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Just asking for a friend, but what kinda of thoughts pass through a woman's mind as she is giving a man a blowjob? Are you concentrating on the moment, or do you find your mind wanders while your down there?

We've been in a lot more foursomes than threesomes, and our threesomes are mostly really better described as a foursome with one taking a break. But, do have some experience there. We've seen it both ways where all three are equally and actively involved, and also where it's mainly two with the third sort of just in an auxiliary role. It's usually been more like the second example. With a foursome, there are different ways of doing it, same room, separate room, two sets of one on one, all four involved in more of an orgy, and all shades of gray in between. We've experienced all of those, and I don't know that one really felt any more or less "apart" than any other way. When we were new, we leaned more toward separate rooms. That's the opposite of most folks, but it's all about what you think will work best for you as a couple, and there's no right or wrong answers. Your concern about the "taken from" feeling kind of makes me think that maybe separate room wouldn't be the best choice for you starting out. Rather, same room with two sets of one on one would still give you some visual connection and also feel a little more comfortable since you are still in each others presence. Then once you've got a little experience under your belt and are more comfortable that swinging can be something you are experiencing together even if physically not in the same room together, then if the separate rooms things is something you want to try, could always give it a shot then. May like it, may not, it's all good, everyone has their own swinging style. Honestly, our best swinging experiences were freeform and covered everything above in one evening as two couples just flowed from one thing to another depending on what each person's mood was at the time. Orgy foursome to threesome to one on one in separate rooms to threesome to foursome one on one all on same bed and so on. That takes couples who are familiar with each other, so probably not going to get one of those freeflowing marathon sessions right at the start with a couple, but it's definitely possible once you have spent some time together and everything has gelled. Whatever you decide, wishing you the best of luck! We're happy to have you here with us as members, and hope you'll stick around as a permanent part of the community.

Gator, swinging is what you make of it; any particular encounter can be what the three or four or more of you want. I see your point about the threesome. I've been in many an MFM with my wife. But in any configuration, there are moments where two people are enjoying each other and the third is only mildly involved, or simply watching. I have fun watching my wife with other men, but I wouldn't call it 'personal.' In foursomes, again, it's what you choose it to be. Most of the time, yeah, it's usually two sets of one-on-one, but there are times when all four are together. Now that I haven't really answered your question . . .

It happens plenty at mainstream swinger parties...just usually behind closed doors. Unless there's a night dedicated to it like the monthly "Pan-demonium" at a local one here where it's out in the open. And a couple other sex positive clubs where pretty much anything consensual goes.

I agree. If the "Member Since" date is more than six months and there are no pictures, I sort of immediately feel they are fake, don't bother with them. If we're contacted by a newer couple, we'll ask them to share 'G-rated pictures, if you wish to blur your face we're okay with that.' If they don't want to (or have 'technical' issues,) the chances of us meeting them are slim.

It's part of the set, when you tongue a hot chick's ass and hear her moan in pleasure, you'll know it shouldn't be avoided. With her on top, you slide the tip of your finger in and watch her eyes roll back, you know you're doing it right. I've definitely had women cum from anal. My ass? I don't like it, if a chick makes a move in that direction, I'll politely stop her. Most women get the fact that most men aren't really into ass-play and they don't persist. But the attempt is hot, it means they got no hang-ups!

The OP asked the question about having found your furure spouse in a swinging situation, that somehow meeting in the context of both having casual sex with others at the time is romantic, unusual or something. I'd say it happens all the time these days, not in a swinging situation, but just about every every couple who gets married had met when they both were screwing other people.

We've experienced both of those things. The single males it's clear what they are up to. When it happens like you describe with a couple, then we usually consider that 1) single male posing as a couple, 2) actually a couple, but the husband is acting like a single male and just wanting to perv some pictures. Just seeing some pictures isn't enough bait to get us to show ours if we don't have any interest. Even on contacts we initially think we might have interest in, we usually let it go back and forth a little bit to confirm that there is some true interest there before opening our pics.

Personally we believe love is a good thing. How can more love be a bad thing? Most of our play these days is with one single male. He and my wife sometimes date 1 on 1 and have even spent a couple weekends away together. Is there love there? Yes of course. But a woman's heart has room for more love. I don't worry about it ruining our marriage because nobody is making her choose.

A post that I recalled from long ago because it strikes me as romantic, and found it again.

I don't want to put my mouth in the doo-doo zone. I wouldn't expect anyone else to do it, either. I guess precautions can be taken to clean up, but it is not very appetizing to me. Fingers and sex organs, OK. Mouth, not for me. Enjoy away if you like it.