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There is something exciting about playing with someone new. I think I have read I am not alone in the excitement of undressing a new man, and the sight of seeing what I am going to find. I usually say size doesn’t matter and then I say it may be when first seeing a new one. Every man reacts differently when we meet. On the other side meeting people we enjoy being with is exciting too just a different excitement. We will only meet a couple a second time if we enjoyed being with them socially and sexually. It needs to be more than just sex.

My wife and I discussed this extensively because we both enjoy meeting and having sex with new people, and seeing the other do so. But we decided along with four other couples who feel the same way to form a closed group. It gives us plenty of variety and no worries; bareback all the time, alone play, nothing is prohibited for any of us.

My advice is for your wife to start with what is familiar, comfortable, and enjoyable. My wife and I began with her getting back (separately) with two ex-boyfriends. It started as a foreplay fantasy where she told me who she enjoyed as sex partners, so I said to go for it. First time they had dinner together, second time we three had dinner to make clear I was good with it, third time they did it. Eventually we MFMed with both and have moved on to couple's swaps. It was comfortable for me because she had been with them before and no new ground was being plowed, so to speak.

We are mostly looking for friends with benefits so we prefer swinging with people we know...that not to say that it isn't fun to occasionally swing with someone new.

A good mixture of both. always incorporate new people into the fold. More options for more fun.

Ok, this thread is back, but it has been stripped of everything that was causing dissension. Something that I think bears mentioning, throughout the site but especially on this thread. I think it is only polite and shows respectful to other members of the community, but especially someone who took the time to start a topic for discussion like NWAtlSwing did here, for that thread to stay on topic. NWAtlSwing asked a great question - What do you miss in these swinging times we find ourselves in? I think it will best serve our community If we keep the discussion to that, and not as a springboard into anything else. Thanks for understanding.

Both for sure

My feelings have changed over time. When we first started meeting my school friends there was an excitement to see who was going to show up at our tailgate parties and I used to wonder who I might be playing with. I was excited to have a friend approach me as I was not sure how to approach others. It was more like wow they want me and even though I was attracted to others I didn’t approach. My husband on the other hand always approached girls he never met before. He would get me mad when he would say he got new pussy. As I became more comfortable being with my bi side, I started acting like the guys who approached every attractive girl. It was always exciting to see someone who was a good friend back in school was now as bi as I was. There was one party where a guy who was very endowed was the attention of too many of my friends. At first I had no intention of playing up to guy who knew his assets were an attraction and then I fell right in like the others. Then it became a challenge that I succumbed to. I admit it was exciting to be with someone new.

I learned more about my GF sexually by watching her fuck her ex than anyone else.

If it's a couple we get to swing with I like the excitement of it being someone new. If it's a MFM I think I prefer one of my buddies. If it's just my GF on her own or if I'm just watching her with someone else I like either. Basically we mix it up all the time and that seems to work for us.

Plant the seed and see if anything grows...

Update on this. So last night, we were fooling around. My wife was facing away from me, twerking her ass and talking dirty as I stroked my cock. Without provocation, she brought up the idea of another man fucking her. She then came up to me and started stroking my cock and sucking on my nipples (drives me crazy). She continued to dirty talk, brought up how she wants to be eaten out while she sucks a cock. Then out of no where said she wants a cock in her mouth, pussy and ass. Blew my damn mind. Now this may have just been dirty talk, but she's never spoken like that before and usually the idea starts with me bringing it up. Hopefully this means she's opening up to the idea! Plus, well she just brought up a gangbang fantasy, always knew she was dirty!

Any tips on how to get it to go further? Patience. Patience. More patience. I'd love to share my wife with another man and eventually experiment with other aspects of swinging. You have to let her drive this bus. You say you want to share your wife, then within the same sentence want to "experiment with other aspects of swinging". You say that to your wife and it's game over. She'll only hear the "other aspects" and go on the offensive with "you just want to screw other women". Does she have any interest in being with another woman? If not, having another woman there will make her feel like you want someone else. However, if you go with a MFM and it goes well, she loves it, etc...there is no need to ever bring in another woman because (1) she doesn't want to be with another woman and (2) the other woman is only there because you want to screw another woman. MFM for life...That's all she wrote. There was another post out here where a woman wrote how she and her husband had been doing MFM for years. She always froze up when they suggested a MFMF because she had issues with her husband being with another woman (but no issue with her getting another man). This is your likely scenario unless your wife wants to touch another woman. If there is any interest in another woman by her, you can easily go with another couple. This way you'll get to see her penetrated while she gives you oral as well as "other aspects of swinging". The way you present this to her is the key. If you say you want to see her penetrated while giving oral, you're going to pigeon hole yourself into MFM. You can talk about how you'd like to get oral from two hot women at the same time, how you want to watch her get oral from another woman, etc. Honest communication is the way to go before falling into the MFM for life scenario.

I'm re-posting this with and for you. And yes MFM is not the same as MMF My Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. If you post a profile and make it clear as to what you are interested in you will get a lot of offers, be careful take you time, if the first few don't work out, be patience it will happen. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride. She now wont's us to find a couple to play with, she wont's to watch me with another lady. If you had told me a year ago she would be so open to all this I would never had believed it.

We joined the Mile High club on a United flight to Europe. We had three seats to stretch out during the long overnight flight with plenty of time for a a deep suck. An hour later we went to the lavatory to complete the membership. We know the flight attendants knew what we were up to as one gave us a big smile when we returned to our seats. Yeah it’s tight in the lav.

This has nothing to do with swinging and maybe not the kinkiest thing, One day I’m band camp. Just kidding. I was in High School, and had my first sex just months before when a girl I knew as a friend only asked if I wanted to go to the mall after school. Me being excited just to be asked by a girl to go anywhere jumped to go with her. It’s not like I didn’t know her, we had been friends for years, looking back I was just a shy nerd. We were in a store and she was in a try on room and she called out to me to get her a different color. I go back and she opens the door in her underwear and pulls me in. I was scared shit that someone saw me go into the changing room. She tells me to be quiet and drops to her knees. She was a crazy girl who liked to take chances in very public places including an office in our church. I’m not sure how kinky this was if this is considered a kink even though I’m smiling just thinking about that few months. Little did I know that those times would be tame compared to what I later did.

The problem is that the behavior affects more than just the attendees themselves. They may be acting on what they think is "best for them". But they have chosen to ignore the consequences to others not attending the event. Somewhere between 1/3-1/2 of all infections are asymptomatic, and yet they will spread the virus to others who may be especially vulnerable. You surely do not believe that those attending were going to quarantine at home for two weeks, do you, and then make testing their first stop? Yes, people should be free to do as they want--provided it does not place other at preventable risk. In this particular context, failure to adhere to distancing, mask wearing, hygiene is a subsequent threat--and a violation of law. They knew the gathering was illegal, they chose to gather anyway, they were arrested and charged.

I like missionary. And being held very tight...

I can recall my wife being with 2 guys who were hung like the proverbial horse. The first was one her worst sexual experiences, because it was painful for her when he thrust into her. The second I actually got to watch and this guy was clearly aware of the problem and handled his length with great care. I actually felt kinda bad for him. Large size may make a good picture but it doesn't seem to work well in application.

Her first time with another man in front of me since we were married couldn't have been more perfect. She was so shy and nervous it was like watching a virgin. She kept her eyes closed from the moment she was naked and laying on her back on the bed waiting for him. As he began to press his cock into her her mouth and eyes opened wide to look at him and down at his cock as he pushed into her.