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Like I said, we have done it. I have no issue with how far she wants to take it but its her preference to not go "all the way."

When my husband, James, and I started doing full swaps we decided early on we preferred seperate rooms while swapping. It wasn't long before we unexpectedly indoctrinated a couple that were very good friends of ours into the life style. We had known them for 10 years and had been there when they met, dated and eventually got married. After we all started sleeping together we became even closer to them. They are truly our best friends. When it comes to Adam and Julie we had decided that we were comfortable being completely open with them. So permissions or planning are not needed to be affectionate or intimate with them. So if I want to spend time with Adam I can, if Julie wants time with my James she can. If Julie and I want some female affection, we just do it. So I quickly realized that Adam started his days early and ended his work day around 3 PM every day which was when I got out also. After a full day of work I am ready for a brain break and for me sex is the ultimate brain break, since my husband wasn't out of work yet, I started using Adam to reinvigorate the work engine. So I'd stop at his place on my way home and we would get frisky. My husband and Julie start their day later and they both enjoy morning sex, so Julie would leave her house just after Adam and I went to work and she would drop by our house and go upstairs and wake James for morning loving. Now I know this happens but had never experienced it or saw it, so while it was real, it wasn't "real" to me. One day I got to work and realized I wasn't feeling well so I left work and headed home. To my surprise, my husband and Julie were naked on the couch, she was on top and was seriously riding my husband. Now I know this happens, we had talked about it a lot, but I had never walked in on them doing the deed and it was just as she was orgasming. I should not have been shocked, but I was, and I shouldn't have felt a pang of jealousy, but I did. I had to step out of the room momentarily to compose myself. I'd have been devastated if I had ruined such a beautiful moment. To this day I have no clue what made me flash temporarily jealous shades, was it a first time thing, or was it reality catching me off guard, or if it was how amazing Julie looked. She is fit, thin and beautiful and James deeply enjoys her company. But I can't blame him, cause I regularly enjoy her company also. It doesn't flare anymore now, it was just that first time. So have you ever walked in on a moment you weren't expected to see? Did you react the way you expected too?

I've walked in on my wife several times when she was unexpectedly having sex at our house, our bed, actually. The acts that they were involved in, however, wasn't unexpected. Yeah, I was pleasantly surprised, said hello, and told them I'd be in another part of the house and if they needed anything to call me. A couple of times they (my wife and another man, woman, couple) called me for another dick. Had dinner afterwards.

My wife is a totally hot Brunette. I just love the idea of watching a couple of guys spit-roasting her on all fours. Is that weird?

An uncommon scenario to be sure but we have been dabbling in the lifestyle for a few years. Not much in 2020 for multiple reasons. As we have met mostly couples and a few single guys, we have found that she likes the attention when in MFM but has only had sex with Mr. Shy and wants to keep it that way. Also she can be a little jealous if he gives too much attention to other ladies. This works out pretty well since I enjoy seeing her get off, drive men wild, and be as slutty as she dares. Probably the hottest thing we tried along these lines was a mini blow bang with 3 other guys. Crazy hot. All the guys left smiles on their faces and their cum on her tits. Would like to explore more of this without crossing the line to full sex unless she decides that she is ready. Anybody done this? Thoughts? Suggestions? Anecdotes?

We are new to this and I wonder how most couples feel that first time meeting. I read that couples have gone to clubs, met a random couple, had a friend start. Everyone had to start planned or unplanned. We started by joining a match site that we paid to join. I’ve read many on here are members of that site. Going back and forth crossing off frauds, single men, men masquerading as women and couples and many couples who just didn’t interest us we finally made a date. Meeting a couple for sex during a pandemic and we all decided to come to an outdoor restaurant with proof of negative Covid tests taken that week. We were happy to finally meet and they were the people who were the people they said they were. Before the meeting they asked us what we were looking for, we didn’t have an answer other than looking for a no pressure evening. I never thought about what others do or how to break the ice. I was honest that it was a thought that we discussed during quarantine. We talked about going through changes and how it was with me. She understood the way a man can’t. The pros and cons, the therapies, the sweats and other physical things. I told them things I don’t discuss with my friends. At their suggestion we went home to talk and make sure. I thought it was a way for them to bail on us. The next day she called me to say they had a good time. It was a call after a first date call which amused me. The call went on for almost an hour, her telling me about others they met and then decided not to meet again. She bragged about her husband and what a great guy he is. One thing I wasn’t ready to be asked about is if I was bi curious. I did not have that on my profile, yet it was something I saw in almost all the swinging porn we watched. My answer was the truth, I don’t know what I am. We did meet them again and we had a very memorable time. I just wonder how other couples met and how the meeting evolved to having sex.

The original question was, "Would you swing with a co-worker?" Supposedly no romance would be involved it was understood as swinging going in, like the spouses knew and potentially involved as well. Long ago, when I was first non-monogamous, and feeling full of myself, I got sexually involved with a guy with an outside accounting/consulting firm doing work for my company. I told everyone (him, hubby, my ex-fiancé/boyfriend) what was going on, and each knew that the others knew what was going on. He was a selfish lover (basically he wanted blowjobs, bum sex and cared only about his Os and not mine). So I ended it (after taking him to a hotel and making him do oral on me for hours and doing nothing for him). I saw him again over the next several years. It may have been awkward for him, but not me.

I prefer the way Peter, Paul and Mary covered the song.

What I count as my first shared sexual experience was when we were in our early 20s. I had broken up with my ex-fiancé Red, who I was still seeing, sharing the details of my personal life with, and screwing, while dating David, the guy who would become my husband. David and I had sex after a date, then I went to see Red, told him what had happened, and had sex with him as well. Or maybe it was several weeks later when David said that he knew I was still screwing Red (I talked about him a lot) and was OK with it. Or maybe it was months later when we had our first not-so-awkward and normal feeling MFM. It felt strangely normal and empowering for me that two men could love me despite me loving the other. BTW, David is still my husband, Red is still my boyfriend and I have children with both.

When one of my college roommates was a teenager, his family stayed in a hotel in the Catskill Mountains of NY. Used to be a popular resort before cheap airfares to warmer climes. Two young women asked my friend if he wanted to watch them engage in lesbian activities. Scared and knowing it was immoral and wrong, he declined. My friend reported this incident to his father, expecting praise for his restraint and moral compass. Instead his father said “Are you an idiot? That was the opportunity of a lifetime!”

My wife reminded me of a funny story, to keep my borscht belt thread going. I accompanied my wife to a lingerie shop and I dilligently read my iPhone while my wife was trying things on with the assistance of a sales associate. The sales associate said to me “Your wife has an incredible body.” The sales associate is right. I said “ Can you imagine how much money I have to have to land a wife like that?” The sales associate did not know what to say. True story, verbatim.

Sometimes, but my administrative assistant proofs more of my correspondence and I don't need the harassments claim so I have not asked her to handle my posts. I guess I became a accounting tax guy to avoid the grammar police.

I think it goes back to the old adage, when asked what a perfect woman was one man said, "a perfect woman would be a cook in the kitchen, a lady in the parlor, and a whore in the bedroom?" Then the other man replied, "My perfect woman is a whore in the kitchen, a whore in the parlor, and a whore in the bedroom. Men may enjoy the prestige of a proper wife but behind closed doors they want a wife that truly has an insatiable sexual appetite. They want us to give into our sluttiest desires, and what is more slutty than tasting another man's cock, and sucking it dry.

Well . . . It seems to me that when a couple in their thirties or forties writes suggesting that they want to get into swinging, but are having troubles wrapping their heads around it. We counsel them that we are taught as children that sex outside of marriage is bad, terrible, immoral, and that it takes some time to reorient themselves. It seems that NJBM's story is about a young person who ran into that barrier.

Sounds fun to me. I love brunettes, I love watching my hot wife (whose hair color varies depending on mood and available dyes - presently purple) get spit roasted on all fours and she loves doing it. What does you wife think of the idea?

There are many answers to your implied question. The method you suggest is an on-line contact, a first meet to see if there is chemistry, then another meet for the purpose of sex. This is very popular. Another way is for a couple to meet another couple and then go straight to sex. Another way is to meet at a swinger club or house party and go straight to sex. These three seem to contain most of the swinging activity, but there are others, such as going to resorts or on cruises, picking each other up at a bar or casino, etc.

I generally give that up too! ????????

Enchilada? I've always heard it referred to as a taco.

I have went in with the intention of just giving a blow job a few times but I always end up giving in and giving him the whole enchilada.

More times than not that is how things play out here. Folks keep coming back so it must work. When they get to be close enough it can lead to more. Neither of us has any problem with the "more" part it just takes a while for us.