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I think it is up to your wife to say how this should go. You say you are fine with her doing this, you need to get all the questions answered before going further. What are your thoughts on leaving her alone with two strange men? What are your thoughts on watching her with another man? Not to be overlooked is you being with another naked man. Are you generally jealous? Now ask your wife if she can enjoy herself knowing you are watching. Honesty is paramount. Unfortunately neither of you will know how you will react at the time. The first time bringing someone into your sexual life is a major decision.

One Lifestyle couple we know got into swinging bc the wife was a serial cheater. She admitted to having six separate affairs in their first year of marriage. It wasn't bc she didn't love her husband she just had a supercharged sex drive and probably a sex addiction. To her husbands credit he realized the Lifestyle may provide her what she needs and save their marriage and it did. Now they have been married 20 years.

Yep. After a shower

Has access to real, live play partners deminished your interest in porn? It has for me.

A safe way to approach is to ask a non-committal question like "have you guys heard about swinging" or "what do you guys think about people who swing?" The reply might be anything in the range of "people who do that are destined to burn in Hell" to "we have sometimes wondered about that." Your line of questioning can go from there. If you perceive a positive view you can work around to "we are swingers, your know." You'll need to feel around for what happens next.

We would have them over for dinner or drinks. Mention our trips to HEDO II. If there seems to be some interest, my wife would take the other women to the bedroom and try on some of her sexy dresses for her, if there is still more interest wife and maybe the other woman would come out and model for us guys. We take it from there.

We're a younger couple and have no kids so maybe it's just easier for us to ask. Our feeling is if they are really our friends they won't be judgemental about it and most people haven't been.

I can see this ending in about 5 ways.....4 of which are disastrous. We had drinks with a couple at a bar in our small town. They are swingers as well. It was supposed to be vanilla but after a few drinks......we also know the bartender, who called our adult kids and said your folks are down here. So that ended that. The only other local swingers we know are also friends. We have drinks quite often but never played with them.....in highschool my wife babysat for the female. We go to a larger town to play. We have no clubs in our state so when we go to a club it's a long way from home.

My wife told me she would never marry a man who won't rim her ass. Thankfully i enjoy doing it, and she isn't afraid to return the favor.

Looking forward to the real thing at our club, porn and webcams don't pack it.

Personally I just couldn't sit there and watch...... for any length of time anyway ?

Yes it has. I watch porn much less now than before.

We've played with our neighbor as a single woman for most of a year now. Her (now) ex-husband was a chronic cheater and eventually people sat her down and showed her the receipts. Before the pandemic, she was on all the dating sites and having a great time. We were careful to avoid her being seen coming and going at sketchy hours to avoid gossip, but there was no hiding what was going on at her house. One day, the nosy widow caddy-corner to her stops me while mowing her lawn and says, scandalously, "you know, there is a different car at her house every weekend". I did not point out that I knew she'd banged the ex-husband herself. Seems to me people who gossip a lot are often trying to preemptively damage others for fear they, themselves, will eventually be revealed.

My wife and I definitely enjoy playing together, but we also enjoy playing separately, even alone one on one. The biggest reason that we do it is simply because it's easier to arrange. There have been many times where it is one couple and one of another couple having a threesome because one of us has to watch our collective kids.

My wife and I were active in the swinging lifestyle in the 2000's. We stopped for a variety of reasons; chiefly savvy teenagers (we had 4 at the time), a company-related move, and ... too many people just wanting a notch on the bedpost. Seriously, many couldn't even complete a sentence. For these couples, "taking one for the team" was their mantra. We have recently re-entered the lifestyle again now that we are empty nesters. We are/were not looking for a polyamorous situation, but we wanted a level of trust before putting our faces between someone else's legs. To us, swinging is/was a way to meet people with similar views regarding sex. However, we also wanted to be able to be seen in public with these people. Couples who cannot carry on a conversation, do not care about their appearance - no so much weight as personal hygiene, clothing, etc., or have manners or etiquette are a huge turn-off. We do NOT jump into the sack with anyone on the first meet-up. We make/made that very clear in our bio on the various websites. In a Lifestyle club, we will flirt, converse, watch and be watched. In a "normal" situation or location, we treat any potential couple as the newly introduced people they are. 90% of the vanilla dates people go on, are because of a mutual interest - concert, comedy, kids, whatever. Meeting up with a lifestyle couple is exactly the same. Said another way, a mutual interest will get you a date, after that, YOU have to keep the interest going.

Honestly, my interest in porn, sex and swinging is diminished. I think this whole virus contagion thing has diminished my interest in intimate contact.

In 1983 my wife and We rented the video, “The Opening of Misty Beethoven” Misty screws a hot guy with a strap-on on screen and my wife wanted her own strap-on. A week later I was on all fours losing my anal virginity to my wife. Strap-on play became part of our sex life.

I love it... I start drooling when I see a nice, juicy ass... lol... so fucking amazing to spread a pair of ass cheeks and dive in tongue first.... its unbelievably HOT...

It worked for us with a former colleague of Mrs Doc. She came to visit us in Fla, they talked about all kinds of things while floating in the pool while I was working, including our hobby, and Trapeze. On the 3rd day, I got a call from my wife reporting that they were naked in the pool and I should get home asap. We had a great afternoon and evening which included the friend sending pictures of the 3 of us together to her boyfriend with the invitation to, as she put it, "get your ass down here". He did, we all played, we took them to Trapeze and introduced them to the club. We got together several times after that week here or in Pa. Eventually, their relationship failed (not related to swinging) but she continues to visit and is likely coming again after Memorial Day. We were very fortunate with this friend but by and large, we'd urge caution in trying to "turn" friends. On the other hand, you said you took this couple to Desire. The genie is out of the bottle, I see no harm in asking if they're interested in exploring further.

I am going to make a prediction--virtually all the replies from the experienced and the wise members of this board will tell you "DON'T DO IT!" They will tell you the potential risks are just too high and too predictably unfortunate. They are the voices of experience and reason, they will be right. Maybe there is a contrary view? What if your "close friends" have as much to lose from disclosure of these activities as you do? "Close friends" don't always stay close and can become estranged, so don't ignore that potential--guard against blackmail by knowing that you are not the only ones at risk. Affairs involving sex are risky, even with just two people, but life would be boring and not rewarding if everyone was unwilling to take the risk. Whatever you do, keep us posted.

Quite similar to my to ideas on the theme. Mrs Z is quite capable of pointing it & guiding it in, and us others present get to watch how much time she takes moving it about before she decides to send it in the right direction.

I remember our having tried this. I must confess I wasn't very good at it. In fact, it was a bit comical when I failed to aim it into the right spot. Mrs. Alura said, "Oh, never mind, Darling. I'll get it." She took over. I knew she had been successful when she gasped. I happily turned my attention to Mrs. Playmate and kissed her giggles away.

Sabrina – you’re right, women have a greater chance of certain infections because of the “injection” of bodily fluid from the male partner. Also, men have the advantage of sharing the sex tube with the pee tube. So peeing right after sex can help clean out a man, but not us. And douching is no good because it can actually push the semen past the cervix. Dodgechevy – You sound like a great couple. It’s great that you put thought into decisions like this instead of either jumping without thinking, or being inhibited without thinking. And it’s awesome that you discuss it as a couple beforehand. You asked for advice, and allow me to throw my two cents in. First, most likely the reason your wife seemed so aroused by the thought that you went bareback is because SHE wants to. She viewed you “breaking the ice”, and that excited her. Contrary to what men think – women hate condoms too. I cut my sexual teeth in the 70s, before HIV. At that time, condoms were thought of primarily as a form of birth control. Since all women involved in alternative recreational sex were on the pill, condoms were considered a joke from a bygone era. No one used them. No one even considered them. When HIV was discovered in the early 80s it was confined to the gay and IV drug communities, and again the heterosexual (swinger and gangbang) crowd wasn’t concerned. The condom companies then went on a huge media blitz hyping the problem beyond it reality, and even giving the impression that condoms are “cooler” than bareback. In the late 80s I got caught up in the scare and began using condoms. I hated them. They took a huge thrill out of the whole thing. I couldn’t feel the texture and shape of the penis inside me, nor could I feel the ejaculation squirts. Also I could “feel” the weakened intensity for the guys. The penis wasn’t feeling the full power of my vagina, and that translated into a less eager cock. It also took the guys longer to cum and, although many women consider that an advantage, at the adult theater/gangbang venue the serial cumshots is more valued than the actual fucking. I abandoned the condom one night at an adult theater in New York that had four rooms with gloryholes. A cock came through the gloryhole that was rock solid, the head was bloated and purple, and there was precum on it. I looked at my husband and he knew exactly what I was feeling. He just nodded, I put my backside against the gloryhole and I slid my vagina over it bareback. After a year of not feeling that “magic”, there it was … and it felt glorious. That was 20 years ago, and I’ve been bareback ever since. It is risky, but we all take risks in the name of recreation. Bareback sex is a lot less risky than mountain climbing, sky diving, or white water rafting – all recreational activities. And yet, no one would ever criticize a mountain climber for taking risk in the name of recreation. How risky it is? Well, let’s put it this way. At an adult theater I can get typically 15 men, and about half of them come back for seconds. That’s about 25 cumshots. A typical male orgasm ejaculates 6 mL of semen. 25 X 6 = 150 mL. That’s more than ½ cup of semen per visit. I do this about 3 times a month. That’s 450 mL per month = 5.4 L per year. I’ve been doing it for 34 years. Thus, I have absorbed 184 L (48 gallons) of stranger semen inside me in my life so far … and I never caught an STD of any kind. That should put the risk in perspective for you. To answer your specific questions, the way we “bring it up” is to not bring it up at all. At a swinger party or in a foursome, when things have been sufficiently heated up by preliminary foreplay-like activities, my husband will slide his bare penis up and down between the woman’s labia (after making sure she sees it’s bare). If she asks for a condom he gets one no questions asked. If she shows no trepidation after he dips the head in for a second, then he’ll push it all the way in … and the rest is history. I do a similar technique. I will take the guy’s penis bare and put the head on (not in) the opening. If he backs off and reaches for a condom, fine. If he pushes in … the rest is history. At an adult theater, gangbang, or through a gloryhole, I simply refuse to use a condom. At an adult theater I’m bent over my husband’s lap and don’t see the men at my backside. My husband is my “gatekeeper”. If a guy comes at me with a condom, my husband will reject him. But that’s rarely a problem since 99% of those guys go bare by default. Do you ask for medical proof? Absolutely not. First of all, people lie about things like that. Secondly, the medical tests are only good the day of the test. The next day he/she could have picked something up. I, like pretty much everyone who gets tested, only get tested at my annual physical. Third, if you only play with couples that get tested (most don’t) that will greatly limit your play pool. So the bottom line is to weigh the risk/benefit equation as it suits you. No one can tell you where that balance lies for you.

I would love for my guy to take the other guy's cock and rub it around my pussy and clit and then guide it into me. We talked about this after our last MFM and it was one of the things that we plan for next time we swing. We both think it will be a great turn-on!

We believe that if ever swinging with first-timers, it's a good idea for the female partner of the guy with the active penis and the male partner of the lady with the active vagina should BOTH guide the active dick into the opposite partner's pussy. This confirms that everyone is cool with the situation but (more importantly) is also a major turn-on to all concerned - that is assuming that neither of the guys is homophobic to the point of finding it impossible to touch another guy's dick or have his dick touched by another guy, even if only to put it inside his wife/girlfriend for the first time. At the end of the day, a penis is made up of exactly the same material as a finger and a guy won't hesitate to shake another's hand. It don't mean a guy would wanna suck it any more than he'd suck the other's finger. Yup. Bring it on. Major piece of foreplay!

I'm a woman who has guided my husband's cock into another girl. It was HOT HOT HOT to me. I know you were asking men, but thought I'd share anyway.