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Like many of you, we've grown completely fed up with quarantining and decided it was time to step out of our voluntary social isolation. We've been breaking quarantine by visiting naturist (nude) beaches. We reason they provide the ideal opportunities to break quarantine without any meaningful possibility of exposing ourselves (or anyone else) to COVID-19, yet still provide a sensual, relaxing, and welcoming environment to socialize with like-minded couples and individuals. With a part-time residence in SW Florida, we are fortunate to have access to a handful of legal naturist beaches available to us within comparatively short drive times. Currently, our favorite location is Blind Creek Beach on Hutchinson Island, a barrier island located immediately south of Ft Pierce, Florida, on the east coast. Although Blind Creek Beach was an "unofficial" nude beach for many years, just recently it was "officially" sanctioned as a clothing-optional recreational area by local authorities. Unlike so many of Florida's other beaches, Blind Creek Beach is very under-utilized during most days, especially during the week. Note this is not a commercialized area. There are no showers, lifeguards, or concessions. There are a couple of portable toilets at the entrance to pathway to the beach. If you happen to live nearby or plan on visiting the area, please let us know. We're interested in making new friends with nice couples and singles. Unfortunately, we are not ready to immediately resume playing at this time, but we'll be "first in line" for the upcoming COVID-19 vaccine and plan on returning to our normal activities as soon as practicable. Stay healthy and safe, Andrew and Ann

I have posted previously as to my wife’s and my interests in the swinging community, the more we talk, the more forward it seems to move. We are discussing our wants and don’t wants in the beginning. It all generated more questions.... 1. Is it acceptable as newbies to just observe in the first experience? 2. In the event, we want to Pursue this life style it’s not like you can dial up the local chapter, how do you get introduced? 3. Is there a “sponsor” (lol, sorry) in the beginning? We both realized this is complicated on many levels, any advice is certainly welcome.

Here is a slightly different approach to consider. Take a vacation to Hedonism 2 in Negril, Jamaica. Hedo is an all-inclusive resort in a beautiful country. While not inexpensive to stay there, all food, alcohol, water sports (scuba, sailing,, kayaking, snorkeling, etc.), and entertainment are included. There is no tipping. Once there, the only things you pay for are the spa (massages on the beach, manicures, etc.) or what you buy in the gift shop. A medical marijuana dispensary has recently opened, which is cash only. You can use your medical marijuana card if you have one, or get one from the doctor for a small fee. There are clothing optional pools and a beach where you can wear swimsuits or be topless, or be nude, whatever you prefer. And there is a nude beach, nude pool, and nude hot tub. There are various room categories based on location and how updated they are. The staff is wonderful and works hard so everyone can have a great time. The climate is almost always perfect. We've been told that it has the highest rate of return guests in the industry. We'll be going for our 22nd time soon. Hedo can be whatever you want it to be. The main rules are "Respect" and "No means No". It is really an adult playground, but there is no pressure to do anything you don't want to do. On the other hand, there are opportunities to fulfill various sexual fantasies from watching to being watched, soft swapping to full swapping, or group sex. You do not need to be in the lifestyle to have a great time at Hedo. We have met awesome people there from all over. It could be the best vacation of your life. The downside is you'll want to go back again and again. Good luck!

I'll reply directly to a couple of your questions. The first time you go to a swing club, it is perfectly fine to be 'observers.' And this can take a number of patterns. You'd be perfectly welcome to find a quiet corner, perhaps in the bar/dance floor area, and simply watch the goings-on; that in itself would be a very interesting night. Or you could move around, talk to people without any intention of doing sexual things - you'll find some, if not most, willing to open up and give you some pointers. The thing to avoid is to be a fly on the wall for a long time in the common area where people are having sex; this can be a little creepy. Oh, peek in and see the bodies writhing, but just don't camp out there. As far a finding a 'sponsor,' there's a couple of ways to do that too. First, if you find a couple you like in that first night at the club, let them know you'd love to continue the chat; if they're willing, trade contact information. Or you can PM someone here on this site and ask if they'd answer your questions. Best of luck!

Look around and see what is available. For us it was chatting on SLS and a local group that hosts hotel parties and meet n greets. That will get you into the pond. Ultimately it will be networking. People you meet , and perhaps just talk you , will introduce you around at that or subsequent get togethers. It took a few times for people to get to recognize us as "real". After that the process feeds on itself. Be patient it may not go as quickly as you might imagine, or fear, set your expectations to low and your boundaries well within your safe zone. No matter how little is accomplished at first it is new to you and should still be thrilling. While it is correct to say that this is not, predominantly a hookup site, there is nothing preventing a respectful private message to someone that you find interesting. Most of us will be happy to spend a bit of time talking with newbies,and helping them get their feet under them.

This site is more for discussions, less for finding partners. Check SLS, SDC, etc.

The approach of letting your wife decide on how to start would certainly send the right message to your wife that she is in control and you will make it fulfilling for her. It's all about her comfort, so ask her (without trying to tip the scales) what experience she finds most comfortable. It may be a same room or separate room couples swap, an MFM with you participating or maybe just being there, or maybe even an FFM if she has some Lesbian desires. You need to not only let her decide which arrangement she prefers, but also choose the person/people involved. Hubby let me be non-monogamous on my terms with no expectation of reciprocity. I appreciated it tremendously, but it took me two years before I wanted him to play. He was/is a very wise man - it work out well, including for him. ?

Some experienced swingers get annoyed at the club scene if there are too many people there who are 'tourists'; not really swingers (or not yet anyway) and just there to watch. You might find yourself being regarded as such if you go to a club. Or, you might not. There's really no way to know. To get 'introduced'; njbm's advice is excellent. Get profiles setup. Don't have one line answers to common questions on them. Also, as njbm noted, there are hotel meetings, meet and greets, etc. in vanilla settings where swingers get together to meet, with no on-site play. This can be a little less intimidating for a first time. But, as njbm expect you might get some invitations. No, there's no sponsor. If you're lucky, you might find a couple that's willing to help you learn and understand the lifestyle. Such a couple might be happy to have you watch. I know that my wife and I would be willing, but I don't know that many couples would be. Experienced swingers want to swing. When we got started, we did meet up with a wonderful couple who helped answer a lot of our questions. We never played with them or in front of them (or they in front of us). You are talking a lot, which is great! My wife and I spent about eight months talking swinging through before we actually got into it. We thought of all sorts of scenarios, questions, etc. We kept looking into things, finding other people's stories, etc. and this forum REALLY helped with that. We eventually got to a point where we had talked over everything we could think of at least a few times. It was time to jump in, and we did. Our first experience was a very enjoyable soft swap. Welcome to the forum! Ask us any question, and we'll give you honest answers. We're a helpful bunch here and will be happy to help.

Your best bet to meet people is to post a profile on a lifestyle site like SLS, SDC, AFF and a couple of others. Pick one or two that are popular in your geographic area. Other couples can contact you or you can contact others. You can agree to a vanilla meeting, where you just meet and talk with no sex anticipated. The sites also list hotel parties and other events. At these events, it may be easier to hang back and observe, although you have to expect invitations to participate. Few people watch or get watched, some people have soft swap (oral, as I understand). Most full swap (intercourse). I think it’s an interesting adventure. Enjoy the ride and don’t do anything either of you don’t want to do.

Most likely the same thing guys think about when giving a woman oral.

Kissing is the way to start sexual play and the icing on the cake to finish the session.

Totally inside. I HATE condoms. Worst thing that ever happened to sex. And on this subject, what I hate even more than condoms is the hypocrisy surrounding their use. Swingers (especially swinger men) profess openly how adamant they are about condom use. They openly criticize anyone who even so much as hints a preference for bareback, they call barebackers “stupid”, “dangerous”, “ignorant”, and a variety of other words I’m sure you’ve all heard (and probably used). But … get them away from their wife and they ALL go in bareback if the woman takes it that way. At swinger parties when the guys notice that I’m taking it bareback, they wait for their wives to get occupied in another room, then make a bee line for me. And these are the same guys that pontificated and lectured about the “stupidity” and “recklessness” of bareback. I never actually tell anyone not to use a condom. If a man reaches for one, I never tell him not to. But I never have to. During the “approach” to intercourse I’ll simply put slide bare cock between my labia. If his wife is right there he will back up and reach for the condom with an annunciation like “oh … just let me get a condom” like a B actor trying to make sure the last row hears his only line in the play. But if his wife is out of eyeshot, those hips push forward and that cock is in the guts bare. And this is by far the general rule – rarely is there any exception. Hypocrites!