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There is nothing like taking a wife back to her husband with a pussy or ass full of cum, and leaking down her thighs.

we are bareback swingers. we have a steady male playmate who gets tested regularly as do we. if we take on any one new we refer them to stdtest.com and meet once they have paperwork in hand. if we went to a club (not happening these days) then it's condoms.

We were on a vacation at Club Orient, a nudist resort. We met a contingent from a southwestern state who invited us to lunch and explained that they were swingers. We knew nothing about it. One of the couples asked if we wanted to go to their cabin to see their art etchings. We knew it was a seduction move, but we went anyway. We were married for five years at that point, were about 32 years old and frankly it was too much for us. We chatted at their cabin, but chickened out of playing. We weren’t ready. But this incident sparked our curiosity. We went to a local club, Desire, Trapeze, hotel parties, cruises over the years and we became very experienced. The good experiences were fun, the bad ones became funny and we’ve met some great people. I think that there is a different level of communication with people after you’ve been intimate with them. Looking forward to the end of the pandemic!

Kim & I would only play bareback unless the other wanted condoms. Loved watching cum oozing out of her as I pushed in. Makes great anal lube also.

I like the thought of having a living part of a man, or better several men, in me for days. There have been times when I've had four men in one afternoon/evening - my husband, my boyfriend, Lora's boyfriend/husband/now ex, and our mutual FWB married guy. They all came in my pussy bareback, but one or two had already ejaculated in Lora or Clair, so I didn't get the full "load" from all of them. Didn't do any DPs those times since the other women were there, but I did give anal as a reward for good performance. ?

I learned about swinging back in 1998. My family didn't have the internet yet. I was 18 and going into a porn shop for my first few times. There were swinger's add magazines on the shelves. One was called Bayou Swingers. This was south Louisiana, and I knew a lot of people in the region. I bought the magazine to look at wives, and see if there was anyone I knew. There was not, unfortunately. The ads were from Beaumont, TX all the way to Pensacola, Florida. A lot of the adds resonated with me though. I wanted to get with those wives, but I also envied the husbands and wanted to be married to a woman that had cravings for sex with other people, especially well hung guys. Really, if I look way back, reading Penthouse stories a few times in my younger teen years might have played a role, especially in my fascination for size queen women, but I can't really remember any of those stories being about group sex. Definitely, the stuff I read from the porn store had stories about husbands watching the wife though.

While we don't believe that swinging with friends is a good idea (at all...the risk/reward is way too high), it sounds like they are in the same boat as you...not knowing how to move forward. Best way to approach this is to just ask. Usually, this is best accomplished with either just the two women or two men in private. You know, the 'hey, have you ever thought about...'. If it is a hypothetical question, then it doesn't mean that you are really asking, just posing a 'what if' and you always can back out if the response is one of shock or surprise. Bottom line, if you can't TALK about sex, how are you ever going to get over that hump that leads to sex (best Bevis and Butthead impression: ha, ha, I said hump). First, consider the risks (knowing that all your mutual friends and family may find out what sex perverts you are) if things go wrong...and not just now, but later down the road if their relationship breaks up, and if you are good with accepting that risk, then bait that hook and cast that line and see if the fish are biting. Good luck and don't forget to report back.

I recommend the option of going to a club, watching and being watched for a first experience.

I think both of you are on the same page and neither of you want to be the one to say what is on your mind. You are nude, talking sex, even had some touching, you aren’t teens wondering how to make the first move. The same conversations you are having, they are having. You already have so much in common, you already have a good friendship, you already have had sex talk, why not go to the next step? They are friends, what can happen? They could say they aren’t ready yet and you can make a joke or really be honest and say you understand and let them know the ball is in their court. Let them know there is no pressure and you will not bring it up again. If they agree to go to the next step let them set the ground rules, you can always add to the rules if you want. I wish our best friends gave us a signal as loud as your friends. Our friends are as vanilla as any couple, I think. I can only imagine how great it would be to add another dimension to our relationship. If only they gave us a clue or tiny interest in having fun, we would ask. Mr. S2P has said he would be willing to give a hint, I have asked him not to. They know we go to a nude beach and they never asked to join, maybe if they did we would give other hints.

My wife and I definitely enjoy playing together, but we also enjoy playing separately, even alone one on one. The biggest reason that we do it is simply because it's easier to arrange. There have been many times where it is one couple and one of another couple having a threesome because one of us has to watch our collective kids.

I have no objection to other people playing separately if both spouses agree. It’s just not our thing. Part of the fun of swing is both partners having fun. We understand different strokes for different folks. Some people are cuckolds, some people find it exciting to know their spouse is off getting laid. We have played in separate rooms at house parties and it is fun.

njbm, I understand your trepidation. However, other people have different opinions than yours. For us, we usually play together, but sometimes we (especially Mary) play separately. We find that there is a naughty atmosphere about it that is subtly different from playing together, even in separate rooms. It can be quite a bit of fun. Also, we often meet single men for the purpose of MFM threesomes. We've become adept at finding out which ones are married, and of those which are cheating. So we don't feel we have to have a 'notarized' hall pass. But, we encourage you to play the way you wish to.

I reread the bbarnsworth post and he did say the wife had consent. I am uncomfortable with spouses playing alone. Just feel part of the fun is playing together. I also have skepticism about hall passes when the “consenting” spouse isn’t there. Notarized hall pass?

I've no idea how I first became aware of swinging. I've been aware of it from at least a young adult age. It was, on the odd occasion, the subject of snickering conversation among friends, and never something I would have ever thought for myself. Fast forward some years; I had a very nice woman working for me at a company. She was attractive, and I'd always thought of her as so, but she was my employee and married. Two giant massive red flags there; there was no way my brain was even going to begin contemplating that. Then she quit, left town with her husband. I was single at the time, and looking for dating sites (this was somewhat early days of the Internet) and stumbled upon Adult Friend Finder. Out of curiosity, I signed up...and then by accident found a profile that matched her. I wasn't absolutely certain, so I reached out to her in private email and sure enough it was her. She was not terrifically experienced in non-monogamy either, but she was much further along than I, who had zero experience. We had a lot of email conversation over the next many months, and then she came back to town with her husband to visit some friends. We got to spend some hours together, and we had sex that day. Door opened, and door walked through. So, that was my introduction to it. I think my wife new about swinging, but it was very far away from any sense of her doing it. When she found out I had had sex with a married woman with the consent of her husband, she was horrified. It wasn't a deal breaker, but she made it very clear she didn't like the idea. She'd felt I'd contributed to this woman breaking her marital vows (tow which I responded "How can that be if her husband consented?"). The subject would come up from time to time, with my wife continuing to disapprove. Then one night she (who loves massage) noted it would be nice to have two men massaging her at once. And with that snowflake started the avalanche. ~8 months later we were having sex with other people.

My wife and I didn't "find out" about swinging, we just did it. First her getting reacquainted with two exes, who knew that I knew what was going on and approved but didn't know about each other. Then MFMing with them; later dropping them and doing traditional swinging with couples who we hadn't met before. The question now is: Are my wife and I still swingers since we only play within a closed group of married couples? It's all good, but quite different from our previous "true swinging." There is alone play, no condoms, emotions, what feels like dating (not with our spouse necessarily), double dating, and a casualousness to it that has taken some of the excitement away from what was the edginess of my spouse having sex with another man/woman/couple. IDK.

That is scary that someone remembers what I first posted. I should be afraid lol? Some told me to tell my boyfriend, others said being we weren’t engaged or married I should not tell him. Some were supportive others thought i ought I was a cheater. I had plenty of guilt. I confessed and it didn’t go well at first. Maybe it was a big mistake, but if you have followed my journey we got married. I still don’t call myself a Swinger, I think of myself as a free thinker and enjoying life without others casting aspersions on my lifestyle. To make my posts on this site relatable I allow the label Swinger. BTW I enjoy most of the posts and responses to my posts. I think on a few occasions I have expressed opinions that some didn’t agree with. C’est la vie.

I too didn’t think of my first threesome as swinging. I didn’t think of my playing with my bf and my girlfriends as swinging. I didn’t even think of me going to a party as swinging. I say that even though I googled having a threesome and it brought to the swingersboard. Not sure how I found this site before I realized I was swinging.

I have related our first experience before and I still get excited thinking back to a vacation that was life changing. Our experience also started on a nude beach with couples we met on a cruise. We figured being nude with people we would never see again would be safe and fun. Looking back I had no idea that I would have sex with anyone but my husband. Drinks, laughs and a dare led to a night I will always remember. I didn’t think of it as swinging that night which of course it was.

Like @njbm we also liked to go to nude beaches and resorts (still do now). We both already knew the Lifestyle was a thing, and saw some evidence of swingers on nude beaches but we didn't consider it our scene. One winter while on vacation in Fla we visited Paradise Lakes in Tampa, met some friendly couples, and were invited to an after hours party. We suspected they were swingers so we didn't go. On that same vacation we visited an unofficial nude beach (no longer there) on Sanibel Island and were basically picked up by a local single male and had our first LS experience with him in our hotel room.

So, this is a good story, I think. For quite awhile, my wife and I had been considering opening up our marriage somehow. We told each other stories. One of hers was that she had gone to a luxurious and expensive ‘sex club’ in Milan with her first, Italian husband. She made it sound like a thing out of Eyes Wide Shut, where women would step onto pedestals and pose. Apparently, it was a mixture of ‘normal’ women and prostitutes. [According to my wife, she didn’t do anything at the sex club, just hung out in the sexy vibe with her husband.] So, one Friday morning after Thanksgiving, I suggested to my wife we should go to a sex club, and she agreed. We immediately got on the Internet (a fairly new thing at the time,) and found two ‘Swing Clubs’ in our area. That night, we were at D.J.s Island in Pittsburgh.

Cowgirl with him sitting on the couch, reclined. Something about that position is just great for both of us. Second would be him standing and me on my back on the bed, pulled all the way to the edge with my feet on his shoulders. Granted this one ALWAYS results in the bed getting moved across the room (but then so does just about any sex on my bed).

There should be a section for 'anything but missionary.' That would have been my wife's answer.

We agree condoms suck, but we do not have intercourse with others without using them! We are in the lifestyle for fun. There is nothing fun about STI's.

Do not understand why anyone would play without a condom unless they are in an exclusive relationship with periodic testing. You can't diagnose a STD from talking to someone or liking them. As I said previously, condom > STD. But some would not swing,will perform oral without a condom. Not judging, just surprised so may would play bareback!

We don't use condoms with each other. We are married for over 31 years.

We swing periodically, but we both use condoms for intercourse at all times. We hope to avoid STDs. I do not understand the theory that because you've had sex with someone several times, you can thereafter go bareback with them. How do you know about the other people they are doing? I hate condoms. They inhibit my erections and sensations. But I hate STDs worse.

We swing three or four times a month. It is Jo's decision as to where her partners cum but she prefers them to cum inside her because that is the natural way for a couple to finish sexual intercourse. We will go bareback with partners we trust which includes the couples we swing with on a regular basis. Jo will allow all her partners to cum inside her using condoms with new playmates.

twistedpretzels, the search can be long and hard to find just what you're looking for. You have high standards. That's not a bad thing, it's a GOOD thing, but it does mean it's going to take time to find just the right fit. It can be tricky, but it can be done. There are plenty of polyamorous triads, quads, and quints out there. The Alternatives to Marriage Project might be of some interest to you.