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True for us as well. Both the men and the women prefer that they are in our vagina, or second our bum, for a while for mutual enjoyment and to finish there.

Our start of swinging followed a day at a nude beach while on vacation. I never considered that the visit to the beach was me being an exhibitionist. It was something new to do while on vacation and doing it with people we just met and figured wouldn’t see again. Looking back it was more voyeuristic, and what I saw outside of the group we were with is a site I would love to forget. Having sex in front of others is a thing I hated hated hated when I first did it. You ask why I did it, maybe pressure. I had just slept with a man I just met, my first ever since married. I know it was done with fun in mind, did I say I hated it. I went along because the night before was wonderful. My new lover was a different man that next day. He was being an exhibitionist and not a lover like he was. I also saw my husband enjoyed watching. The next morning almost ruined everything that I enjoyed before. I still don’t think I am an exhibitionist, I hate to be considered an exhibit instead of being a person enjoying others. I have become more accepting of sex in front of others while still making love privately. Some will say swinging is something we should do as a couple, I say swinging is allowing each of us to enjoy sex with others.

I agree with most of what has been said above. We've had a few experiences with single women. For us, in each case it started with a legitimate attraction and friendship. Our first was actually with a vanilla friend who knew we were sexual and she simply asked if we would be open to it. It was wonderful. So, my advice pertinent to this discussion is to be politely open about your sexuality and opportunities will arise The other times have been with women we met through an adult dating site. Each time, it was after a couple weeks of chatting back and forth, getting to know each other, and seeing there was mutual attraction, affection and a safe feeling. SO, here, my advice would be not to rush things. Single women have tons and tons of choices... its really helps if you legitimately like each other and can connect non sexually as well. At least that is what we've found

My wife Mary is an exhibitionist. She enjoys putting on a sexual show for me when we have MFMs, or for others when we're in a suitable situation, such as a foursome where I and the other wife are done and she and the other husband are still going. Or in orgies. She tells me that being watched is very sexy for her, and that in and of itself is all the rationale I think is necessary. When we are in a naturist situation, on a beach or at a coed spa, she is not an exhibitionist. In those places she realizes men are gazing at her, but other than simply being nude she does little to whet their appetites. Me? I'm a naturist, but not an exhibitionist. Having people watch me during sex neither heightens my libido or turns me off; the presence of other people has little impact on me. On the other hand, I won't wear clothes if I can get away with not wearing them.

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I don’t like to have cum on me, I just don’t get it. To me unloading on my body or my face or worse yet my hair is just a way for guy trying to make me feel subservient to him. It is also messy for me. To have sex the ideal situation is for both to have orgasms together and for me that is usually with me on top. I’m not sure what position most couples at a party use, I find there is a lot of doggie and for me there isn’t much simultaneous orgasms. Depending on the guy some keep going and some pull out suddenly and finish on my back or butt. What I enjoy has changed but swinging brought on change too. As much as I enjoy having my partner in me, I also enjoy oral. I enjoy being in control and never had a problem giving a great bj. A dick twitching and a guy moaning and for the most part enjoying the cum.

For us and the couples who we play with, it's inside the woman. Pussy is first choice, her mouth and anus are close seconds. How else are you going to get sloppy seconds?

Monogamy actually means this: "state or practice of having only one husband or wife over a period of time" so it really has nothing to do with sex unless you take into account an unspoken assumption that you only have sex with your spouse. You might also notice the time factor is not defined so I can be monogamous with my wife, monogamous with someone else's wife for an hour or so and back to monogamy with my wife again Based on that I would answer we are monogamous. In fact we are "Serial Monogamists"

It's still perfectly relevant today. People are far, far more taken aback at the idea that a married person is playing with permission than they are with the idea of a married person cheating. Cheating is more socially acceptable than swinging. I've seen this first hand.