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Not gonna lie I was nervous the first time we full swapped. But once he started making out with her, undressing her, fingering her, and when she started stroking him it was like I had a front row seat to the hottest show in town starring my husband. Now the first time we did the hard swap stuff in seperate rooms, but after the show of oral sex I was so wet, and so in the mood. It was a fantastic night. You'll be fine babe.

Enchilada? I've always heard it referred to as a taco.

This was pretty much the same with me - I had a boyfriend for two years while hubby was patiently monogamous. (Although I was extremely grateful and took very good care of him.) One day a friend of mine and I were talking of sex and she said that it must be nice to have sex with David. The words just came out of my mouth, "That can be arranged." "He finds you attractive too." (I lied, he never said anything about her, but knowing him, he wouldn't mind.) I told her I would set it up. I went home and told David that I arranged for him to fuck Amy, in a way that it wasn't a request. Was I jealous? Hell yes, but I felt so powerful it didn't matter. It happened that weekend and we've never been better.

Like I said, we have done it. I have no issue with how far she wants to take it but its her preference to not go "all the way."

I’m not sure how popular this answer will be but.. Yes you can and very likely will develop true friendships that do become deep and meaningful. The bad news however is in our experience the friendships tend to fade eventually. Of course this is not always the case and I’m sure many people develop life long friendships but our experience has been after a few years or whatever, the friendships end and people just move on. These friendships are very real and genuine but are still different than vanilla friendships. I think it’s due to the sexual component of the relationships. ... And honestly, you fuck anyone long enough and shit will get messy. It’s the nature of the game. Fucking is intimate and intimacy tends to get complicated if you give it enough time. Swingers don’t do complication! Real life is stressful enough and we consider the lifestyle our fun time, together. At the end of the day swinging is a two person team sport. As soon as things get complicated, swingers tend to move along, no hard feelings but c-ya. It’s the nature of the beast. I don’t mean to discourage anyone from looking to make best friends out of play partners. Our experience my not be yours.

Noooooo, WOMAN RULE 2: Vaginas are magic and mystical and the men must never be allowed to understand their powers to stretch, squeeze and return MAGICALLY back to normal. Its in the rules sister sssshhhhhh. They can never know!

I honestly don't care, balls are not attractive to me, so I do not focus on them. The one preference I do have is shaved balls, I prefer a manscaped man. So give them to my bald or not at all.. Thats really all I got on this topic.

That's what we've found as well.

Hell to the yes! Not gonna lie Dicks make me so fucking happy! And I mean so so so happy! I will take the whole weight of a man crushing down on top of me pressing my legs wider apart as he desperately tries to go deeper than is even possible. Yeppers, That is my jammy jam.

Ok I'll play but this is a little embarrassing so no judgements. When I was a teen I had a nicely shaped bed post that got quite a bit of action.

Exhibitionism and swinging seem to go hand in hand. When i first met my wife she was working part time as an artists model posing nude for art schools arts groups and private artists - and that TOTALLY turned me on. When i asked if she got a little turned on by the exhibitionism she smiled shyly and confessed "Yes". At that moment i knew i had a keeper!! Regarding whether it's Ok to approach: No. That's a good way to ruin it. Just sit back and enjoy the show.

An all-around healthy snack!

Bed post, it Took a while and lots of lube but eventually fit

Quite frankly, don't be surprised if it hurts, and don't be surprised when you can't wait to do it again. And that feeling for me hasn't gone away. For me just knowing, or more intensely when watching my husband and another woman enjoying each other sexually is simultaneously crushing and exhilarating. Like a good work out where your legs or whole body hurts as you push to the end, but you're so glad you did. Or a thrill ride that scares you shitless, even though you know it's safe, and you want to do it again. And not only do I enjoy watching the act itself, there's the afterplay of licking her pussy or taking his gooey, limp dick in my mouth that makes me fell both used and, since all done at my instigation, sexually dominant. And the follow up sex with hubby is incredible. This behavior and type of relationship is not part of my upbringing or background. I used to be the typical jealous woman. Now all of this makes me I feel like I am spitting in the green eye of the monster. Emotionally you will get bumped around a little, but in the sane, quiet moments removed from it you realize there is no harm done and much gained. Similar to the realization after my first orgasm masturbating as a girl that I hadn't broken anything and it felt good. The adventure of sharing my spouse is without a doubt the most thrilling thing I have ever done. P.S. We don't have and never had an "escape" phrase or signal. I didn't want it. I want to be strapped in for the ride and not have the option of bailing out. Strange that I like the control of setting it up, but also the thrill of not being able to control where it went. No regrets.

We both revel in watching the pleasure our partner is having, what a wonderful gift to be able to bestow to the person you love!!! Neither of us can quite comprehend anyone not wanting their partner to have the ultimate in sensual/sexual experience and pleasure!!! The "lifestyle" has only strengthened the bond we have, adding to the respect, trust and security in our relationship. Jealousy and insecurity are wasted emotions that have no place in a healthy relationship, let alone the lifestyle. Separating sex from love and good communication go a long way towards banishing those fears!

It's a common and valid question, and this is a great place to ask. I didn't really have that worry because I was my hubby's first lover and wanted him to have the chance to experience sex with another woman. I found that what turned me on wasn't so much seeing him with her, but hearing her noises and knowing he was pleasing her. After all, I know how good what he's doing feels to me. If you already have good communication with your husband, you're on the right track. It is SO important to be able to discuss anything you're thinking and/or feeling with your partner. If thoughts of having sex with others (or in front of others, or watching others) turns you on, then by all means consider exploring the lifestyle a bit further. Talk about what things excite you and what doesn't. Talk about how you think you'll feel about having sex with others and seeing each other do the same. Talk about what guidelines or rules you think you should have to keep each of you and your marriage safe. Peruse this site, read any forums that interest you, and talk some more. When/if you feel your ready, you can try going to a club or a meet and greet . . . Just see what's out there, and observe. Or you could jump in feet first (like Mr. Sweet and I did)! Either way, just proceed at whatever pace you're both comfortable, and have FUN. =)

(Hope you don't mind a man butting in with some input) Your concern is a common one, and very valid. How will you feel seeing your wife pleasuring another woman, and another woman pleasuring him? It can be frightening. What if you're upset by it? What happens? It's uncertain territory. My wife and I were concerned about the very same issue. It turned out to be a non-issue. But, for us, we decided that after we'd talked about it for a long time, and felt we'd answered our questions as best we could, eventually moving forward made the most sense. We created a rule, and still have the rule though it's never been used, that we call the parachute clause. If either of us wants to leave, we leave. Period. No questions asked, no objections, we both get up and leave. We'll talk about it later, but at that moment we leave. It empowers both of us to be able to pull the plug if either of us is not comfortable. In such situations we (and you in your notional situation) owe nothing to anyone but yourselves. If you're not happy about it, leave. Also, there's nothing that says you have to dive in from the ten meter board the first time you do something swing related. You can dip your foot in the pool. If you've had lots of conversations about swinging, and can discuss it outside of the bedroom while doing mundane things (a reasonable metric for seeing if it's just fantasy or not), you both have your questions answered in as much as you think you can answer them, you trust each other, you communicate well, you love each other very much, then dipping the toe probably won't be a bad idea. You can go to a swinger club and just check out the scene. Maybe watch other people having sex, or just soaking up the atmosphere. Go home, discuss, and see where you are. There's no race here, and going slow isn't a bad idea. Also, there's been a poll about this subject that asked both men and women if they were aroused by their partner having sex with someone else. Just 10% of women said it bothers them a bit. Now, that's kind of self selective; for swingers where one or the other spouse is bothered by seeing their partner having sex with someone else, it's very likely they're not swinging anymore. But, it does show that quite a lot of women are aroused by their husbands having sex with other women. Poll: Are you aroused by your partner having sex with someone else? - View Poll Results

Why wouldn't she be welcomed at a swing club if she wants to go? Why do couples have the mindset that adding another female to the mix means the women have to play with each other? This mindset certainly isn't there when asking a male to join a couple. Why can't the women just focus on the male of the couple similar to the way the female is focused on when a second male joins in the fun? Plus if your friend would attend on a night (or a club) that allows single males, then she could have her pick of play partners. Agreed with Couplerotic22...your friend may not even be game for exploring a lifestyle venue.

Straight SF's can find plenty of action in a swinger world. Basically all they are is a female who doesn't want a relationship and wants sex with a guy. She could easily get sex with a guy in the regular nilla dating scene, but the relationship part is tougher to come by oddly enough. I say we need more straight SF's in the lifestyle, all of us hall pass hubbies are perfectly happy with more of them to choose from. Nothing against bi females either, they are awesome too.

Men are lucky women don't have that much control "in there." If we did, when we finished first we would just push you out of there. Another story from Clair. When she was college, one of the girls got a new box of like a dozen golf balls. Several of girls in her dorm tried to see who could hold the most. Clair doesn't remeber the results of the contest, but does remeber that it felt really good to tap quickly on that last ball...

Ah well playing around one day we lost a plum. I couldn't understand why it just didn't pop right back out. I had no idea women didn't have any muscle control "in there". It's been over 20 years and we still laugh about that one. (no plums were harmed in making this story)

Hmm... good question. When I was a kid (early days of masturbation) my earliest "toy" was a baton. I'm sure I've had much more interesting things in there since then, but I can't think of any off the top of my head.