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Ok, this thread is back, but it has been stripped of everything that was causing dissension. Something that I think bears mentioning, throughout the site but especially on this thread. I think it is only polite and shows respectful to other members of the community, but especially someone who took the time to start a topic for discussion like NWAtlSwing did here, for that thread to stay on topic. NWAtlSwing asked a great question - What do you miss in these swinging times we find ourselves in? I think it will best serve our community If we keep the discussion to that, and not as a springboard into anything else. Thanks for understanding.

Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride.

We joined the Mile High club on a United flight to Europe. We had three seats to stretch out during the long overnight flight with plenty of time for a a deep suck. An hour later we went to the lavatory to complete the membership. We know the flight attendants knew what we were up to as one gave us a big smile when we returned to our seats. Yeah it’s tight in the lav.

This has nothing to do with swinging and maybe not the kinkiest thing, One day I’m band camp. Just kidding. I was in High School, and had my first sex just months before when a girl I knew as a friend only asked if I wanted to go to the mall after school. Me being excited just to be asked by a girl to go anywhere jumped to go with her. It’s not like I didn’t know her, we had been friends for years, looking back I was just a shy nerd. We were in a store and she was in a try on room and she called out to me to get her a different color. I go back and she opens the door in her underwear and pulls me in. I was scared shit that someone saw me go into the changing room. She tells me to be quiet and drops to her knees. She was a crazy girl who liked to take chances in very public places including an office in our church. I’m not sure how kinky this was if this is considered a kink even though I’m smiling just thinking about that few months. Little did I know that those times would be tame compared to what I later did.

So my wife and I have been dirty talking a MMF 3way for a bit now. She desperately wants to be penetrated while she gives oral, but she strongly thinks that as a married couple it should only be us. She can't help but twerk her ass when she's on her knees sucking me and we both get super turned on when talking about another guy sharing her. I've talked her into getting a thrusting dildo and seeing how that goes. Any tips on how to get it to go further? I'd love to share my wife with another man and eventually experiment with other aspects of swinging.

There is something exciting about playing with someone new. I think I have read I am not alone in the excitement of undressing a new man, and the sight of seeing what I am going to find. I usually say size doesn’t matter and then I say it may be when first seeing a new one. Every man reacts differently when we meet. On the other side meeting people we enjoy being with is exciting too just a different excitement. We will only meet a couple a second time if we enjoyed being with them socially and sexually. It needs to be more than just sex.

I'm re-posting this with and for you. And yes MFM is not the same as MMF My Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. If you post a profile and make it clear as to what you are interested in you will get a lot of offers, be careful take you time, if the first few don't work out, be patience it will happen. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride. She now wont's us to find a couple to play with, she wont's to watch me with another lady. If you had told me a year ago she would be so open to all this I would never had believed it.

A good mixture of both. always incorporate new people into the fold. More options for more fun.

We have a standing rule, when in a MFM session if she brings you to completion and swallows, she expects a deep kiss afterwards from both of us.

I miss going to our football games and friends weekends. I also miss seeing my friends and going to an office to work and seeing my coworkers. I miss going into restaurants, movies, museums, concerts, shows. I miss seeing people walking and talking. That’s it, now I’m getting depressed. I’ll tell you what I enjoy. Being with my husband and not rushing out in the morning. We have also made a decision that we allow two friends into our house. We have also been able to save money because we aren’t traveling, eating out, and doing all the things we are missing. Think we are going to need the savings after things get back to normal.

Thank you for sharing and ironically my husband and I, both Christians, discuss this often. We agree there is no room for us to ever judge anyone or pick which rules we “obey”, but outside of the numerous other things of ones’s faith, we agreed to honesty with one another & others, to hold one another and selves accountable that we never hurt anyone through this process. We also try to listen more to others backgrounds, beliefs & sexuality. Not how we were brought taught, but so glad we did. We’ve met amazing people!!

God gave you a body and a mind that can experience pleasure. We always believed it's silly to think He doesn't want you to use it, and it's a sin to live life foregoing pleasure for pain and suffering.

Here my 2 cent on this. I am not a fan either of incest porn but, but from most "stories lines" all people are willing to do it and have sex with one another. The porn I hate is the ones that glorified rape and that. Not a fan of Kink for that. I think rape is no joke. The endless stories we hear from rape from hear real people, the stories we see from Law and Order SVU and the countless tv and movie we have seen. Rape is no joke and should NEVER be glorified.

Here is the story of our first threesome. It all started with our weekend vacation to San Francisco. We had an amazing day sight seeing and day drinking. We returned to our hotel slightly buzzed and proceeded to get ready for dinner. Before going out, I set her up with a vibrating panties. We went to an expensive seafood dinner and I continued to tease throughout the meal. At one point, she went to the bathroom and I accidentally left it on and she had her first orgasm of the night. After dinner, we had then gone to a bar to have after dinner cocktails. While at the bar, we ran into an old coworker I had worked with about 10 years ago. We all had a beer at the bar and he let us know how he was now a massage therapist. His appointment that evening had cancelled and already paid him for the session. We brought the party back to our hotel and continued to have another beer and played a game of pool. Since I had beaten him at pool, the bet was he had to give my wife a massage for free. My wife had complained about being really sore from previous weeks workout. Sure enough, our new friend met us at our hotel room with his massage table. He went to the bathroom to get ready while my wife striped down to her panties and got under the sheet. The massage started out like your standard massage and he started by giving her a very intense back massage. After He finished massaging my wife’s back, he pulled the sheet over her and started to massage her legs and hamstrings. He had used long strokes and massages my wife’s hamstrings and her butt, while she was still wearing panties. At one point, I asked her if she would like it if He would continue to massage her butt, and if it was ok if she took her panties off. She appeared really turned on and agreed and I helped her take her panties off. From there, our friend continued to massage her butt with long snow strokes and would occasionally brush her pussy. I could tell my wife was extremely turned on as she would moan softly every time he got close to her pussy. On the flip, He kept my wife draped with a sheet and had continued to massage the front of her legs. She again would continue to moan every time he got close to her sensual areas. I then motioned for him to massage her head and chest, eventually leading to her 34C breast. He continued to use long strokes while he massages my wife’s boobs and continues to her stomach. He then ran his hands over her shortly trimmed public hair and then brushed her clit. At this point; my wife was moaning very loudly and we could tell she wanted more. Our friend then continued to massage my wife’s clit and added some massage oil and started to finger her to her second orgasm of the night. My wife had her second and third orgasm while being fingered by our new friend. I then motioned for him to take of his pants and suggested my wife repay the favor. He quickly dropped his pants all the while continuing to massage my wife’s breast and pussy. I directed her had to our friend cock and she began jerking him off while he played with her pussy. At this time, I told my wife that she should fuck him. She asked me if it was ok and I told her I would like nothing better. We then took the party to our bed and I handed him a condom, which he happily put on. My wife started in doggy style and he slowly inserted his hard cock into my wife’s soaking wet pussy. Watching my wife fuck a new guy after almost 20 years is being together was the hottest moment in our sex life. He was fucking my wife doggy style while I made our with her. It seemed like she came another 2 times with this new cock in her pussy. She then rolled over onto her back and Will continued to have sex with her missionary. He rode her for a couple minutes until I interrupted them so I could have a turn inside her wet vagina. I then mounted her and felt her have another orgasm. He was standing by the edge of the bed and I pushed her toward him. He then entered her again for a few thrust, but it seemed like her was close to his own orgasm. He pulled out and licked my wife’s clit, until she came an additional 2 times. After 2 more orgasms, he inserted his hard cock into her pussy for a final time and blew his load in the condom. After he unloaded into the condom, I lied flat on the bed and my wife rode my cock for a couple minutes until we both came. I shot my load deep into her push and she rolled off of me, completely exhausted. She almost immediately passed out completely naked and my friend and I had laid next to her for a couple minutes before he got up, got dressed, and packed up his stuff. We talked briefly and he left us while she was passed out. I crawled back into bed and held my naked wife as we both passed out. I hope you enjoyed the story of our first threesome.

My husband and I are very devout Christians - I teach Sunday School and volunteer a lot of hours. I find nothing conflicting about the lifestyle and Christianity. I am faithful to the man that I love - I choose to have sex with other people but I only love my husband. But nothing is more important to me then my relationship and faith in God and Jesus. I know there are a lot of people in the lifestyle who share these beliefs.

Lustylearning, you're exactly right about the intent of the original post. While not getting into "religion" here, I will say "religion" is a strict adherance to a specific set of rules. "Christianity" is a way of life knowing freedom through Christ's sacrifice. The trouble with folks on the outside looking at "Christianity" is that they see "Religion: the strict adherance to standards", not the freedom of Christianity. We enjoy the freedom of having 'friends with benefits'. And do not see anything wrong with a couple "sharing" with another couple. It's all done above board and honestly.

Just wanted to post that we have continued to get together with our friends and are enjoying their company in and out of the bedroom. We still like going to the swing socials but haven't done full swap with any other couples. The 'lifestyle' is great for enjoyment for both of us and keeps our passion alive. Where else can you find un-hibited folks?

Lustylearning, we meant that swinging was fun and we seemed to be more alive than we had in years. However, what it boiled down to was we learned much more (or either RE-discovered) than we had known. We're not sorry it happened, it was a good learning experience. We just decided that we didn't need it to start with: we had each other all along. We made some great friends and do still keep up with them. WE (the two of us) had let our passion diminish, swinging definitely cranked it up again, as we posted in our first note. And it's still cranked up. No problems.

Hey, it's tn_softswing2 again. After all the searching we did, we found out we had what we had been looking for all along: EACH OTHER. And that's enough. Take care all.........

Isn't it great when sane, sober, respectfull and responsible consenting adults can get past the dogma and indoctrination and actually take responsibility for their own sexualities?