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Wife posting: we are interested in swinging with a bicouple. I love to be with another woman but I have not seen my husband with another man. He has done oral with a man. Looking for steady couple,in the phoenix area. We also into massage and oils.

We went 3 time zones away to join our swinger club just to avoid this possibility. Actually when we first became nudists 30 years or so ago we did that too although we eventually went to nudist venues in state. I encountered a family with a boy on the high school football team for which I was team Doc who were members at one of the local resorts. They were discreet, something that can't always be counted on. We still fly cross country to swing, never local.

Whenever we've been trying threesomes with a new partner, we always found a bottle of wine was roughly the correct amount. One glass to talk and get comfortable, and enough to top them off when you start undressing. If there's any awkwardness as you're first touching, etc., having the glass there and taking a sip is actually kind of a nice fidget item.

Wine really does help, not to much though. I really wanted my husband to go down on a wife of a couple we did same room sex with our mates. Her husband had filled her three times full and I so wanted my husband to go down on her (it was to be his first time eating someone else out since we married and his first cream pie that wasn't his, so it was a double the fun. As hot as I was and as much as I wanted to see him clean her out I was nervous as heck. My husband's mouth was going to be, be, be, well you know down there on someone else... I knew it was going to be an amazing experience for him I was caught twixt in between as you mentioned. I got another glass of wine finally saying what the heck dove in between her legs first asking him to join me. NOT something I just pop in and do. Oh my goodness, we had the time of our life and the poor lady was squirming and bucking all over. Her husband had to help hold her down. We lost count of her orgasms and we had a most delicious super deep kiss afterwards. It took weeks for my husband to get over the fact of what he had eaten out of her. I told him to focus on the fact of us eating her pussy out together as a couple, while I did focus on all the cum we ate out of her together, which worked for me. Hey, to each her/his own. We got through it, had fun, and have a wonderful memory of a great experience we share.

I answered this question years ago and my answer hasn’t changed much even after thinking this over and over. Our first swing was with my wife’s best friend and her new husband. I had many questions as why my wife found this necessary, was I not up to what she needed. It took time for me to agree to something that could go so wrong on so many different levels. I knew our friend for a very long time and she had been in my fantasy dreams as if I could fuck one of my wife’s friends she would be one. When she got divorced it got me crazy that she was dating and vacationing with new men. She got married to a man who at the time I had no idea was a swinger. Over time my wife knew about their private life and they planned a way for us to agree to play with them. Many fantasy could have been me playing with our friend, never included her husband. My fantasy fulfilled that day Seeing our friend naked Seeing my wife naked with her friend and then watching my wife have a very noisy orgasm from her friend. The biggest fulfillment was me in our friend and hearing her enjoying. Cumming together with her is something I will never forget.

No one should do something that they do not want to do. But it is also good to have an open mind if the activity is not hurtful or damaging. I do think some swingers find that they enjoy some bi activities, but that does not mean that they are gay. It is a spectrum of behavior.

I prefer to have meaningless group sex with strangers for sport with only fit, healthy, good-looking, well-groomed people. Call me shallow.

Currently playing with an ex employee and her husband, while she worked for us they knew about us we knew about them but, only lust was permitted. Once she left for another job we were able to get together for some naked fun which we repeat often.

I once ran into a woman from our nudist club in Staples. I did not recognize her with her clothes on. I knew that I knew her from somewhere...I was in my forties, so it wasn’t senility.

SAMnTINA, one time...at band camp.....(sorry. I saw the post about Band parents, and my mind went there )

Years ago we were at a house party where one couple arrived late, we were already naked and they joined right it after the fun we got dressed and were having a drink with everyone when when my wife said to the wife "we know you." "To which she replied your husband certainly does", to which the two women looked at each other again and both said at the same time, "Band Parents Right".

It's not always easy to explain to the Mrs. what you're getting out of it, is it? Can be pretty far removed from vanilla communication. First time Mrs. E was comfortable enough to get spit-roasted by two different men - something she's only done a couple of times since - was unbelievably intense to watch.

Hooked ever since the first time I tried it. Doesn't hurt that it drives my wife wild! She likes to finish herself off with a vibrator with her ass in the air and begs for me to eat it. Naughty girl loves to do it to me too, I cum so damn hard and fast (maybe a bit too fast when she does it)

Why would ethics come into play? As long as you are not sharing medical information or endangering people then I do not see an ethical issue.

In my travels I have had affairs and one night stands each having its own pluses and minuses. I only had affairs with women I enjoyed being with and I would make arrangements to meet in advance of a trip. The vast majority of these women were married and enjoyed the times we would meet. When things got either routine or complicated I would move on. When in new places or when I had nothing planned there was an excitement of looking and enjoying a new woman. I would think everyone who swings or plays outside of marriage is looking for new experiences. A new body, a new touch, a new movement, a new reaction. No two people will act the same way. My wife has told me she enjoys new men and enjoyed the men who pursued her on cheater sites. For years our marriage was a don’t ask don’t tell relationship. When we decided that talking was fine she told me stories of meeting several men during a week I was traveling, even two separately on the same night. As a woman she had more control of who she would see again and who she wouldn’t. I am thinking we were very much alike in that we enjoyed both.

How many guys like kissing while Fucking. Before, after, or while someone else is in her?

Am I crazy or are some people overthinking this entire thing? Your wife is not a child. If it were me I would be open, honest, and direct with her. She brought the idea up in bed so you already have the opening. If you're direct with her she should either say yes, no, or maybe. I am not really into playing games so maybe I'm a bit bias but I would be upfront at this point.

Wow good posts. Our first time was very hard for me, but the guy was very nice and respectful and kind. He treating me very good. By the third time (hard for me also) I was hooked. Now I look forward to this very much and I am much more into sex and open about what we do. This was the best fun for us both, trust me. We now plan our meets together and it is so much fun. She may be a changed women as I have been. To find your man is ok with this and I mean really ok with this is so liberating. I have become the whore lol in the bed room that men talk (dream) about. It is a great source of enjoyment for us both!

My feelings have changed over time. When we first started meeting my school friends there was an excitement to see who was going to show up at our tailgate parties and I used to wonder who I might be playing with. I was excited to have a friend approach me as I was not sure how to approach others. It was more like wow they want me and even though I was attracted to others I didn’t approach. My husband on the other hand always approached girls he never met before. He would get me mad when he would say he got new pussy. As I became more comfortable being with my bi side, I started acting like the guys who approached every attractive girl. It was always exciting to see someone who was a good friend back in school was now as bi as I was. There was one party where a guy who was very endowed was the attention of too many of my friends. At first I had no intention of playing up to guy who knew his assets were an attraction and then I fell right in like the others. Then it became a challenge that I succumbed to. I admit it was exciting to be with someone new.

I learned more about my GF sexually by watching her fuck her ex than anyone else.

Update on this. So last night, we were fooling around. My wife was facing away from me, twerking her ass and talking dirty as I stroked my cock. Without provocation, she brought up the idea of another man fucking her. She then came up to me and started stroking my cock and sucking on my nipples (drives me crazy). She continued to dirty talk, brought up how she wants to be eaten out while she sucks a cock. Then out of no where said she wants a cock in her mouth, pussy and ass. Blew my damn mind. Now this may have just been dirty talk, but she's never spoken like that before and usually the idea starts with me bringing it up. Hopefully this means she's opening up to the idea! Plus, well she just brought up a gangbang fantasy, always knew she was dirty!

I'm re-posting this with and for you. And yes MFM is not the same as MMF My Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. If you post a profile and make it clear as to what you are interested in you will get a lot of offers, be careful take you time, if the first few don't work out, be patience it will happen. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride. She now wont's us to find a couple to play with, she wont's to watch me with another lady. If you had told me a year ago she would be so open to all this I would never had believed it.

This has nothing to do with swinging and maybe not the kinkiest thing, One day I’m band camp. Just kidding. I was in High School, and had my first sex just months before when a girl I knew as a friend only asked if I wanted to go to the mall after school. Me being excited just to be asked by a girl to go anywhere jumped to go with her. It’s not like I didn’t know her, we had been friends for years, looking back I was just a shy nerd. We were in a store and she was in a try on room and she called out to me to get her a different color. I go back and she opens the door in her underwear and pulls me in. I was scared shit that someone saw me go into the changing room. She tells me to be quiet and drops to her knees. She was a crazy girl who liked to take chances in very public places including an office in our church. I’m not sure how kinky this was if this is considered a kink even though I’m smiling just thinking about that few months. Little did I know that those times would be tame compared to what I later did.

Absolutely. I love doing it and having it done to me.

Exactly, but I can't orgasm from anal alone, so DP is better. If I've been fucked to orgasm, and licked to another while he recovers, I'll certainly let him in my bum. Then maybe he'll lick me again.

We haven't encountered this yet but I (Mr) wouldn't have any issue. When we have sex and I drip (get close to cumming but stop and a fair amount of cum drips out), I'll lick it off Mrs stomach and kiss her while I reenter. Personally, I don't find that it tastes bad. I find pre-cum to be very sweet and cum to taste fine. When I was younger and dated women who wouldn't swallow I assumed it tasted horrendous. I felt bad if a girlfriend got any in her mouth and was very apologetic. Then I dated a few women who swallowed and was confused. I was also floored by the significant difference between a blowjob that was left in a woman's mouth during orgasm vs one where it is pulled out just before orgasm (and the feeling when a woman would gently suck my cock after I came in her mouth). I wondered how they were able to stomach the horrible tasting cum?? I decided I had to taste it myself. Afterwards I was shocked by the women I dated who were repulsed by the thought of cum in their mouth. 'This is what they were grossed out about??' To each their own....but I didn't understand. I'm very surprised by the men who say they expect a woman to use mouthwash, clean their mouth, etc before they'll kiss them if they had a cock in their mouth, especially their own! They expect their woman to swallow but won't kiss them? I'd kiss my wife even if I found cum to taste terrible. She just blew me. She just gave me a lot of pleasure. And I'm going to shun her until she cleans up? No way. She sucks another guy but I won't kiss her? Again, no way. She's crazy sexy for all she does and she's getting kissed! Again, to each their own.

My X wife was an advanced lover in oral sex. When we had intercourse and I came before she had an orgasm she would make me go down on her and give her an oral orgasm. She taught me how to eat her ass by doing a wild 69 where she called her technique follow the tongue where I did everything to her ass that she did to my ass. We both have long tongues and could screw each other‘s asses using our tongues like cocks. Both of us could orgasm from pleasuring each other‘s asses with our tongues. Word of caution only lick your lovers ass after she no longer wants her pussy licked and then wash your mouth out completely and use mouthwash afterwords.

The different permutations that being non-monogamous brings is what makes it exciting, enjoyable, and for me in a poly family, romantic.

We eat responsibly, exercise often and go to doctors. We are also selective with partners and use condoms 100%. We STD test at least annually. We are not models, but we take our health seriously.

At a swingers' club party we ran directly face-to-face with members of our synagogue. Their kids had gone to school with our kids and both my wife and the woman had worked together on committees. We realized instantly that we were all at the club for the same reason. This does not mean that we right away took them to a room for sex. We din not, in fact, make any plans for meeting them for sit-down talks for anything. We might have done so but it did not strike us as being worthwhile. They apparently felt the same as we greeted each other a few more times at the club and saw that at shul but received no "feelers". Life went on.

I really enjoy giving it and it makes me harder and have cam from it. Just seeing a nice juicy ass begging to be spread while your licking and tasting her juicy pussy is intoxicating!! The wife loves receiving it and has given it to me on occasion on I like it.

I agree with LM. A lot of sex has to do with the psychological end. He has made it clear that he is not into MM play, and to encourage him to do it anyway IMHO makes those who do no better than the wife that tricked him. This thread got me to thinking though. On many other threads men have come here asking how to push, manipulate, demand, coerce, and get the woman drunk enough to do what HE wants. Most all of us here have hanged and flamed these men, and flat out told em what we thought of men with that way of thinking. I see no difference between a man being devious and a woman being devious. Swinging is about honesty, flat out across the board. There is not a set of rules for the little boys, and a different set of rules for the little girls. So ViSexual, I strongly disagree. This wife had no business doing what she did, nor should we encourage him to "take one for the team". Especially when so many of us would not do so.