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Like lcmim, I too have a fake Facebook account, with education, hometown, jobs, etc, etc. I haven't received any friend suggestions from Facebook because I do nothing when I'm logged in there. No other browser windows are open, no cookies exist, no cache exists, I log on and log off and close the browser before I do anything else on my laptop. I'm basically a phantom every time I'm in a browser anyway so Facebook has nothing to find. I actually get some suggestions related to my education, job history and places I lived. None of which is true. We haven't looked at any FB groups for swinging because of the chance of blending the lifestyle with any real info. The number of data points collected by Facebook is beyond belief, thus I wouldn't want to open up the chance that the lifestyle world ends up in a file with real information. And to those who aren't up to speed, ANY website with a Facebook link (a 'like' button, an email link, etc) is tracked and collected by Facebook. The vast majority of websites make money by selling your information to Facebook. You can hide from Facebook somewhat, but not completely.

Add me to the list. Part because of privacy, part because I have zero interest in 99.99% of what's on Facebook. The whole "ocean wide and millimeter deep" type content and interactions on there just not my thing. Mrs. cplnuswing is on there however just for the keeping up with family/friends although at times she questions whether it's still worth putting up with the rest of the Facebook mess or not. We've always just been on SLS and have had good luck finding couples with it, so have never seen a reason to try to bring Facebook into the mix. We keep high fences between our vanilla and swinging lives, and Facebook would be a big hole in that. Bottom line is I don't trust Facebook; never have, never will.

From what I heard, Desire was packed. Only a fool would believe no one walked away unscathed. I completely understand 2 couples, who know each other well getting together, but a damn convention/resort, with hundreds of people? There's nothing calculated about that, its just dumb.

A number of podcasters are discussing their recent trips to Desire...

I could not think of a more foolhardy undertaking. Hope this is a wake up call to those who are not taking prudent precautions. We are so close to a vaccine, why risk your life and the life of your contacts, known and unknown? This is a Darwin award winning effort by the organizers (survival of the fittest). Imagine explaining to your covid striken spouse that this was a good idea?

For some, only when they are dead.

Another after the fact regrets. At what point will people change their behavior?

Recently we were invited to join a LS FB group for our area by a couple we met at a club. We started chatting with a different couple from the group, met and had a great time. They then invited us to another FB group for a little larger area. We created a joint FB LS profile before joining that one. Started seeing too many friends of friends between both. We have since started chatting with multiple couples, have met a few of them and have a few play dates set up. Has anyone else gone this route instead of SLS or in addition too?

Seems like they thought they were taking all the necessary precautions. But, its a virus. Hard to control. We've been very limited for the past few years in our swinging. She just doesn't seem as interested. But today, I mentioned the article and that it was on my birthday and she said "I guess we know what we're doing for your BD next year". Love that response. Also read about the blood bank research that predicts there have been 53M infections in the US, not 13M. And that the virus was on the west and east coasts in December. We spent 10 days in NY city in mid to late February and must have been exposed. If the number is truly 53M, that changes everything in terms of death rate as percentage, potential for herd immunity and the potential lack of a need for a vaccine in all but the most 'at risk' populations. I'm not advocating anything, but it certainly changes the math a bit. Okay, back to the most important new - We might be in New Orleans next November with a bunch of other swingers.. Yipee...

The New Orleans event doesn't sound interesting to me. I had a few friends who would do Marti Gras all the time and it sounded like a hassle. WAY too many people. Endless crowds. I figure the Naughty in New Orleans is similar....more a large party than a place to meet others.

Totally understand the concerns with LD crossing paths with vanilla bc of FB. We too turned off all options to connect us with contacts. Had one scare. Did some googling and found out there were more back door gateways that could be closed. Just had to been done on a PC. Since then we haven't had any cross over. We haven't tried SLS or any of the other swininger dedicated sites. It does seem to be very convenient with FB though. You post and someone starts a conversation with you... or you start a conversation on someone else's post. Easily transfer conversation to messanger then go from there. Yes, FB has a lot of rules of what can and cannot be posted. But, those rules do not apply in messenger. Both groups we are in cannot be found via search. Invite only and admins have to approve it. Was just curious if anyone else has tried it that way. On a side note....we have almost completely abandoned our regular profiles. ???

My thoughts exactly. Swinging is no different than any other part of life. At this point, as far into this as we are, there is a huge swath of middle ground between damn the torpedoes full steam ahead and lock yourself alone in your closet until further notice. Where exactly in that middle ground is someone's happy place is up to them, but at least it's a reasoned decision, not just out on one extreme or another. I don't know, maybe it's because we are firmly in the "hobby not a lifestyle" camp, but of all the other stuff we have put on hold in the short term so we're here for the long term, swinging is waaaaay down on that list.

Personal story. I signed up on FB using a fictitious name , location,age, education , everything was a lie. I did this because I wanted to join a vanilla hobby group. Any permissions to search my contacts was denied. Within days I had "suggested friends" from my church and the LS. None of which appear on my phone or Gmail contact list. I had someone try and explain the algorithms. It was way past my ability to understand. Perhaps if I always used a VPN? I sometimes wonder how many of my church friends were contacted by the LS ones or were invited to LS facebook groups. At that time this was my ONLY venture into FB. I was on SLS but had not yet joined here.

We have a sls sdc fet and quiver. Out of the 4 the only one we’ve found anyone to play with was fet. But most of fet is bdsm and nether me nor the wife are into the hard core kink scene. Be nice to have more options but where we live your likely to get persecuted for it if it was to public. We had a group of religious zealots shut down our swinger club years ago.

For me the scariest swinging experience was the first time we met a couple together. We had lived a don’t tell, don’t ask sexual life. She had affairs, I had affairs and after years of turning away we decided to meet a couple together. We were very fortunate that we met the perfect couple who understood we were newbies. Regardless of everything going perfectly well I was still scared shitless watching my wife. The other couple went as slow as we wanted, starting with the wife trying to loosen up my wife, something my wife never did. That part didn’t go as I planned, my wife wasn’t interested. From there we decided that we would go the next step. Watching my wife be the aggressor with a new partner was very scary for me. She totally blanked me out. It made me wonder how many men she had done this with. I wasn’t mad, it just made me wonder. For the first time I wondered how I matched up to her other partners.

Little head thinking for the big head. You don’t have to be a weatherman to know which way the wind blows.

I thank you for posting this link. I am going to forward it to our friends in Florida who are upset with us for saying that we are not going to be attending parties at their favorite swingers' clubs.

I will give a blowjob to completion and swallow, but much prefer to orgasm with a dick in my pussy (being licked is good foreplay and postplay) and having those swimmers in my vagina, as a souvenir to live in me for several days.

Whenever it is hubby, Red and me in an MFM, Red always goes first because he likes me "fresh" while hubby likes going second because he can enjoy the show with me and Red in his pre-orgasm excited state rather than watching after he's released. This comment made me realize, however that in going second, hubby always flips me from my position with Red to the opposite position, doggy or missionary. I need to ask him why. Probably has something to do with quantum mechanics, those two must be Fermions.

And for me, what my girlfriend does with my boys. I am a jealousy addict and my male and female lovers doing it without me is a double hit that I love, and love to join in or continue later. So many possibilities, not only for me to have sex but for the relationships.

The current reports is 300 and 41 (As of today) have contracted the virus. Expect the podcasters to discuss this for the next few months. https://www.wlox.com/2020/12/01/people-test-positive-coronavirus-after-new-orleans-swingers-convention/

Notice to "Sluts": For every man who disdains you, there are five guys who want to eat your pussy.

Oh hell yeah, not gonna lie babe that shit is fire! I love going down on a woman, the entire experience is so erotic, I love the way she moans, whimpers and squirms on my lips, is so delicious. And I fell in love with being penetrated in my teens so to add being fucked at the same time, oh its all so freaking yummy.

To be honest, I don't recommend any dating platforms. There are a couple of proven swinger dating/personal websites that I think you already know. However, such platforms as Tinder or Badoo are really disgusting. There I met a pervert who really scared me. I spent 1 night with him and I wanted to end our relationship at that momet, but he didn't understand it. In the end, I had to ask my ex-husband's to help to get this crazy guy off my back. As it turned out later, he showed me in this way his care and love. He even watched some romantic moovies after our "breakup". This guy was really in love with me,