I've never heard this before. Women really criticize what their vaginas look like?
I've written this before, I'll write it again...yes, there are probably people who judge. Who cares. The vast majority of people in this lifestyle are here to have a good time. If your breasts are too large (what's that?), too small (Uh?), vagina looks, well, I have no idea how one could look bad, whatever....if you have a good attitude, are willing to have fun, no one cares whether your nipples are too big (huh?) or your butt is flat (??).
Again, I've encountered women who were stunning...absolutely stunning...like absurdly gorgeous...but were so horrible to be around. They were bitchy, they were prissy, they were so high maintenance I made excuses to NOT get naked with them. On the flip side, I worked with a woman who was average looking, probably 15 pounds heavier than "normal", just your average everyday woman...but she was the sweetest, nicest, just such an amazing person...she was a 10+. That's selling her short...she was just amazing. She was very open sexually (we were great friends, talked about all kinds of things). If she wasn't already married I would have fallen over myself to be with her. I should look her up. Anyway...
When people in this lifestyle meet others, listening to someone rant about politics, complain about themselves or others, etc it is a turnoff. It isn't about looks as much as it is about a good time. Don't worry about your nipples, they'll get tugged, sucked, bit (if that's your thing), etc. Don't worry about your vagina...it'll get attention, and look a mess when the night is over anyway. Bring a smile, be open, have fun!