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He said you were less desirable because someone else "had" you after a soft swap. Yikes. I would highly recommend NOT moving onto a full swap as there is no way he'll be able to handle another man having sex with you, and watching you/hearing you enjoy it. This is always a risk of entering the lifestyle. For us, watching the other getting please in manner we can't enjoy alone is the attraction to this lifestyle. The first time I watched the Mrs interact with a woman was incredibly sexy. The image is burned into my memory...a sexy woman was laying naked on the bed. Mrs was leaning over the edge of the bed with her head between her legs. The other husband was standing next to me watching. I handed him a condom and said "you should go fuck her from behind". He put the condom on, positioned behind the Mrs. The Mrs raised her head slightly and made eye contact with me as the other husband grabbed her hips. The look on her face as this other guy slowly penetrated her was amazing. She moaned and then went back to eating the other woman. It was awesome. The Mrs told me a similar story about how hot it was as she was being eaten by the other woman and I slid into her from behind. We were looking at each other while I was entering another woman and she was being eaten by her. So freaking hot. Reminiscing these encounters turns us on. They aren't negative. Again, I would highly recommend not pursuing the lifestyle any further if you want to stay with your current partner.

When I first strayed from my vows I would meet women and always wore protection, not wanting to bring a disease home. In my head it was something stupid because of all the oral play I had. A few times I was nervous and got checked at a walk in doctor because I didn’t want my family doctor to know my secret life. Knowing my wife was also playing, I had asked her to be checked by a walk in and she told me she gets checked regularly. Now we are playing together and speak more about our concerns and knowing we are both playing without protection. A couple we met told us about a doctor they met who will write a scrip for bloodwork for them with no questions. I will always defer to my partner as to bareback or not. I rather go bareback when playing if agreed on.

This has always stuck in my mind like it was just yesterday. The first time we agreed to go bareback with another couple, in a hotel room with two double beds. When I was in missionary with her husband and she in doggy with my husband on the other bed, that moment I felt him flooding in me my eyes must have lit up as I then somehow noticed her look at me - as her husband was ejaculating/finishing inside me, it was like mine and her eyes became entranced looking deep into each others souls it was such a strange feeling of emotions for both of us we could both sense it of the other. I've never had that happen again with other couples.

What she said!

You should stop (at least for the time being) and try and figure out why he is feeling this way. Usually the feeling is the opposite: someone else desires you like they do verifying that you are more desirable, not less. This isn't necessarily a deal breaker, but it is something that needs addressing now and not later.

I've always found that if you just let things 'unfold' naturally, people will tend to do what makes them happy. No one should be forced to do anything and no one should be judged for what they do, sexually speaking. I'm often surprised by people that want to 'direct' the evening. sure, making the lighting nice, music, even starting things off is all fine, but after that I say let nature take over and let all enjoy wherever they are, not where i am.

Last time I went to a club I wore this! The high slit makes it clear I'm not sporting any panties.

Interesting experiment, and a plausible conclusion. One small detail. Your introductory paragraph reported the researchers had used “real vaginas”. I believe you may have misread or miswritten. .”.. a variety of dildos, artificial vaginas, and a homemade semen recipe...” That noted, it might have been a more fun experiment with real vaginas. ??

I read an article in Slate magazine several years ago about why men's dicks have heads - it to scoop out the previous guys cum. Experiments were done with artificial semen, real vaginas, and dildos with and without heads. "The study of sperm competition in humans, though, is fairly new. In a study published in 2003, researchers at the State University of New York-Albany used a variety of dildos, artificial vaginas, and a homemade semen recipe to test whether the penis might be elegantly designed not only to deposit semen in the vagina, but also to remove it. The researchers speculated that when a man has sex with a woman who has recently slept with another man, the first man's semen is pulled out with the second man's penis (because it gets caught behind the second man's coronal ridge, which separates the head of the penis from the shaft). This lends meaning to the term "sloppy seconds": Sex the second time around is sloppy, because the semen that is removed ends up, well, making a mess. "The researchers found evidence to support their hypothesis: Dildos featuring a coronal ridge, like a real penis, displaced 91 percent of semen that got there first. Dildos without ridges displaced only 35 percent.... That the human penis might have evolved as a semen displacement device is "not an outrageously ridiculous idea," says Todd Shackelford, an evolutionary psychologist at Florida Atlantic University. Size, too, may matter here—the longer a man's penis is, the more likely it is to deposit semen out of reach of other men. Of course, if a man has sex with a woman twice in quick succession, then there is the risk that he will displace his own semen. But researchers believe that men have evolved ways of preventing this from happening—for instance, men usually need to "recover" for a few hours between orgasms [Petra note - the "Coolidge Effect," however, shows that a man recovers much more quickly when presented with a different woman], and they rarely continue to thrust after they ejaculate. Both of these behaviors help keep men from accidentally removing their own goods." The full article can be found at Men, women, passion, and sperm. - By Melinda Wenner - Slate Magazine So the desire and behavior is evolutionary - if some guy is fucking your partner, you want to get in there quickly afterwards, remove his semen and deposit yours, so you perceive it as "Hot."

I would always enjoy seeing other men’s cumming running down inside of her thighs. I never was into cleanup but I sure like the feeling of other men’s cum in her as I pushed in.

I will go with, because they are self centred assholes! No woman needs to do anything they do not want to sexually for any man and they shouldn’t. There are plenty of people out there that would be more then happy to play with them on their terms. As far as we are concerned women hold the power when it comes to sex as much as men don’t want to hear it. The days of men getting what they want when they want from women are long gone. I don’t know why any woman would tolerate it. They can do better.

We have been really careful. We don't play locally. The only FB group is a camping group. Members in this group have to be vetted, in person. You won't get past the vanilla meet and greet. Blow the rules and you are out. We were surprised at the active LS community that is one of the best kept secrets around. We live in a ultra religious/politically conservative state and we have learned that the number 1 thing to remember is the more conservative the area the more hypocritical the people are. Could we get burned? Of course. All you can do is minimize the risks. What you do or how far you go to minimize the risks is a personal choice.

I had always thought of myself as straight and then in my 40's. I started thinking that some erections were sexy. I had dreams that I was sucking one. I'd wake up fully erect. During one of those dreams, my girl friend said that I was going wild and wanted to know what I was dreaming. I told her. She was so excited and we made plans for the first time I would do it and she would watch. She wanted to pick the guy. I told her that he had to have an attractive penis. She got hot with my description of what I need in a penis. Three nights later it happened. I was just looking at the man's dick as he got undressed my girl friend was on the sofa stripped and giving me words of encouragement. I slid down off the corner of the bed and took his beautiful 6 inch dick in my hand. I was nervous. This was really going to happen. I ran my lips and tongue on the under side. Then I got a wiff of his nuts and I new I was going to be doing this more than once. I will never forget how it felt parting my lips the first time and the stroking in my mouth and throat. I found out that I am good at deepthroating. My girlfriend got off the sofa to get me undressed. She was glad to see that I was fully erect. She wanted to see us 69. I was surprised how much I liked it. We both came in the back of our throats and he left soon after. My girlfriend wanted me to enjoy the experience with out her participating. But after that time, we would share. I am addicted to good looking dick. I'm bi now.

To echo 2quirky806, we haven't gone bareback with any couple yet but would like to. We just haven't established any connections where we would be relatively exclusive, to where we would go without condoms. I think the sloppy seconds thing is more the Mr's fantasy than mine. I'm not opposed at all, given the cycling condoms as the guys move around is annoying and bareback is just so much more fun. However, we are in the same boat as everyone else in terms of avoiding STIs is required. Once we establish a connection with another couple (s) where we play only within a small group (2-3 couples) we'll look into dropping the condom requirement.

We haven’t gotten to that point yet but it is something I really want to try. I don’t want to eat it but I do want my wife filled with multiple loads and over flowing while I slide it in and have very vigorous sex with her. The thought sound very hot to me. My fantasy is to start her off lay the first load and then let 2 to 3 other guys load her up and for me to finish the night off. But until we have a group of people we really trust which is hard to come by and we are fixed that’s just going to stay in the spank bank for now.

So its my body and I decide who cums where outside of my husband. But if I fuck a guy and he comes and there is no getting him back to hard, if I'm not done, someone is getting sloppy seconds.

I always feel shy after bf filled me up and is still dripping out with cum when I get home to SO. I clean up thoroughly before leaving. But bf will fill me up again. So now I understand that he appears to be loving it too that I get home wet. ?

There is nothing like taking a wife back to her husband with a pussy or ass full of cum, and leaking down her thighs.

we are bareback swingers. we have a steady male playmate who gets tested regularly as do we. if we take on any one new we refer them to stdtest.com and meet once they have paperwork in hand. if we went to a club (not happening these days) then it's condoms.

Kim & I would only play bareback unless the other wanted condoms. Loved watching cum oozing out of her as I pushed in. Makes great anal lube also.

That's is how I want it my first time. God I want to do this so bad.

That’s something I want to experience. Is sloppy seconds. The thought of fucking my wife after another man or men have fucked here and creampied her is a major turn on for me.

I've always found it annoying when guys get cum in my hair, or over my makeup sometimes. I've never really understood the appeal of them cumming over my body, I know some women like it though. I prefer men to cum in me. I've known plenty of female friends who've said they dislike it but I actually love the feeling of it - during and after. Sometimes you can't feel him cumming, sometimes you can especially if he has a big load. Its also about cleanup convenience, its so much easier afterwards.

My wife`s regular playmate has 8 inches which she adores. She likes to ride it slowly and take it all the way inside her, holding it deep inside when he cums. She likes deep creampies. Another friend has a 9 inch cock, which she says is a little too big. I only have 6 inches, which she accepted as being fine till she discovered her lover`s "perfect fit", an inch here or there seems to matter to her.

My wife does not swing, she has a bareback lover. His wife also does bareback with me. Bareback feels right and warm cum inside a girls pussy is the epitome of sex These are are only swapping friends. My wife enjoys his ample length inside her, I suspect he his better at satisfying her than I am. I'd like to watch, but when we tried same room it did not seem to work out right. After love making session, when we get home and I make love with her, it is fantastic, she is so wet and slippy. If there was no cum inside her it would not be the same His wife tells me stories about her husband's techniques and I'm sure that's part of what turns my wife on. Condoms, which she hates, would kill the spontaneity. I suggested other coples and condoms and she said no.

Most of our action happens with our closed group. Most of the ladies prefer that the guys release inside them. There are a few that get off on the guys pulling out and jerking a big load on them. Personally It’s the height of pleasure when I feel a guy’s hard cock pulsing and releasing a load inside me. I love it that my pussy feels that good to him. It also feels incredible when they are balls deep and I’m stretched and filled with their cock. One nighters - it’s all about the condom, a blowjob or a hand job.

Inside, always. And I much prefer in my pussy than my ass or mouth, although I will eagerly swallow if that's where the moment happens. When he cums in my vagina sperm keep swimming further in and I can keep a living part of a man (or two or three, or several times, four) alive inside of me for days, which is a real turn-on for me. I even think about having another man's sperm still in me when I am having sex days later. In my stomach or ass that isn't going to happen, I assume those little confused swimmers meet a quick demise. After Clair got accidentally pregnant with hubby, I decided to get pregnant as quickly as possible so we could have our babies as close as possible. Hubby, boyfriend Red, and I agreed that I would go off birth control and let the fastest sperm win. It was the most sexually charged intercourse I have ever had.

Deedee loves the feeling of being stretched, she has an assortment of large toys and she likes being fisted. I love sliding into her after she has had the large toys, it feels different but amazing, I like her vagina either way for the record. Lol. The muscles go right back to normal by the next morning, it's not like they stay that way. Not sure if it is comparable to yoga.

Exactly.

In reference to clean up, a quick napkin swipe at best or her hand. It depends on the position I would say. She never, nor have I asked her to stop “playing” to clean up. We both really enjoy that piece of the fun for all things mentioned within these post.

So I said I would never do this. I was out with some friends the other night and my wife had her male friend over our house. I wasn't sure if they would play or not since things have gotten more vanilla with him lately. He was gone by the time I got home, and they did play. I was jerking off while my wife told me the details... next thing I couldn't resist and stuck in in her for sloppy seconds!!

People can become addicted to internet pornography. They then want to watch it for hours and start edging. Over time, that can lead to the person finding he can get hard but finds it almost impossible to reach organism. After all, if you have trained yourself to delay orgasm for hours while masturbating, your body gets accustomed to that. It is a very serious problem.

I prefer to go second regardless if it's my wife or his. It's not because I want him to enjoy the tighter feel. It's that after I blow my load, I lose interest in watching what they're doing. So it just gets me more excited watching them first. You're right on both counts - a sloppy cunt has hardly any friction, but the thought of her doing this sends me off quick.

Fibber, imagination, or wishful thinking, just not reality. Prior to getting to go to parties I was a one one person. Sure there are different sizes and shapes. The size makes a bigger difference in foreplay than in the act. I have had very very few Holy Shit moments. I think the bigger difference in size is when guys are flaccid. We were on a nude beach the other day and I saw more small dicks than long hanging ones.

One other thing. Ice cubes; Inserted in her vagina & then putting my cock in, gives pleasure and pain for us both.

I would hope my wife would answer that I am the strangest thing

Until it punches her cervix. Women come in all shapes and sizes. Loose, big holes, tight, little holes. Just like men. Big cocks, little cocks. It's a matter of compatibility. Some women don't like big cocks. Surprise! It's the reason some women react the way they do when they experience a man they are not used to. It's not statistics , it's the way they are being fucked.

Since babies can come through our vaginas, I guess that we can accommodate any thickness, with proper relaxation and preparation. I have read that we Indian women tend to have slightly shorter vaginas than women of other races. Nevertheless, I have been able to take 9-10 inches of length without too much difficulty. For me, 8 inches is about perfect. Of course, the skill of the mean attached to the penis is more important than its size.

The point is condoms are for the pits! the skin to skin is so much better, we all realize this but, I feel their is a much better sensuality connection, just as when you kiss while enjoying sex, But the feeling of cumming inside a lady is so hot for both.

I wear them sometimes. I like thigh highs with a garter belt. You can wear underwear on top. They are convenient in the ladies room and for having sex. They look and feel sexy. They cover varicose veins. Some people really like the look and it gets them turned on. I really like the way they feel.

had an obedient friend in law school -- he happily used and took photos of -- Flashlight -- large MAg light Bananna Tom

The Mr is my best for all the reasons that have already been stated by other couples. We KNOW each other and what we both like. We aren't afraid to try new things. I know he loves me 110% and when we make love, that shows. No one can give me the mind blowing, toe curling orgasms that he does. Probably because I can be so free with him that I just let go and enjoy the moment. By far the best I have ever had!

I haven't run into "too big". I had a 11" (no joke!!) on my first 3some, though he wasn't very good with it. I have seen a few on some movies that scare me. Hubby asks if I would be interested in them, "HELL NO" is my only response. I also know my body has changed since my hysterectomy...some positions aren't as comfortable anymore & I am not sure there is enough room inside for an 11" again. As far as the circumcision, I totally prefer circumcised, in fact I wont play with a guy who isn't cut as I don't like the feel of all that extra skin when sucking it. Sort of reminds me of a Shar Pei.

I don't feel there is too big! If I ran into a humungus cock the size of which I have never seen before, I would want to play with it in every way I could. I would love to see one and have myself, my hubby and the huge one's partner concetrate on it with all three of us do everything to it!

Hard question to answer. If I'm in the mood for a little rough and a little harder can't go too big. Prefer around 6-7 but sometimes I just need that little extra and love it as big as you can find. Although that's never been more than 9". Depends on mood and lube.

I've only encountered one that was "too big" to the point that I turned it down. It was not a length issue but rather girth... it was bigger around than my wrist. It was long too, but on length alone I would not have turned it down.

Inside me of course.

Think everyone has legitimate points and truthfully I think it depends on the couple(s) and/or single(s) involved. Just have to respect those that you are playing with. I have been with both single females and couples in which some want you to wear a condom, no glove no love, and others prefer no condom. As it has been mentioned by a few, some woman like the feel of a man cumming in her mouth or pussy. Others want a man to pull out and usually the ground rules have been laid out before playing so you know what to do. I will say most, if not all of the woman who ask that I wear a condom while inside of her enjoy that I don't pull out and cum in her with the condom on. Use your own judgement and respect those that you play with.

We do our safe sex evaluations early in the friendship. If we feel there is any possibility of a problem, be it pregnancy or stds, we don't play with that couple. That's probably why we've only played with five couples in 24 years. In the past, when we've decided a couple was within our "safety envelope" we've played with no restrictions. Mrs. Alura and I were talking about this subject recently. "When I take a guy's cock into my mouth," she said, "I expect that I'll be drinking his cum shortly. He doesn't always cum in my mouth, but I always expect it. Same thing with my pussy. If I didn't feel safe with him, I wouldn't be in bed with him." And I wouldn't be in bed with his wife. Again, that's how we've done it in the past. How we approach this issue in the future will depend entirely on the couple we're approaching it with.

Condoms present one quandry for us though... In addition to preventing pregnancy and many STDs - condoms also very thoroughly prevent sloppy seconds or even "thirds, fourths, and fifths... Now, I have two playmates that very much enjoy the feeling of sloppy seconds and a cream-pie seems essential in order to provide the full experience Then in our case, we are particularly careful about who is allowed to ride bareback and who is not. Those who are a very few indeed. Add to that STD concern that I am of child-bearing age and condition, and we had to seriously consider all possible risks. Even then, as was said already, it is sometimes a risk we elect to take. Swinging in general is a risky behavior (socially, medically, emotionally) and yet we don't elect to not participate. We simply evaluate various risks and elect to either accept or not accept those behaviours based on the immediate circumstances... Not to minimize the impact of STDs but, statistically, it is very much more likely that any of us is going to be killed in an auto accident this week than it is that we will contract HIV this week == and yet, we still elect to get in the car.