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I find beauty in many faces and bodies. I love women of all shapes and sizes and colors. A woman who is horny and wants it is hard for me to ignore.

Normally I don't quote things from this far in the past, but PSULioness I know you're currently active. I remember in high school there was a classmate of mine "Sarah". Sarah was incredible. Truly incredible. She was beautiful, talented, intelligent... I had the privilege of being a stand partner with her in band for a year. I was dating someone else in band, so I never made any attempt to date her...not that she was 'in my league'. I got to know her pretty well, and she was just an amazing person in general. One day after school, I was heading to my locker after a club meeting. The school was mostly empty...it was more than an hour since school had let out. As I turned down the hallway for my locker, I could hear Sarah talking with someone in a classroom. I couldn't make out the other person's voice, but I knew Sarah's voice perfectly well. She was complaining to this other person that her breasts were too small. I was dumbfounded. Here was this amazingly perfect young lady whom I know every guy in the school thought was incredible...and she was able to find fault with herself and focus on that fault, to the exclusion of everything else (not that it was a fault in the first place!). PSULioness, as with many people, you appear to be your own worst critic. The thing is; none of us get to decide if we're attractive or not. All we can do is put forth our best foot. The rest is for other people to decide.

The idea of my (or her) temporary partner is in a relationship isn't a big part of it for us. We do enjoy foursomes, quite a bit, but it's not the relationship status, it's the idea of four interested and willing partners having fun. When my wife has a gentleman friend, with or without me present, the only issue is jealousy on the part of his SO, should there be one. If there's a possibility of his wife being hurt, we won't go through with it.

What is 'attractive' and 'unattractive' about people tends to change as you mature. When we were young swingers we only played with the other young hotties at the clubs but soon realized it gave us a narrow view of the landscape. today we are more attracted to humor, confidence, poise, wit and a nice smile. People who, regardless of their appearance, are comfortable in their own skin are attractive to us.

Although I like missionary best, I can orgasm fastest when I am entered from behind and he's gently playing with my nipples. But that's with one guy; if I'm in a threesome of either type there's other even better arrangements.

You are 1000% correct. The beauty of this forum is I can share my deepest thoughts anonymously. Sometimes it’s just stream of thought. Yes I am my worse critic, my ideas of beauty are always change. I do compare myself against others who I consider beautiful. Strange thing is that since I have joined this forum my ideas of other’s beauty has changed. My husband has always said my breasts are perfect, and then we would see a bigger breasted friend and he would say wow. So many think women with big breasts have that wow factor. I then hear anything over a handful is a waste. I hear friends complain about being too big, having to always wear a bra, backaches and then I feel better that I don’t have those problems. I have friends who have big butts and I say to myself, yeah you shouldn’t wear what you are wearing. That doesn’t mean I don’t wish my butt had a little more roundness. Is it strange that I have admired a well shaped bottom in men and women even though not in a sexual way. If you read my posts you know I am self conscious about myself. I have written about my genitals, something I have only shared with my husband, I prefer a friend with a larger clitoris, as he does too. I prefer smaller breasts or as he says says, itty bitty titties. I know I may sound superficial, I do find myself attracted to a certain type before getting to know them. Once getting to know a person many many many times my thoughts change. I know deep down I shouldn’t judge in looks. For myself I sure am happy others don’t just judge on looks LOL. Am I self deprecating? Yes!

Beauty is only skin deep, there is a whole lot more people, getting intimate can be illuminating, especially over time.

We belonged to FetLife long before we joined SLS. Ironically we generally don't mention that unless the other person(s) say something first.

Probably a good idea to track on spaghettimodels.com as well. We’ve been here on the Gulf side for about a year and that’s my go-to site for storm tracking.

You sound very good.

All people are beautiful. I have had a lot of amazing partners that have always been extremely attractive. Since I am bisexual I have a lot of friends who are both women and men. A lot of them are also very open with their sexuality and we have attended numerous parties together. We have formed and amazing bond through all these years so when one of my female friends decided that she was not feeling herself in her own body and wanted to become transgender we have been very supportive. We talked with her and helped her mentally and financially. We found an clinic not far from her home town that did these types of surgeries that she required. I was honestly surprised that so many clinic did it actually but she ended up using the services of a smaller clinic. They did her FTM top surgery Bellevue being an amazing spot for people who want to go ahead and start the process. They have been very sweet and helpful. Honestly she loved it. Or should I say he loved it. He finished all the procedures by now and we are still amazing friends.

Fetlife is free. Any kink you want is there. Lots of groups to join within the site

I don’t think it is a good idea to address the anxiety about a threesome with weed or alcohol. That’s ignoring the concerns and sets someone up to perhaps question their involvement. Once you are fully on board I have no problem with either in moderation to help relax in the moment.

For me it's more the other way around, it turns me on that some other women is having sex with my husband or boyfriend. Or to a lesser degree, that a man or another woman is having sex with Clair or Lora. I've posted many times that jealousy has never gone away for me, but now it is my friend; my addiction.

I can imagine it's a bit of a fantasy thing for some people. For me, I'm like you; that the woman in question is married or not doesn't make much of a difference to how attractive I find her.

Nope. There's no 'type' identifiers for swingers. All shapes, sizes, ages, backgrounds, histories, etc. Some years back, a close friend of the family began exploring consensual non-monogamy. He told us about it, so we told him about us being swingers. He was absolutely floored, did not expect it at all; "YOU?!?!? NO WAY!" :) You never know. Even if you think you know, you don't.

In my short swinging life the people we have been with are a cross section or just people we know. When I was friends with them in school I would say some were more attractive than others. I thought of some as good looking. I am thin, wider hips and small bust. I have a pointy nose and pointy chin. I have a flat butt. I know it’s strange but naked I don’t like myself. Since playing with other girls I don’t like my down there. I don’t like sloppy people. I don’t seek out partners. I am usually pulled into playing. If a guy I don’t find attractive approaches me I can’t say I have ever said no, I just don’t get enthusiastic.

All women are beautiful, it just takes a man a little more time to realize it about some women. My wife and I swung, if the woman had physical attraction I was immediately drawn to her. But often I came to enjoy the 'average' woman just as much or more. Personality is the key.

Thank You

Ed here-- Let me guess, all your software is pirated, you have the cheapest computer you can find, and you steal all your music and most of your movies and you think tipping isn't important. Sorry, I'm off topic. But to request free sites on a site that works hard to provide value, mostly at no charge, is a bit disingenuous.

What is wrong with Swing Lifestyle ? Membership is FREE and the limitations that are imposed on Free members shouldn't deter you from your search or joining. You are however limited in the number of profiles you may view everyday

After 25 years of being happily married I have found many means of communication that work. Maybe in this case if you have already tried talking to her you should write her a letter. Try not to go off on many topics...stick to the issue at hand. I usually put the letters on my husband's steering wheel in the morning and he reads them prior to going to work. The car is quiet. There are no distractions. I never make the letters confrontational, only expressions of feelings. I also make sure that I place many positive comments in the letter as well. I wish you much luck.