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My two cents on sildenafil (Viagra) is that it doesn't make you bigger but it eliminates the issue many men face in the lifestyle. When there are multiple people in a room, some men get in their own heads and cause performance anxiety. When a guy starts thinking 'oh no, it isn't getting hard', it exacerbates the problem. Then, spiraling out of control into a terrible situation...your partner is having a blast, the other husband is having a blast, the other wife is frustrated, you become temperamental and the night could go off the rails. Taking a small dose of Viagra provides the safety net for some guys. I've watched guys in their 20's drop a 100mg Viagra. That seems nuts to me. For the most part, a 25mg dose is enough to provide assurance that you'll perform. This also keeps side effects down. I don't recommend anyone take prescription drugs if they don't need them. However, if you're looking to take it, always go with a small dose to see how your body reacts. Most guys I've talked to take 25 - 50mg (get the prescription for 100mg and cut them down, since the cost is the same for 25mg and 100mg).

Rules should be looked at as a fluid thing, allowing change and modification as time goes on and things change. When we started out, we had dozens of rules - some silly (in hind sight). We even started out with the 'no kissing' rule...this lasted one night before we realized it wasn't needed. We had a soft swap only rule for awhile, but as we went forward, we removed that rule as well. Keep in mind, I used to be a very jealous person and never thought that I would be comfortable with watching my partner with someone else, but the communication we kept having, jealousy has never been a problem. So, make all the rules that you feel you need, but remember that they can be easily changed. Just remember, don't change rules when you are with another couple - changes can only be made when only the two of you are together talking about previous activity. Always move at the pace the slowest member is comfortable with - no pressure and no stress. Most important is that you are doing this TOGETHER as a team and if it isn't fun for one of you, then stop doing it (or don't move forward any further). This should be something that you are doing for and with each other. Enjoy it together and if you aren't, then just don't do it. Good luck and let us know how things progress.

That is one First Post! I wonder what made you post this odyssey on a swinger forum and not a marital problems site.

It's interesting. When our daughter was growing up, we had casual nudity around the house and an open door policy except when mom and dad were having mom and dad "private time". As she grew up, the reasons for the mom and dad "private time" became understood and acknowledged. She decided to come home after college a decade ago, live with us and save money. Same rules still apply, and apart from a bit of 'ew' factor on her part, it still works. Granted, we are not quite as frequent as we used to be. On the other hand, she finds it reassuring that mom and dad are still having sex -together!- long after her friends' parents are divorced, deceased, or simply disinterested.

We've noticed the same thing but realise its just the current 'fad'. In the past its been swinging, hotwives, then rough sex, then MILFs/Cougars and now incest. Not a fan either but give it a few weeks and it will move onto the next fad.

Most of our friends are on the younger side 26-45 and I don’t see many problems with ED but I do know some of the guys have used pills at our get togethers, including my husband. I think it makes the guys think they are bigger, harder or go longer. My girlfriends and I have even told guys how much bigger they are. I never believed anyone was bigger but I would agree just to agree. Are they harder? Maybe but at our age most of the guys who come to a party or even a small get together can get pretty hard from the get go. Refractory time differs without taking pills. As for going longer my observation is not scientific. We have friends that are quicker than others. More than a couple might finish too soon. At one of our after game parties last year, where many of the guys had taken whatever they were taking, I was approached by someone who I had been with before. Someone I would consider a friend, a great guy and someone I enjoy as a person. I had played with him a few times and he always apologized about timing. His wife has thanked me in the past for dealing with what she lives with. I assured her I am fine and she is lucky to be married to a great guy. He approached me with confidence and a smile. I would say I thought he was harder, he never had an erection problem. My unscientific conclusion about going longer, it doesn’t. Does it make you bigger? No. Does it make you harder? Maybe. From what I know the pills increase blood flow and helps erections to men who otherwise have that problem. If it makes a guy think he is bigger, harder and go longer, good for them.

If it wasn't for "Daddy's little helper" the little blue pill no way I could go more than once a night. I am surprised at the number of guys that would never use them. Or admit to using them. I really REALLY like sex and would try nearly anything to achieve that goal. TBH I have MS and it causes neurological problems by itself besides being older than dirt ?.

What my brain is thinking or my little head?

I'll chime in. Everyone involved in swinging tends to agree that communication and trust are two key features to a successful swinging life, and it sounds like both are a little lacking. You have to open and honest with each other before you can introduce another person into the picture, otherwise your fantasy would become a nightmare. I take issue with the fact that she seems to be sneaking sexy behavior with all different characters, and then getting defensive about you snooping. It's not the sexual nature of the acts that are problematic. I would find it sexy if my wife found the confidence to share a few sexy pictures, but she would be open it (maybe even have me take the sexy photo session or at least share the product of said photo shoot ). It's the sneaking and then the defensiveness afterwards that makes this a red flag issue.

I've noticed the same thing, seems like it's everywhere now on the ads, some more extreme than others, but commonplace. My theory too. Seems like the skinny teen stepdaughter approach is way more prevalent than the busty stepmom strategy though ? Shooting for the guy who pays the credit card bills I guess, and not the son's that are just on the account.

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You are surely correct. Let us expand on what we meant. Five years ago, we were on a lifestyle cruise and had the pleasure of dining with three other couples including John and Jackie Melfi (of OpenLove101.com). The conversation was wide ranging and, as it eventually does in many swinger gatherings, turned to each couples' journey into the LS. What followed was the more unusual question of why any/all of us stayed in the LS, and further decided to spend the money to travel to Europe and board a river cruise with 100 or so other LS couples. The conversation quickly transitioned through play/have fun to being at ease around like-minded others. Jackie went on to tell her story--you can listen to some of it at their website--of her introduction to the LS. She enumerated a list of contrasts in values and in accepted/acceptable behaviors. She concluded by acknowledging the dichotomy: not real world versus fantasy world but rather two real worlds with different expectations and different values and different behaviors. She felt that in the LS she could be more of her authentic self, where authenticity is somehow measured as the proximity between the normative/acceptable behaviors and what feels "right" in one's own schema of what matters and what is important. That conversation was transformational for us in the sense that it changed the way we experienced the balance of the cruise. Maybe it was that night or a night later in the cruise, we took off the theme night outfits, put on our robes, and wandered down to the pool, about a 15 x 20' pool that was turned up to hot tub temperatures, late October, roof open to the stars above. There were maybe 15 other couples down there--some playing on the lounge chairs on the surrounding deck, some soft play in the water, some just relaxing and chatting, and one or two ladies just sitting on the edge just sipping a drink and soaking up the atmosphere. Everyone nude, of course, except the staff that was happy to serve those adult beverages (in safe plastic containers of course). In due course, we retired to our stateroom. As we drifted off to sleep, we reflected on the level of respect, absence of tension, and comfort everyone seemed to have with the experience. It was spontaneous and not contrived except with respect to the cruise itself. It felt, in many ways, at least as authentic as when we greeted many of those same couples at breakfast and on the shore tour the following morning. The tour of course, has an entirely planned itinerary, experience, and timing. That did not make it any less satisfactory. But it served to remind us of how vanilla life has norms, structures, and expectations that are different from the LS.

Bless you as I have no hope in the near future. My home was built in 57 and even if we were to use the guest room downstairs the sound caries via the duct work. She is NOT quiet during sex so... we wait. Enjoy yourself!

My daughter Has spent the lockdown in our apartment in Manhattan, but was with us at our home 100 miles north of the city for about two and a half weeks late last month and early this one. The guest room downstairs was unavailable because it is being used for storage, so was in the bedroom across the hall from us. Early the lockdown, starting in March, my wife and I were having sex at least once a day, as orgasms helped her deal with anxiety around the SARS-CoV-2 virus. Lucky me. ☺️ it was lovely in many ways having my adult daughter with us, but my wife is unable to stifle her loud vocalizations when the cums without also diminishing the power and enjoyment of her orgasms. The upshot was that we didn’t fuck once in the time my daughter was there. (I can be a quiet cummer when I need to and my wife likes to be ejaculated on — below the neck — so I kept the edge off my horniness by jerking off on her, but she was happy for the privacy when my daughter went back to the city.)

I will try to express my thoughts when I am playing. Part of our excitement is Michael watching me with a new partner which has led me to enjoy the whole process of my time enjoying the finding a willing man to go back to a room with us. This is all pre-pandemic. It doesn't always go to plan, I enjoy a man who lets me please him. From undressing him and seeing his dick for the first time, I want him to relax. Michael says I get very intense when I first see a dick. Does size matter? Not really except when I notice it’s big. After the initial contact I want the man to feel I am the best he has ever had. I sense what he likes and makes him groan or moan. Every man reacts differently, some are happy to be pleased some want to reciprocate. I will normally concentrate on pleasing more than being pleased. I vary sucking with licking. Some like more licking and everyone loves a deep blowjob. My main thought is pleasing him.

Most likely the same thing guys think about when giving a woman oral.

Hypothesis is that most traditional porn genres aren't very taboo anymore, so they go further to try to compete. Figure 80% of the audience ignores the story anyway, so they can call the busty MILF anything they want to reach the 20% who very specifically needs it to be their busty stepmom without alienating most of the audience. Then there's those of us who both pay attention and are weirded out by that niche that get left on the curb.

Cialis vs. Viagra quick comparison Cialis (tadalafil) and Viagra (sildenafil) are phosphodiesterase-5 (PDE5) inhibitors used for treating impotence (erectile dysfunction, or ED). Vidalista 20 is another brand name of tadalafil. Common side effects of Cialis and Viagra that are similar include flushing (redness or warmth of the face, neck, or chest), headaches, stomach pain or upset, flu-like symptoms (such as stuffy nose, sneezing, or sore throat), memory problems, muscle or back pain, blurred vision and changes in color vision (such as an inability to differentiate between the colors green and blue), dizziness, diarrhea, nausea, low blood pressure, abnormal ejaculation, and prolonged erections (priapism), loss of hearing, and ringing in the ears. One difference between the drugs is how long they stay in your system. Cialis provides penile hardness (the ability to obtain an erection) over a longer period than Viagra (Cenforce 100) because it lasts up to 18 hours, while Viagra only lasts for about 4 to 6.