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It was over 5 years ago that we swapped the first time and I let another man finish in me. Reading through this old post brought back a memory that has changed how me and my husband play differently since that day. I am sure every woman has experienced the dripping out after having sex. We have all had that telltale wet spot we have left. We always had a box of Kleenex next to the bed to wipe away before going to clean up. If we had a second go at it, before the cleanup, it had always been with just snuggling and possibly me helping with the second erection. That very first time, my new partner, after making love to me, remained in me for some time. I remember how different and exciting it was and how nervous I was lying in bed with him in me knowing my life had changed that night. Then he did something my husband never did, as he was lifting himself out of me, instead of getting a tissue or towel he went right down and started cleaning me with his mouth. It’s funny, just last night I had to remind my husband after now doing that same thing to me, that he never used to do that and that it took me telling him how much I liked it that first time for him to do it. When we take our time it has now become very much part of our love making.

What I love about your posts is that you always talk about making love. You keep going back to your first Lover and how you enjoyed that first time. You also found out one of the great things about swinging, you learn about things you enjoy that you were not doing. We have met many couples that are finding their way through the maze of swinging including many new experiences. Some couples don’t want Mike involved, and some the husband just watches. Some insist on condoms and I am good with that. For the most part I don’t feel the difference til the man cums. “Swimmers” is just funny to me, nobody feels sperm swimming. You experienced something many men won’t do. Women are more apt to go there before cleaning up. My thought is most women have tasted cum many times. One of the games we play with couples new to having the girls play is to have the other woman clean me after their husbands cum.

I always feel shy after bf filled me up and is still dripping out with cum when I get home to SO. I clean up thoroughly before leaving. But bf will fill me up again. So now I understand that he appears to be loving it too that I get home wet. ?

Maybe sometimes. My wife and I drive a two-seat roadster that has a registration plate that reads WE PLAY. That two-word combination would mean very little to a person not swinger. But a couple saw us sitting at a bar and came over to ask, "do you drive that car that has the WE PLAY plate?" They were swingers and that hint allowed them to make a good guess. The make, model, and color of this roadster provide, however, no hints.

Seems more like a spectrum. At the low end odds are the mini vans. Kasidie seems to have Jeep owners at the higher end of the spectrum. Chevy pickups skew higher while Ford F 150s trend lower. Mercedes can go either way. Bi-Mercedes. One could make a case that all wheel drive is an indicator. 4 wheels going at it...

Probably a good idea to track on spaghettimodels.com as well. We’ve been here on the Gulf side for about a year and that’s my go-to site for storm tracking.

Thank you for the on the ground update! We have good friends who live in Cape Coral!

One of the many things I like about this forum is that you are not necessarily going to get the answers you want, but the answers you need to hear. With that spirit in mind, and understanding I am in no way meaning to convey any negativity against you or your wife; I feel the lack of discussion about what each of you doing or has done is a non-starter. There are very few couples that make this work, and for good reason. You are inexperienced in this lifestyle. You're basically giving each other a hall pass to go cheat, but with permission. Imagine the insecurities that can develop, the jealousy in wondering if the other has had sex with somebody recently? This is a very real possibility. Further, most swingers approach the lifestyle as a team; they rejoice in each other's successes, relish hearing about their experiences, and want the best for their spouses. Personally, I find it incredibly erotic for my wife to tell me about her escapades. This often happens in the context of us making love while she tells me about her evening out with another guy. NOT talking about it removes each other from that portion of each of your lives. It's exclusionary, and begins to build walls. This is not good, not good at all. There is also a very serious safety issue. You've said no sex in your home. This means your wife is going to be going off with guys somewhere not at home, and you won't know where or even why she is gone...or if she is gone if you're not at home and don't know she's out. Ok women go on dates all the time, but this is different. If you value your wife's security, then knowing where she is going and with whom is very important. My wife goes on many solo dates. But, I always know where she is going, even what room number at a hotel, and if I need to contact her she will answer the phone. Let's face it; there are some serious creeps out there that may take advantage of the situation and your wife will be at risk. Safety first. Also; the one and done rule plays against the safety issue as well. I feel considerably less comfortable if my wife goes off on a solo date for the first time with someone and I haven't met the guy. She has had a couple of long term boyfriends, and I've felt no qualms at all with her going off to have sex with them. I know she's safe and is going to have a good time. I'd find it less appealing for her to be going off on first time solo dates all the time. Also, as others have said, sex with someone gets better the more times you have sex with them. They learn your likes, dislikes, what feels good, what doesn't. For my wife's part, being able to play multiple times with a guy means that eventually she'll get to play with him without a condom. For her, it feels a lot better and she really enjoys men cumming inside of her, so it's better for her to have a partner with whom she's played many times. Also, this idea that she will play alone and so will you; be prepared that she would be getting a LOT more sex than you will. Finding men to play with a married woman is relatively easy. Finding women to play with a married man, not so much. For every 20 times she plays, you MIGHT play once. MIGHT. Would you be comfortable with that? To be brutally honest here; I'm seeing red flags pop up on this one. Playing alone when you're first getting into this is something that couples do (though it is uncommon), but I don't hear about it happening successfully with couples who don't talk about it. Communication is an absolutely critical key to success in swinging. The _lack_ of it will undermine where you want to go with this. I strongly, strongly advise against it.

You are talking about this and setting up guidelines. That's very good. I see your point about multiple guys, rather than one. You are attempting to ensure 'feelings' don't develop. Okay. But . . . you realize that the standard is for you, too, right? I mean, if you get a girl that's really great in bed, you can't go back for seconds. That's a pretty big restriction. I might suggest that you take the no seconds rule out, and then say if either of you is feeling queasy about one of your spouses partners, you can veto them. It's a little less restrictive.

It usually takes about 8 loads before my wife starts to leak. She has had a total hysterectomy. All she has is a long stretchy vagina now.

Giving my wife an ultimate sexual experience. Doing all the wonderful things she loves to have done to her all at once by several people. She would be the center of attention. Both her nipples gently sucked and played with and her clit being licked all while getting fucked with long slow strokes. Throw in some soft kisses and multiple hands gently caressing her body too. It's all about her pleasure.

I'm on bc so it's not like every time we do something we have a scare. The only scares have come from late periods or something similar

We have always gone bareback. The majority of our partners we met in lifestyle clubs, a few online. We may be a little risky but we have always just let the men fuck Jess bareback and finish in her if they wanted. Over a year of swinging, a few pregnancy scares but our most recent testing shows we are clean. Call us lucky but we prefer sex with no condoms even though 95% of our partners are strangers

We've done something similar. We had a few guys pass one around and add cum to it. Once it got full enough to were it was bulging too much or coming out of the top when somone tried to wiggle it on again I drank it like a cocktail