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For many people their work environment is where they make most of their casual friendships. It’s the easiest place to find potential romantic and/or casual sexual partners. Everyone on this board probably knows couples who met through work. It’s probably how some of them met their current partners. And, based on some of the previous posts I’ve read, they’ve even entered into swinger relationships with coworkers. That said, my opinion is that (particularly in the current legal and social environment) sex with a coworker, swinging or otherwise, is a quite risky endeavor. If it is someone who falls under your supervisory chain, and you are found out – even long after the relationship ended — you will be fired. And unless your talents are extraordinary, you will find it challenging to find a new position. The financial risks for an organization are just too high. Over the course of a lengthy career I had two brief “inappropriate“ relationships. In the first instance, it was a direct report who had already turned in her resignation, effective several weeks in the future. The second was temporarily assigned to the department I managed. (The latter I’m close friends with more than 20 years later, although our sexual liaison was quite brief.) Because these two relationships were two and three decades ago, if we’d been busted in either case, I would certainly have been disciplined, though probably not fired. One of my former colleagues was not so fortunate. I first knew her when she was a middle manager in an outward-facing position. She was very cute, but sadly possesed of a voice I can only describe as “fingernails on a chalkboard” unpleasant. She also had a reputation for having affairs with colleagues outside our organization. No one was surprised when her marriage broke up. About the time I excepted a much better (professional) offer and left the company, she ascended to senior management. A couple of years later she was forced out of the company. She had a problem with her computer and the IT department technician who came to fix it found a folder on her computer‘s desktop that contain sexually explicit photographs of my former colleague with her (female — I hadn’t known she was bi) assistant. The IT guy attempted to blackmail her for sex. My former colleague immediately went to the legal department and told them of the attempted extortion. The IT guy was fired on the spot. Then the HR department called my former colleague in and reminded her that she wasn’t supposed to be having sex with subordinates. She was fortunate they allowed her to resign, and as I understand it even sent her away with a cash package. This woman was done in our industry — everyone soon knew about it — but she landed on her feet, using connections she had made during the course of her employment to land a job at one of the major entertainment industry talent agencies. She is still in that industry and as far as I can tell, thriving. I’m not sure if she learned a lesson or not. But I certainly took it as an object example of how playing around with colleagues can have a major impact on one’s life.

Michael enjoys watching me do anything I enjoy doing. What makes any person enjoy anything in life? Do you watch sad movies, comedies, mysteries, or listening to different types of music? Why do people go to museums to see abstract art? Why do people enjoy porn? Is it strange I enjoy seeing a new penis? Michael has said my whole body changes when I know I am with someone new. I normally enjoy watching how a man changes physically as he grows and how his balls react, how he will tighten his butt. I enjoy going slow and he has told me he can see if I am enjoying by how I attack a blow job. I don’t tell a partner to face fuck as I enjoy the act of a slow time and let the guy see what I am enjoying.

I didn’t want to watch and at first was horrified when she first took him in her mouth even if our own sex always involves oral. I expected the sex and didn’t think it all through. Looking back it was hot and it was satisfying knowing she did a great job. In subsequent meeting I did enjoy watching.

So husband and I have talked about swinging and went to a club last month. We observed, talked with some couples, and just generally enjoyed ourselves. We went back the next weekend but still just observed but these weekends lead us to a deep conversation. We laid out what we want and set our rules and overall agreement. Since I mostly top him, he wants a sub to top. We have a friend who we have spoken with and has come to an agreement with us. It was mainly just going to be him topping her but she wants me involved also as her "queen bee". I want to play around a little, so I get to play at the club with males. Here lies my problem: I suffer from extreme anxiety issues. No matter how excited or looking forward to something I am, I always want to run when the time comes. The closer we get to this upcoming weekend where us and our "kitten" are going to the club and staying at a hotel, I am getting more and more nervous. Even though I am consider myself bi, I have been with a woman. And even though a man at the club has shown interest in me, I just don't know how I am going to be able to get past my anxiety to go to a room with him. My husband has even said he will approach this man about me. How did you get past first time nerves/anxiety??

I think i'm a lot like you @Queenb87. I remember being so nervous the first few times i swore the other couple could hear my heart beating out of my chest. But the more you do this the easier it gets - it may just take a while til you're relaxed enough to really enjoy yourself. I will say this: most clubs are BYOB so bring your favorite alcoholic beverage and have a drink or two before getting started. As much as I hate to condone alcohol as a coping mechanism, I really think it helps relax you and remove some of those inhibitions ?

For me it’s very much a turn on watching her suck off another man, but she absolutely loves having them shoot their load on her face....even more exciting for me!

I don’t understand liking her gagging. Gagging means she can’t breathe and not something I would want to see someone I love going through. Do you enjoy being choked, I know some men do, not any I know. Some men like to be demeaned I just never understood.

Ann-Margaret is hot to this very day!

I think since many of us are working from home we are sleeping with coworkers.

for bi curious, watching and play, we like Caliente Tampa in the evening...... around the upper pool or back at a room... Girl/Girl for sure and and a friend and I sucked each other off in front of the girls late one evening r&r