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This is true!! Without activity this site will die. The more activity, the better! You are keeping it relevant and I for one am thankful to have you here as a new voice since that is what a vibrant community has to have...old voices, new voices, lots of voices. Just like any large group, there are always going to be some who want this but don't want that, and vice versa. The site platform we are on now, 1) as you astutely realized, is specifically geared towards recognizing and rewarding activity because that's the lifeblood of a vibrant healthy online community, and 2) gives members different ways of customizing the content they see to suit whatever it is they want, or don't want. A member's only responsibility here is to stay within the Site Rules and TOS (i.e. no spam, etc.), not to try to make every other member happy by more posts, fewer posts, or whatever. Why? Because that's impossible, no one can ever please everyone on a site this large. If someone doesn't like something, the burden is on them to use the tools available to them to tailor what they see to what they want to see, not on everyone else to only give them what they want to see.

Jessica sweat it not. People are starting to get to know you. In any community there is always a getting acquainted curve. When someone has a .... (looking for word) ... out there presence then that curve can get a bit bumpy. Of all the posts that I read, and there WERE quite a few, there was not one that was off topic or not interesting.

We’ve done both DVP and DP, with me and another guy as well as she doing a DP with 2 other guys. It’s usually on the wish list with any play time but circumstance as always play a huge role. As the OP said - keeping everyone between soft and cumming can be a real challenge, as well as the position gymnastics.

I'm going to push my doctor a little bit harder. She knows our whole story. Maybe she's just trying to stay "in system."

Pricing is not the issue. From what I am told they just will not give it if one is too old. It is not from risk. THEY figure that 1. above a certain age you are likely already infected and 2.if you do catch it you will not likely live long enough for it to come and bite you with cancer. We are in our late sixties. The likelihood that it will be a player in our demise is almost nothing. They do not consider the very real possibility of us passing it along to those young enough for it to make a difference. We would pay for the vaccine if we could get it, just for the sake of the others. We both had a fairly tame sex life before we married and were sexually monogamous for almost 40 years . There is a strong possibility that we are still not infected, and the vaccine might actually stem the spread of HPV.

Agreed! The boys need to step it up! I make my husband put on a nice suit and button down generally if we are meeting another couple. Hopefully the females appreciate the efforts I put into dressing him lol. If I am on the prowl and I see a well dressed guy that is where I am gonna start looking cause it is a huge turn on.

Been out of the loop for a bit and finally back in... attended my first big event in several years. The one thing that really struck me was the complete imbalance in presentation between males vs females. 90%+ of the females dressed to impress (even if they didn't dress to theme - which, of course, most did - it was Naughty Schoolgirl night), yet less than 10% of the men bothered to even dress nice (not even talking about dressing to theme, but just not in shorts and a tank top). My theory (please feel free to dispel it) is that most of those couples were there just for the girls to play and thus the guys did not feel any need to impress. About half of the guys who did bother to dress nice were single guys and actually made the statement to me that "I'm single I know I have to do more to stand out" (well played). As a woman who is there to play with guys (as much, if not more than, to play with women) it irks me that guys don't make an effort. It's a huge turn-off to see guys looking like they aren't doing anything more than running errands on a Saturday afternoon. I'd love to get ya'lls thoughts on this dichotomy, and find out if other women are seeing the same thing.

Feeling your spouse is tainted after they have been with someone else is the opposite feeling you are going to want to have in this lifestyle! Personally if either one of us felt this way we stop immediately and resume being with just each other. Not even sure why there would be any point in being in the lifestyle other then personal gain for ones self if you are going to feel that way when your spouse is with someone else.

I use Lemonaid to get a tadalafil prescription filled. They do also order tests. Very straightforward and reasonable prices.

I have done alot of DP, both with my wife and the other woman when we meet other couples. Usually we do regular DP, but we have also tried DVP when we had a threesome with a Male friend. I prefer vaginal/anal with me in the ass, my absolute favorite thing to do when we swing, but my wife really enjoyed DVP also, so we will do that again. We are both really into anal sex, and a couple of weeks ago we tried DAP with a dildo, and that actually worked, so we are gonna try that with 2 real cocks some day.

Last time I went to a club I wore this! The high slit makes it clear I'm not sporting any panties.

We tried that 2 weekends ago and it didn’t go that good I kept piping out of my wife’s vagina as he was trying to push in her ass. But there where other positions that we didn’t try so next time we will try the other.

Good point. We can’t have that. It should be about her pleasure and enjoyment. Looks like the cowgirl position would be best.

I think the visual would be amazing until my legs gave out and I come down hard on two cocks buried deep and I hurt my poor vagina and make her sad forever ???

My journey went from wanting to watch my husband have sex with other women (I already had a boyfriend for two years), to sucking his dick afterwards, to participating in FMFs, to having full-on Lesbian experiences with women alone. My enduring favorite is FFMs; so many possibilities.

I like missionary. And being held very tight...

I had a poll on this: https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/62455-how-do-you-doggie/?tab=comments#comment-605517

So I'm an extreme doggy lover, bury my face in the bed and ass in the air and you can pound me into the bed. I also love being on top and riding him hard. It is super yummy.

We don’t have a real rule. All of meetings start with oral and we have never used any protection during oral. The odds of catching most STDs are lower with oral, not zero. I know there are dental dams used even though I have never seen one. I have never been stopped during oral by someone who wanted protection. I have always left it up to the man if he wanted to to use a condom, I don’t feel much of a difference. Michael will at times put one on without being asked and won’t hesitate if asked to put one one. Normally on second meetings we already know how the other couples want to play. All sex has risk and if you aren’t ready for bare sex don’t do it.

Does anyone have a pet peeve that may not make much difference to some or most people but is a total "deal breaker" to you? For us, it is smokers. That smell gets "into" a person and it doesn't matter if they change their clothes or even shower, the odor is still there and it a complete and total turn of to both of us. J & L

Is everyone from Canada preachy?? To use condoms or not is a personal choice. I think most people KNOW the risks of std transmission. They chose to accept the risk. If you don't, that is your choice. Don't play with people who do. That is your choice too. Wagging an electronic finger at someone over this is smug and presumptuous.

It's totally up to you and her to decide (well, assuming your playmates want to swing bareback too). Yes, there are some risks, no doubt about it. What level of risk it is, and what level you are comfortable with, only you two can decide. But, and maybe more to the heart of your question really, it needs to be something you decide together. It sounds like you have now done that. Just be sure though you are totally ok with that and don't let the extra fun and excitement cloud your judgment. It's great now, but let's say a test came back positive, are you going to turn around and blame her and it hurt your relationship? Not saying you will, and not trying to change your decision, just saying that so far the decision hasn't been put through the crucible of the bad happening, just the good. Honestly, odds are, the bad won't ever happen, but it can, so you just need to be prepared for that.

Folks please, please get your children, girls and boys, vaccinated. They will become adults, they will have sex, try to prevent this from happening to them.

Hi Numex. She told me that she was a bit tired but if I wanted to we could do it... and we did it. My thoughts were like: I have to be better than him... but I didn't last long... they smiled and said that it was okay. She thanked me for what she had done. For me it was amazing... even though it was a short period of time

Hello! First of all, thanks for all your answers. We did it last week and I can tell you that it was amazing. There were no barriers and my gf told me at the beginning that if I wanted to stop for any reason they would have done it. The climate was intense and she absolutely loved it. The beginning was kinda difficult to handle it due to some emotions and stress but I was able to get over and enjoyed it too! We think we will repeat it in the future.

We only have condomless sex with our very closest friends, these are 2 regular couples, people that we trust for years. On one occasion I had condomless sex with a coworker which I worked for about 3 years he is a man with family and very serious and responsible,I discussed it with my husband and we felt no need for condoms with him. Almost 10 years since we started swinging and I have only had 4 men penetrated me without a condom that is including my husband. We feel pretty safe compared to many single people living "regular sexual lives"

That's precisely why we don't use condoms. Both the men and women like to feel the flow of an ejaculation inside her, whichever opening that may be. We also jointly have no rules against kissing, anal, alone play. We see the emotional connections as a plus. We are all comfortable with this because we only play with a closed group of other couples. Could someone cheat? Perhaps, but we have a lot of trust among us and agree that anyone can back off anytime, no questions even by a spouse. Plus it's less likely anyone would cheat simply because there is so much opportunity for fun within our group. For instance, one pair of non-spouses occasionally gets together alone for their mutual interest in BDSM, which no one else is into.

There should be a section for 'anything but missionary.' That would have been my wife's answer.

If your selection process is effective, condoms are unnecessary. We do use condoms at clubs where the play is kind of random and hence a bit more risky but neither of us like them. Mrs Doc dries with condoms and the sex eventually becomes uncomfortable for her which kind of offsets the last longer benefit.

For the most part I can't tell the difference, I would say the initial entry feels better to me without a condom, about 30 seconds in I couldn't tell either way. I guess like every other guy (pretty much) Jon prefers no condoms.

This is why we don't waste a bunch of time with emails and texting. 5 minutes into the first physical meeting will tell you more than 5 YEARS emailing and texting. This isn't a match and probably would just lead to drama...pass. There are lots of fish out there and finding a match (when you are looking for some chemistry) is HARD. Don't compromise, however, it CAN be done. Just move on to the next couple and keep looking.

I don't feel much of a difference except that I usually need to apply some lube half way through with condoms. I am usually a bit drier later on because of the pill. But I do enjoy warm cum dripping out of me. My husband, probably like most men, is not fond of condoms. It's getting to be more of a problem as he gets older because the sensitivity is not there with condom and he'd have difficulty reaching orgasm.

I can say my wife has been my best lover, but not necessarily my most exciting lover since most exciting comes from having sex with someone you never expected to have sex with. And I am sure my wife would have the same answer. Her best lover is probably my best friend, but mainly when he and I are having a threesome with her. When we are both playing with her, she has what seems like continuous orgasms.