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You have to get past the mental part. Men thing they're too small. Women think they're too fat, boobs are too small, etc. Be you. Be confident. The self criticism is a downer. When I meet a woman and she mentions her "big ass" or "flat chest"...I immediately look for the exit. D-R-A-M-A. Guys, here is a shock...there is someone who has a large dick than you. Yep. I know. SHOCKING! There are also guys who have bigger muscles, better abs, a better jaw line, make more money, whatever. Yeah, you're average. Get over it. You're in a situation where another man's wife is going to get naked and want to fuck. Open you're eyes...she's right there! Please her. Work on your oral skills. Work on your fingering skills. You lick her to orgasm, then gently finger her, tease the g-spot...make her cum again via the g-spot while her clit recovers. And ladies....yeah, your boobs are probably small, or large, or funny shaped, or something. Your butt...probably bigger than that woman's over there but smaller than that other woman. No one cares. You going to drop your clothes, get that guy wet with your mouth and then ride him for an hour? You going to lick the other wife while your husband pounds you from behind? At the end of the night, is everyone going to be catching their breath, thinking 'that was freaking awesome'? No one cares about your boobs or your butt. I'm not the most experienced guy. I've been around a little. The most memorable sexual experiences were not with the hottest women. It wasn't the thinnest or the one with the largest boobs. The most memorable are the ones where she had no hangups. If you have a small dick, pick up other skills. The best pitcher isn't the one with the best fastball. The best pitcher has 3 pitches that he mixes well, keeping the hitters off balance. Bring your fingers, mouth and dick. Three pitches. Learn to mix them up, keep her off balance. When she heads back to the bench you want her smiling and thinking 'damn, that guy has some nasty stuff!'

I'm a guy who has a desire to please. For some reason I'm wired to enjoy giving rather than receiving. I'd bet a psychologist would have a field day with me. I hated Christmas from a very young age because I don't like gifts. My parents used to give me gifts with the receipt, knowing I would return whatever they got me. And I always made sure they got the credit back. I've always loved giving pleasure to partners, with no need for reciprocation. I feel bad when a woman gives me a blowjob and I'm not able to reciprocate. Yes, it feels wonderful during, if I can get my mind right, but afterwards I feel selfish. I'm always willing to please a woman orally, digitally, and/or please with toys. When I hear friends talk about sex, it is always about their pleasure. They cum, woman, eh, maybe. I always found that when you give a woman an orgasm (or multiple), they're likely to return for more. And I'm always willing to provide it. With that said, I would think that after three years of watching you with other men, knowing that you have no problem being sexual with another man, etc that even I would want another woman involved, whether it be a FMF or MFMF. I would think there comes a day when he realizes that you're, well, kinda selfish. It may not be soon, but I bet it'll happen. I'd recommend not continuing with MFM threesomes until you're able to open your mind to him getting more than a random blowjob while you're getting ^$^%$&^ by other men.

no but i bet that would be fun!

In my profession I spend a LOT of time teaching and coaching people to be concerned with what they can change, control or fix, NOT what they can't. Guys, you can't change your dick. stop worrying about it. Then: DO NOT POINT OUT YOUR INSECURITIES TO OTHERS!!!! Ladies, follow the same advice. Discreetplay above offers great advice. It's harmful. Be healthy, walk, shower work on the things you can and then love the result even if it's fat, sagging, too small etc. Then bring your A-game to the people you interact with. A smile, a flirtation, a light touch, confidence, compliments and even a bit of exhibitionism just to let everyone know you think your sexy. It will go a long way.

I am not reckless by any measure, but my philosophy is the opposite. Regrets come from what is not tried as well as what is. You only need to ponder an adventure for a long time if it is something permanent, like quitting a job and moving elsewhere or having a child. Having sex with someone is not such an event, you can just stop, it doesn't detract from you. One of my biggest "regrets" early on was playing for some months with a guy who turned out not to be nice and not even a good sexual partner. My husband recognized that I was persisting at it even though it was unfulfilling because I hate to fail at something; I was trying to make sex with this guy "work," and hubby told me it was ok just to let it go. It turned out to be a good lesson, and not really a regret.

However there still are consequences for it today which is why I don't allow myself to be filmed. But I do admire her attitude towards it.

Go to a nice hotel bar, the men tend to be out of their normal environment and no one knows them. They will do things they normally won't.

I think my partners love it that I can go balls deep without any pain. I also use the head of my cock to hit their spots.

Why "needless to say?" What was wrong with them? The cloven hooves putting runs in the stockings? And honestly, why does religious belief even come up as a topic when meeting potential sexual playmates? I don't get it. Oh well, to each his own. Personally, religious beliefs aren't exactly at the top of the list when it comes to selecting partners. (Full disclosure: I consider myself a pagan) I won't even mention politics when chatting up a new couple, and believe me, that matters a lot more to me.