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it's just nerves and they will subside as you get more accustomed to these situations.

Historically the term “cuckold” was general parlance for any man whose wife cheated on him. It carries with it an implicit notion of humiliation, because he’s been deceived by his wife who has been having sex with other men without his knowledge (much less his permission.) The term infers that a woman, and her sexual availability, are the property of her husband. Hence, the term “cheating” as a synonym for infidelity — the notion that some thing of value has been unfairly taken. These notions make little sense in today’s world, where women as well as mean are seen as having sexual agency, but the term does persist. The term “cuckold” is generally used a bit differently in the lifestyle, specificity in the context of “hotwifing”. For several years I played now and then with a couple who operated a “hotwife” website. I got to know a fair amount about that segment of the lifestyle community playing with them and other hotwife couples. My interactions with these couples were nothing more or less than the MFM interactions often described on this board. Within the hotwife community there is a specific subset called “cuckold”, characterized by the husband/BF being degraded and humiliated verbally and sometimes physically (having to tend to the refreshment needs of the wife and the other man, or orally clean up their juices) by the wife and or other man, who is often referred to as a “bull”. I’m disinterested In either of those roles, but for those men who are into it the humiliation is highly gratifying. So, NerdsAreFun, you may choose in the context of communicating within the lifestyle community to refer to any man who in a three-way permits another man to have sex with his wife as a cuckold, but you will risk others seeing you as lacking broad knowledge of the lifestyle.

So some casual vanilla aquaintances have been persistent about getting together so we agreed to have a drink with them. They are a couple. Recent empty nesters like us and were sort of insistent about getting together at our place. Ok, but this has us both thinking: Did they see our swinger profile online and are they feeling us out? Did they choose our place because, although we blur faces, we have a lot of photos in our photo galleries that clearly show our kitchen and living room and that would help confirm their suspicions? Does this stuff go through everyone else's mind all the time too?

What if you tried a soft swing threesome with your wife and another woman? Less pressure to perform, your wife is there for comfort and familiarity. Baby steps. My wife and I often like people to watch us. But I can be easily derailed by noise and talking. Last year, we were in a huge play room on a swinger’s cruise where people were grunting like elephants and neither myself nor the other husband could maintain an erection, so I can relate. Your difficulty is a common one. I think experience and Viagra will prevail in your favor.

Where is your true focus when with another? I never lose track of my marriage, but when playing with another I try to maintain the boundaries of my universe at the edge of the bed.

For my wife and I, and as far as I can tell for the rest of our group as well, it doesn't matter what any other one or two people are doing with someone's spouse, so long as the spouse is enjoying it. My observation is that each pairing or threesome has its own ritual, groove, or whatever you want to call it, and the dynamics can be entirely different from other couplings or threesomes. Someone needs to write a grant proposal to study it all.

I can be dense sometimes. My wife is better at picking up on this stuff but I don't remember any overt gestures from them. I think we don't. But I have thought that before and been wrong. We sort of have a rule where playmates should live about 1 hour away and this couple is much closer. And God we hate when people talk and talk til the wee hours and don't know when to go home so we hope that doesn't happen.

Separate play may help with your focus (if the other couple is on board) or try having your wife get you hard if the erection is flagging. Alternatively, have an mfm threesome or two to get used to the idea of having sex in front of someone other than your wife. This super common when you start out.

They can definitely take more sex. And the more sex my GF has the more she wants.

As described above, there are lot's of ways to explore this lifestyle. But, his question is about their first experience. My advice is to keep it simple. If you bring in a single male for a threesome - there is less pressure on you to perform. Ideally, you and your wife have a good experience to build upon. If not MFM, maybe a soft swap with an experienced couple who is patient and willing to go at your pace. Get a couple good experiences under your belt and go from there. One thing, rarely talked about is that the first swinging experience can be pretty overwhelming. There is so much sexy input - your brain can go 'tilt' and your erection may go on vacation. Get yourself acclimated to being naked with others and seeing your spouse have sex with someone else, without the need to perform. Once you are comfortable - sky is the limit.

My friends do not know. Pretty much for two reasons. 1. I don't want to explain it. I am 100% straight. I don't want all the questions about why I'd want another man to have sex with my wife. It's a desire I cannot explain 2. I like to keep that world away from my vanilla world and I don't really want my friends looking to sleep with her.

Was 12 got felt up by a boy I thought was cute, found Dads porn stash had a good look through. Read stuff and watched a few of my brothers videos. I was already masterbating regular When at 16 met my first boyfriend and that really started my education, I know now he was a pleaser and helped me discover what things got me off. In turn it made me what to better please him. Then the last part came from my hubby before him I could never come from vaginal sex, I still don't know how he unlocked it but now I can pretty much come with every guy. Plus hubby made me love kissing, I wasn't a big fan before him but wow he changed that.