselves (our youngest daughter still lives with us, but had had a night shift at work), and did NOT expect to be interrupted at all: Our Roomba nudged-open the bedroom door last night, and came in to do our floors without so much as a knock. The nerve of some robots!

We have not got together with anyone else since this covid thing hit and we will not be anytime soon! The lifestyle has always just been something we can do when the right opportunity pops up. It has never been something we can’t live without. We both are very happy to just fuck each other and don’t feel like we are missing out on something when that is all we are doing. When and if things get back to normal in life we will probably step back in when the right opportunity presents itself. We have actually been quite surprised by how many people have messaged us interested in meeting while this is going on. I guess if you don’t have any family members or loved ones to be worried about giving a potentially deadly virus too, because you just got to get some strange then no big deal. We do have family that would be at risk if they got this virus. Easy choice for us.

Sharing my wife has always been the part of the LS that appeals to me most. It's how we got our start and has made for most of our private encounters. As far as being bi... let's just say i am definitely not offended by a little friendly m2m contact ?

We stopped completely through the whole "lockdown" phase here and for a while it looked like swinging would be on hold indefinitely. But as the months got warmer and restrictions started to lift we started communicating with a single male friend who we've played with for years. My wife has been very cautious during this pandemic so I was surprised when she wanted to see him. The three of us agreed on a closed swinging situation - literally only us three - and to keep it so for the remainder of this pandemic. We feel pretty good about it and even if the draconian lockdowns happen again this winter we will at least have the three of us. What I'm trying to advise is shrink your circle, pick your partners, and take a pledge to not play outside the circle. There is no reason that shouldn't suffice to get through another lockdown.

My biggest fantasy has always been having a woman using a strap-on on me. Am I the only male who wants this?

We're into smooth jazz, particularly Peter White.

If it's true, embrace your reputation with pride. Let them know that your husband is a lucky man to have such an attractive and frisky woman. And he knows it as well.

I'm one of the people who usually strongly recommend against trying to make swingers out of friends. I stick by that by still saying proceed with extreme caution if you decide to go forward. But, there are several things going on here that are different than the usual scenario. One, the topic has at least come up some and no big red flags here. Two, you went with them to Desire and that went ok. Three, by many people's definition, you have already had a swinging experience with them - alcohol induced or not, it happened, and no apparent repercussions so it's reasonable to wonder what else may be possible there. I think your last sentence is the key - I can't think of much or anything really in swinging that is better when you rush into it, so just keep going along and see where it leads. Also, I'd try to leave room for a graceful retreat on both sides should you take a step too far, that way a "no thanks" doesn't have to mean feelings of awkwardness and potentially the end of the friendship.

Good point. I'm thinking our lifestyle fun may be limited until my husband retires. LOL Then we won't worry so much.