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We live in a small town in a rural area in a state that is ultra religious and conservative. So we usually go to the nearest big city to play. We know local swingers and they know us. One couple, my wife babysat her back in the day. So we just don't play at home. Not that we wouldn't like too but you can't let the little head do the thinking for the big head. I have to admit that we do have tons of plasible deniability. Unless you knew you would never guess how really kinky we are. TBH I think I would just lie.... sorry but it's true. In certain areas this becoming common knowledge would be disastrous. Your entire family would be negativity affected. So..... yeah I'm 2 faced but I still gotta live here.

LMAO this is why i love this community so much... i love how open everyone it. the way it should be!!!

We have not, but we have discussed this. Answer vary from: Looking at them and asking "Where did you hear THAT." Looking at them chuckling and say something to the tune of "I'll add that to my resume." If they really insisted "Well do you?" I think I'd go up to them throw my arm over a shoulder and ask "Why? You interested?" followed by an evil chuckle.

While the IDEA of dogging may be very exciting, the actual ACT isn't as exciting and can be VERY DANGEROUS. Even the adult theater idea is still rather risky (they still HAVE adult theaters?). By far, the safest bet is a swingers club. Dogging in a swingers club is usually referred to as 'Saturday night'

I usually read that it’s the man that suggested swinging, for us it was my wife, how did you react? I figure most will immediately say they didn’t hesitate and jumped at the suggestion. I think that is a too simple answer. My first feelings were why did she want or find the need to go to someone else for sexual satisfaction, was I not enough. She did explain that our friends were swingers and it sounded fun and thought she would enjoy sex with her girlfriend. We have now been playing with our friends for years and I have no regrets, they are our pandemic lockdown relief and we were talking how they got me to agree in the beginning.

My husband and I are both first responders in a small town. We decided to start swinging a few months ago and we downloaded a couple apps and met some people etc etc.... I ended up sleeping with a few of them however word got out some way some how. We were cautious to meet people outside of our immediate area so i assume someone on the app was looking for the same sort of thing and ended up finding us and outing us to make them feel better about themselves. I want to know how you all deal with this sort of thing or if any of you have been through this.

What's the accepted way to let others in the RV Park know you're swingers?

Good to know. Newbies (and dyslexic oldies) may not realize that MMF implies male interaction, MFM does not.

For me, watching hubby or Red have sex with Clair or Lora still makes me jealous with all kinds of feelings, but then doing oral on one or both of them somehow brings those feelings to a resolution. IDK why, but this all plays with my sense of adequacy (Lora and Clair are both much more sexually attractive than me), I go through phases of feeling submissive, other times I am very confident and dominant, regardless of which role or position I am in. Being in a poly family where my sex partners are also equally my lovers lets me partake of this. The flip side of this is that those I love also love each other. I guess unlike most others here, it's not just sex, it is emotional. I am jealous of the other women in my family because they are loved by my husband and boyfriend; they've had their babies. But then, I love these women so deeply as well. Sorry for my meanderings, but it makes me feel better seeing it written down, knowing others will read it an may comment.

Doing oral on our guys is routine, but having them ejaculate in our mouth is not, we all prefer that semen end up in our vaginas on the way to mutual orgasms. After that, one of us guys or girls will do oral on that mess to get her to a second orgasm. We women like taking a sloppy dick into our mouth as well, when he can stand it.

I misinterpreted the title of this post and was thinking back to when I trimmed my bush into a square. I've also tried the landing strip rectangle, inverted the triangle, and once tried a circle.

The suggestion for nonmonogamy came to me from a different angle. When I was first dating David, the man who would become my husband, I talked about how I had recently broken up with Red, my fiancé and moved out of the apartment we shared. I had decided that Red wasn't marriage material - I was a professional woman in the corporate world and he was the freelance creative type; although he is a wonderful man I couldn't see us having a home and children together. But I wasn't over him and was still seeing him, still sleeping with him, although I had fallen in love with David and started sleeping with him as well. Red knew because I had told him straight out, but David just picked up on it and didn't even give me a choice: he didn't ask, but told me he knew that I was still seeing and fucking Red (How did he know? I was very careful with what I was doing.) and that he was fine with it so long as we could continue and deepen our relationship. They met, got along, I had sex with one in front of the other, had threesomes. David asked me to marry him with the stipulation that "he was fine with it so long as we could continue and deepen our relationship." It all made me feel confident, powerful, and it was a real ego boost - that I was getting what I deserved. Now we live in a poly family with my two men and two other women. We have children by both men and I realize that my assessment about Red was wrong, he is a successful free-spirit and a wonderful father. BTW, it was I who after two years suggested that hubby sleep with other women as well. It made me very jealous and still does, but I love it.

M and I were discussing clothing optional resorts and the conversation just evolved from there. Out of the two of us, she is the only one with LS experience having participated in an FMF years back, but talking about her experience and educating ourselves more about activities at resorts, has opened our minds about the LS in general. She would love for us to experience at minimum another FMF but we are becoming more open to MFM and swapping at this point. This time away from others has really given us an opportunity to discuss things more and develop our boundaries. So I would say, we both discussed it together and have both very much become open and excited about the aspects.

When JoAnn casually suggested this, the little devil that sits on my shoulder whispered in my ear, "Don't answer that. You probably left that computer switched on showing that swinger hook-up Website." The angel that sits on my other shoulder whispered, "The truth will set you free." Both whispered at the same time, "don't just sit there. Your silence will condemn you." So I said, kind of like cast member Pete Davidson of Saturday Night Live, "OK."

You know I read this post several times and Gold is right. Your mind is telling you something is wrong. You really do need to figure out what is going on. Until you do not only are you not getting any enjoyment out of it but you are risking serious harm to your relationship. All I can say is when we get home we go at it like a couple of rabbits.

Third on Adult Theater or Glory Holes. Don't need to be outside to get arrested

Have never been able to convince my wife to try it. Since we live in a rural area getting caught isn't really a big deal.

As I remember, it was something like 'Thank you God! I'm the luckiest man alive'. Actually, we were talking about our past sex lives and her and her ex tried to breathe life into their failing marriage by swinging with their best friends. It didn't work...in fact it made things worse for them, but she also said that she wasn't opposed to the idea of trying it again. That's when we first came onto this board in an effort to find out information and how to do this 'right'. Took our time, but we started from there and it has been a wonderful ride ever since.

Gonna agree with Anon321 on this. If dogging is something that interests you i think an adult theater may be your best bet. At least you won't get robbed or arrested. But yeah the crowd and environment are usually not real appealing for most women. Then again if dogging is her thing the crowd and environment might be perfect.

This is a great fantasy but would have the same concerns over safety. The obvious were mentioned, but there is still the STD factor. Someone mentioned a hotel but that takes a little bit of the risky thrill away. We have been to adult theater/arcade seeking to fulfill similar fantasies. But when we arrived, found that the reality of the filthy environment and sketchy crowd brought us back to reality.

As someone who has been flamed in the past: Amen! And out of fear of being flamed again, I just deleted a bunch of stuff about the books that were left out of the Bible - Google it if you are interested.

MMF includes bisexuality between the two men. MFM doesn't.

Thanks for the advice. I've always wanted to be a bit more open with our sexuality, but was happy just with us. It was my wife that would keep saying she wished i could fuck her and she could suck me at the same time. Some light prodding and she started the roleplay of another guy (specifically bc she wants penetration). I think the idea of another person out of our relationship is still too much of a taboo for her, but I feel like roleplaying it and getting the toy is a good step in the right direction. Plus I figured, having it being about her pleasure and doing a MMF would be a good entry way into experimenting with more. Hopefully a swap, MFF or gangbangs are in the future. There is something so arousing about sharing my wife with another person.

Wife and I played with this idea for years, then this spring she said she was ready to do it. We had our first MFM in may of this year. With a gentleman we found on SLS. We have had two other sessions with the same man. she loves it and has multiple orgasms each time. Some so strong we have to hold her on the bed. We are talking to two other men and a couple now. I let her set the speed of each session, and she has complete control as to what she will and wont do. She has not had full intercourse yet, but now says she is ready for that. She has developed a true love of oral sex both giving and receiving and has started swallowing. This is all new in that she did not care that much for oral sex before. Needless to say our own sex life has exploded, and is hotter then ever. My advice is make sure she understands that its all about her, and let her move forward at her own speed. Then just set back and enjoy the ride.

For me, that would be a challenge that I would love to take on. It seems like you are a wonderful person to go on such an adventure with.

My husband described it as he likes seeing me play the slut. He likes it when I do all the dirty stuff with another guy cause then he can spend his day imagining I am out there taking whatever I want sexually. He imagines I am so horny I couldn't control myself. If I met a guy I wanted my inner slut would do anything to take him. Of course its totally in his head, I can control my vagina just fine. But he loves the imagery so I give it too him. I play the slutty unfaithful wife that is a succubus and needs sex to survive.

Heard through the grapevine that RV sites are hotbeds of swinging.

Absolutely, but I'm a woman and I'm pretty used to the taste of cum. Lol ?

My wife and I have often kissed while one or both of us were copulating with someone else. A strange and exciting situation for me, however, was fucking my wife trying to get us both off while she passionately kissed another guy and he played with her breasts. I had the feeling that I was being used, that she was really into and thinking about the other guy. It was great.

If a man wants me to take his cum in my mouth, it should be good enough to put it in his mouth. My husband loves to taste his and other men's cum anywhere on my body, to include my pussy and mouth. Deb.

I've never had doubts of my sexuality. During an evening of swinging it was hard to avoid encountering semen somewhere. I just never worried about it. When I kissed my wife, I was more interested in expressing how much I loved her, not that she'd just swallowed another fellow's load. There is nothing I wouldn't give to be able to kiss her just one more time.