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I think the idea of self worth came in my early 30s, that was the point where I stopped using sex as a way to get a man's favor. I grew up without a father, and a mother that did anything to get a man to stay with her, some of them did cruel things to me. So I ran away at 16. My first job was at a strip club where I worked till I was 29. I can tell you working as a stripper is not the place to find self worth. It wasn't till I was removed from that environment that I found the strength to love myself and see my value outside of the relationships I kept. .

When my husband, James, and I started doing full swaps we decided early on we preferred seperate rooms while swapping. It wasn't long before we unexpectedly indoctrinated a couple that were very good friends of ours into the life style. We had known them for 10 years and had been there when they met, dated and eventually got married. After we all started sleeping together we became even closer to them. They are truly our best friends. When it comes to Adam and Julie we had decided that we were comfortable being completely open with them. So permissions or planning are not needed to be affectionate or intimate with them. So if I want to spend time with Adam I can, if Julie wants time with my James she can. If Julie and I want some female affection, we just do it. So I quickly realized that Adam started his days early and ended his work day around 3 PM every day which was when I got out also. After a full day of work I am ready for a brain break and for me sex is the ultimate brain break, since my husband wasn't out of work yet, I started using Adam to reinvigorate the work engine. So I'd stop at his place on my way home and we would get frisky. My husband and Julie start their day later and they both enjoy morning sex, so Julie would leave her house just after Adam and I went to work and she would drop by our house and go upstairs and wake James for morning loving. Now I know this happens but had never experienced it or saw it, so while it was real, it wasn't "real" to me. One day I got to work and realized I wasn't feeling well so I left work and headed home. To my surprise, my husband and Julie were naked on the couch, she was on top and was seriously riding my husband. Now I know this happens, we had talked about it a lot, but I had never walked in on them doing the deed and it was just as she was orgasming. I should not have been shocked, but I was, and I shouldn't have felt a pang of jealousy, but I did. I had to step out of the room momentarily to compose myself. I'd have been devastated if I had ruined such a beautiful moment. To this day I have no clue what made me flash temporarily jealous shades, was it a first time thing, or was it reality catching me off guard, or if it was how amazing Julie looked. She is fit, thin and beautiful and James deeply enjoys her company. But I can't blame him, cause I regularly enjoy her company also. It doesn't flare anymore now, it was just that first time. So have you ever walked in on a moment you weren't expected to see? Did you react the way you expected too?

I prefer the way Peter, Paul and Mary covered the song.

I wrote a short story about this topic, published it on Literotica. If anyone wishes to read it, PM me and I'll ship you the story.

it could have been just a passing moment. It sounds like you weren't feeling well and, and went home early to find your hubby feeling more than just OK. I think you "caught" them when you were in a blah mindset, and so it was the combination of you feeling crappy, and him feeling not so crappy in the moment that caused a little twinge of jealousy. I wouldn't be too worried.

True. And it is well to remember the fear that lies at the root of jealousy, namely the fear of abandonment. Every happy LS couple has somehow come to the understanding/realization/acceptance that play is play, and that their partner will not walk away from their shared life. It takes substantial work--and greater respect--within the marriage to get to that point. You don't have to be in the LS to aspire to that level of trust. But if you are going to be in the LS and happy there, you do need to build and maintain that trust, every day.

Totally! ?? I went to You Tube and found a strange video of Dylan singing the song over black & white clips of London in the ‘50s and early ‘60s. Odd, but also kinda cool. https://youtu.be/u-Y3KfJs6T0

Sleeping with a co-worker or employee strikes me as a bad idea. Ex-co-worker could work. People tell me that romances begin at work. Who wants to see them everyday after it doesn’t work out?

Worthy of a Nobel Prize.

I don't seek out coworkers for sexual relationships, but I have slept with one specific coworker that I had an incredible amount of sexual tension with on more than a few occasions. On a sexual level we are like kismet, fated to fuck. I travel frequently for work and when I travel with him, we do not sleep alone. We also don't sleep.

I think the hostess is knitting a shawl with everyone’s names

Arithmetically speaking: our stance is two guys go into one girl much better than one guy going into 2 girls.

Well your guy brain is mistaken. Cause the vagina is covered.

Absolutely! Here you go! ??

Certainly not for everyone, but we started with my wife becoming reacquainted with an ex who she told me she really enjoyed as a sex partner. (Talking about our previous sex partners was part of our love life that turned us both on.) She met up with him, later we three went to dinner, the third time they met up for sex and he knew that it was with my encouragement and approval. It was comfortable for them because they had been lovers in the past and knew it would be good. It was comfortable for me because they were exes, no new ground being plowed, so to speak. Consider it. BTW, sex for us was unbelievably intense afterwards for at least a week.

I don't want to put my mouth in the doo-doo zone. I wouldn't expect anyone else to do it, either. I guess precautions can be taken to clean up, but it is not very appetizing to me. Fingers and sex organs, OK. Mouth, not for me. Enjoy away if you like it.