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We know the problem with that first time meeting. We tried and tried to find someone who would fill our fantasy. Free accounts gets you what you paid for. Plenty of fakes and no shows. We went back and started with a brand new account and paid for it and still struck out. We had too many no shows leaving us with paid hotel rooms. Dinners and drinks just the two of us. Our first meeting with a couple was too easy to set up, for sure it was not going to happen. They weren’t married and the boyfriend agreed the women would play first. The pictures they sent were too good. They showed, looked like the pictures, she was sweet, he was someone we normally would have walked away from if we met them first. We learned from our early mistakes and promised ourselves to be sensitive to the needs and wants of couples we meet. Sure we want sex, not rushed sex. We like to start with girl play and we always ask if that is what they want. If agreed on Linda will put the wife at ease. She normally makes all the first moves then things just happen.

This is a common question, a real issue. It happens to every swinger couple, and experience doesn't always provide education. You're sitting there as a foursome, everyone seems to be on the same page, but nothing is happening! What's wrong? Someone has to make a move. It's really as simple as that. Some strategies that have worked for us: - We're all sitting in the living room. I (the male host), suggest another round of drinks, I invite the other wife to help me. When we get to the kitchen, I touch her on the waist. In all probability she'll respond, we start kissing. We take our time, the other couple (my wife and the other husband) figure out what's going on, they start kissing. You can figure out what comes next . . . - My wife has invited the other wife to come up to our bedroom on some pretext. When they get there, she suggests they both put on lingerie. Then they come down the stairs together . . . - There are games to play. Strip jenga is popular, as is truth and dare. Once sexy things start happening, things loosen up . . . Someone has to be bold and make the first suggestion. It takes a little courage, but without it, the party will break up and everyone will wonder what went wrong. The best of luck.

We are new to this and I wonder how most couples feel that first time meeting. I read that couples have gone to clubs, met a random couple, had a friend start. Everyone had to start planned or unplanned. We started by joining a match site that we paid to join. I’ve read many on here are members of that site. Going back and forth crossing off frauds, single men, men masquerading as women and couples and many couples who just didn’t interest us we finally made a date. Meeting a couple for sex during a pandemic and we all decided to come to an outdoor restaurant with proof of negative Covid tests taken that week. We were happy to finally meet and they were the people who were the people they said they were. Before the meeting they asked us what we were looking for, we didn’t have an answer other than looking for a no pressure evening. I never thought about what others do or how to break the ice. I was honest that it was a thought that we discussed during quarantine. We talked about going through changes and how it was with me. She understood the way a man can’t. The pros and cons, the therapies, the sweats and other physical things. I told them things I don’t discuss with my friends. At their suggestion we went home to talk and make sure. I thought it was a way for them to bail on us. The next day she called me to say they had a good time. It was a call after a first date call which amused me. The call went on for almost an hour, her telling me about others they met and then decided not to meet again. She bragged about her husband and what a great guy he is. One thing I wasn’t ready to be asked about is if I was bi curious. I did not have that on my profile, yet it was something I saw in almost all the swinging porn we watched. My answer was the truth, I don’t know what I am. We did meet them again and we had a very memorable time. I just wonder how other couples met and how the meeting evolved to having sex.

What can be more exciting than the first time you are with someone other than your wife? The time leading up to the actual event was heart pounding with so many thoughts going on in my mind. Swinging was a hundred percent my wife’s doing and made me wonder why.

Don’t pay for a hotel room till you are sure! I did that early in our career with a couple of other newbies. After HOURS of blabbing in a hotel lobby, we made a move by booking a hotel room and asking the other couple up to it. I took an ED pill in the bathroom. More talking, then they left! I think they were new and chickened out.

Details please?

We also never do sleep overs, there are only two couples we would stay the whole night with and they are our best friends. We were all friends back when we were all still Vanilla, which by the way is a saying I resent a little, I'm pretty sure when I was Vanilla, I was at least sporting a little chocolate swirl in there, maybe some dark fudge and peanuts, definitely a banana.

Our first was not an online find, it was our friends. My belief is everyone doing this for the first time is not going to know how things are supposed to go. I was scared and I knew the couple very well. I can’t imagine going to a strangers home to have sex. You were smart meeting them first and getting to know them. Five years ago I posted a similar question, how do you go from conversation and drinks to undressing and having sex. Even with friends who were already swingers my heart was racing. I played out the scenario in my head plenty of times not knowing how I was going to react seeing my wife having sex. I was determined to focus on my own sex with our long time friend. My wife was the one who brought up the idea of doing this with her best friend. I figured she was going to be eager that night and I would just follow her lead. When the time came she looked like she was hesitant. Luckily we were with friends and we laughed and took time. I think I would be annoyed if the husband pushed but he didn’t. My wife’s friend was the one who made us comfortable. My advice is to take a deep breath and let the time flow. If you are comfortable with the couple you met, let them guide you. There is something you saw in them that attracted you, maybe their experience. If you become uncomfortable you can always stop. Good Luck. Did I say welcome to the board? Maybe you will share your experience with us soon.

It gave me 3 day phlegm, that's what it gave me. Fun, none the less.

We tried various methods. Our latest plan is to meet a couple for dinners or drinks and make it clear that the meeting is vanilla. On the way home, my wife and I discuss if we are interested and we guess if the other couple is interested. 90% of the time, we know if they are interested. If one of us is a no go, it’s a no go. Soon thereafter, we ask if they would like to meet to play. We often invite them to our house, serve drinks and appetizers. We then ask them if they want to see a map upstairs with magnetic pins of where we have traveled. It is right outside our bedroom. You can guess the rest... Even on cruises and vacations, we like to have drinks, a meal or a long hangout with a couple before sex. We don’t have to be overwhelmed, we just have to like them and know they are not totally out of their minds ( a little kooky can be entertaining).

This is the way we approached our meetings, my real question is after deciding to meet for sex play how do you transition from socializing to actual play. When we were younger and dating there was foreplay, kissing, touching and undressing. It was a natural progression that I and my date both knew the outcome. I felt inadequate in know what we were supposed to do or how to respond. I know now my husband was hesitant as well. Fortunately the couple we met was better equipped to handle the situation and lead us. After the fact I told my husband that I felt foolish and showed my unworldliness, to which he thought I was overly nervous and they thought it was fine and I shouldn’t worry That is the method we agreed on. After our first meeting I never thought they would be interested in us. I think I was not as much at ease as they were. I couldn't be me, I was who I thought they wanted me to be. I didn’t want it to be an interview even if I wanted to know all about how they got to this place. How did they start, why did they start, and if the are still meeting anyone they met before. I wanted to ask specific questions and didn’t think it would be right to ask. Our first meeting was limited by the restaurant to two hours, Covid rules and the need to turn the table. We did get to know them, their vacations, what they like to do outside of swinging. I felt they were like us in many ways. The one thought I kept in my head is how were we going to get naked and have sex. He came across as real yet did I want him in me, could I let him? They did not come off as sex crazed or weird. Were we the weird ones? Why was I expecting weird? My husband was more pragmatic and thought they were an excellent couple, smart, caring, good looking. Good looking, she was very pretty in the pictures so we knew that, I don’t think we would meet a couple, a first couple, if either of us didn’t think they weren’t attractive. My real question is how do couples get from point A to point B. How do you get from social pleasantries to sexual activity? I for one felt shy even if I knew what the endgame was. We were new and I didn’t want to misstep or do the wrong thing.

I've actually put quite a lot of time into house projects too because come on, we had a lot of months in which we could have made anything we wanted. Of course, I made some porn-related discoveries as well. My wife found this site with porn accounts that we can get and try out a lot of different platforms. We made this habit that every weekend night we would watch videos from another site until we find our favorite. I don't think we have one just yet, but it's a super fun activity to do with your significant other cause you get to borrow a few techniques from the videos if you know what I mean.

There are many answers to your implied question. The method you suggest is an on-line contact, a first meet to see if there is chemistry, then another meet for the purpose of sex. This is very popular. Another way is for a couple to meet another couple and then go straight to sex. Another way is to meet at a swinger club or house party and go straight to sex. These three seem to contain most of the swinging activity, but there are others, such as going to resorts or on cruises, picking each other up at a bar or casino, etc.

Last year, I had my mouth treated as a cum receptacle. Had about 15 guys shoot their load into my mouth. It was a fantasy I never knew I wanted.

I don't know...I think I'd rather go pantiless than wear one a C-string thong because it looks uncomfortable and I wouldn't want to worry about "falling down" throughout the night.