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Update: they are apparently just a normal vanilla couple who want to get to know us better. No overt gestures were made. This is just another example of the thought process of swingers. Every time some one seems friendly and wants to hang out we're always like "Do they know?"

The attorney that wrote the wills, etc. for our family told us flat out that one does not usually want to divide things equally among your children. One may already be out of college and working, another not having even started. One may have special needs. It makes lots of sense among the adults in our family as well, Clair is our stay-at-home mom so we each give her 20% of our total earnings. One of us may need some extra loving, time off, or attention from time-to-time, so we provide that as well. Equitable instead of equal.

I have to wonder about the concept of equal. I tend to think in terms of sufficient and satisfying. These vary as work load and life vary.

Playman64 gave me a "Like" on this post 11 years after I made it. Things have changed - my desire has gone up, the guys have gone down, and I have to share them with two other women. That's why we share a boyfriend now, to take up the slack.

For my wife and I, and as far as I can tell for the rest of our group as well, it doesn't matter what any other one or two people are doing with someone's spouse, so long as the spouse is enjoying it. My observation is that each pairing or threesome has its own ritual, groove, or whatever you want to call it, and the dynamics can be entirely different from other couplings or threesomes. Someone needs to write a grant proposal to study it all.

I guess what's allowed evolves over time and with comfort levels. We talked a lot about boundaries before our first experience.. Started off just wanting girl on girl with boys watching. That evolved to OK with touching, to what about oral? OK, maybe. Full swap? Definitely not. Actually in our first experience, we dived in head first and maybes become completely fine and now we're talking excitedly about full swapping when we get the chance. Kissing is clearly a funny one. I'm not OK with it (Mr), I think Mrs would be. For me, even before I joined the scene I always drew a clear distinction between just sex with girls, and on one night stands often didn't kiss them. But for making love to someone I have feelings for it's very much a sensual part of it. So, to kiss another feels way more intimate and 'loving' than just pure, albeit naughty sex. Also, I think it's nice to have something that's reserved for just us and if we do full swap, what's left? So we will be, no kissing (the boys, girls together.. Anything goes). Also don't come in her mouth.. I want that just for me. Condoms are a must for health reasons but I can see myself being less bothered about a guy coming in my wife than kissing her. Different strokes for different folks I guess and maybe some of those boundaries will drop away in time too. Time will tell and its going to be fun finding out! ?

it's just nerves and they will subside as you get more accustomed to these situations.

On 10/12/2020 at 10:19 PM, GMOFLEISURE said: I heard there were Yankee pitchers that swapped wives. ———— Yeah, I find a recalled that. So checked the internet and found a story on ESPN.com recalling the 1973 family exchange. Here’s the lede and the link to the whole ESPN story “The strangest trade in baseball history occurred on March 4, 1973, when New York Yankees pitchers Mike Kekich and Fritz Peterson held separate news conferences during spring training. Their announcement: They had traded wives. And kids. And dogs.” https://www.espn.com/blog/sweetspot/post/_/id/55522/throwback-thursday-wife-swap

I heard there were Yankee pitchers that swapped wives.

Same here. For us it recreational sex. As long as everyone is good there isn't much we won't try. We aren't really into anal Mrs ID doesn't care for it, but I will do it if asked. It's just not my 1st choice.

Neither my wife nor I consider anal anything special. We occasionally do it between us, if she's had her O's and I feel like it. With our swing partners within our group, I've had anal with all of the wives, but hardly ever do it now, I'm just much more a pussy guy. My wife does it more because some of the other guys like it.

My bf is quite overprotective of our relationship to the point of being possessive because he is aware that "secondaries" in a poly setting are sometimes regarded as "throw away" partners. I try as much as I can to make them equal but it is just logistically impossible in terms of time. Unless we all move in together in one place.

When Laura and I were swinging, our "play-dates" were all about fun. We laughed, joked, and giggled. Laura was particularly adept at making the most audacious remarks, putting us all into hysterics. It wasn't an atmosphere that fostered something serious like love. Once, while doing a well-endowed fellow, she said, "Ohmigawd, Darling! I've felt cocks in my throat before, but never from this direction!"

I was in a relationship with an experienced lady lover who demanded pleasure. If I came prematurely having vaginal intercourse she would push me down below the sheets and make me go down on her to lick up my come and tongue her to orgasm.