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I appreciate you sharing your personal experience and advice. I haven’t had too many people I could talk to about this, so I appreciate it. He’s been blocked and luckily we’re moving out of state in a couple months, which also helps with the swing club issue. Thanks for the response!

When I became confident enough to let hubby start having sex with other women (while I already had a boyfriend for two years), I recruited among my friends and acquaintances for those reasons. Sex talk among the girls came up often, and if any of them made a positive comment about my husband (and almost all of them did), I would say that hubby finds you attractive too (whether he had said anything or not) and that it could be arranged. You would be doing me a favor... Women like screwing married men, even when the wife knows and approves. It was empowering for my husband to let me have a boyfriend; it was further empowering for me to tell, not ask but tell, hubby that he was going to have sex with a women that I had selected. He never complained though, so I guess I wasn't exploiting him.

Perhaps for us women it's because we are unwilling to give up on a situation, always thinking that we can fix it for everyone. As I've told before, long ago I was in a strictly sexual relationship (having a husband and boyfriend I thought that I was hot stuff and could handle anything) that didn't go well (unsatisfying sex) for me. Yet I kept at it thinking I could fix it and make it work. Fortunately, my wise and patient husband said, "Petra, it's not your responsibility to make everything right." I moved on and didn't regret it, or in retrospect, the learning experience.

That's another advantage of us being in a group of regulars, everyone has figured out everyone else's kinks and they can get right to it when the mood hits. Perhaps she should have a FB who understands her and can satisfy her kink rather than figuring it out with new guys all the time. BTW, you should marry this woman. She has a good attitude.

My wife says she's never had dick she hasn't managed to orgasm with. She takes it as a challenge.

Well, my wife posted hers yesterday. Here’s mine/ours. We went to visit her folks over Christmas, and always set aside at least a night to visit her best friend from college and her husband. Those two have known each other since college, and her friend has always had a thing for my wife’s tits - talking about them, joking, sometimes touching. My wife had already admitted all that turned her on more than she ever let on. We talked about possibly sharing a year or two ago, and have bought some toys and pretended others were in bed with us / including those friends. We had been drinking wine and talking, then her friend started touching my wife’s hair, face, running her fingers over her breasts. Her husband and I just grinned at each other and watched. Her friend suddenly said WE NEED MORE WINE! We all laughed and my wife went to the kitchen with her to help. Got to admit I was curious after a minute, so I went to the kitchen, too. Nothing was happening, but K told me her friend had kissed her on the cheek a couple of times before going downstairs for another bottle. I could tell she getting turned on, so I took a chance, snuggled her ear a bit and whispered to her that I thought it was time. I got behind her, and when her friend came back up, I lifted K’s shirt and bra and said we think it’s time you did more than just talked about them and touched them through her clothes. Her friend’s eyes got huge and she rushed over, grabbed my wife’s breasts and started squeezing and rubbing, talking about how beautiful and big they are. K was moaning almost instantly, because her nipples are super sensitive. I started kissing and biting her neck and talking dirty in here ear, and then her friend called her husband in. He was stunned at first, but walked over and after a minute asked if he could join in. K nodded, I said yes, and then they were both playing with them, squeezing and sucking, and K was going crazy. Her friend pulled her to the table and pushed K into a chair, got on her knees between K’s legs, and starting kissing and sucking again. Her husband and stood there watching getting hornier by the second. Then K’s friend looked at her husband and said come here. He looked at me, I shrugged and nodded, and he stepped over to the chair. K’s friend looked up at her and asked if she wanted to suck her husband’s cock. K was panting and whimpering by now, and she looked up at him, then at me. I said go ahead, and K’s friend went back to her breasts and the husband unzipped, pulled it out and stuffed it in K’s mouth. I was losing my mind! After a minute, K looked at me and told me to get over there. I did, and next thing you know I was watching her friend suck and lick her big breasts while she took turns sucking our cocks. K’s gf started rubbing her pussy and K’s through their jeans while still sucking her tits and they both ended up cumming that way. It was mind blowing to see and hear. K kept sucking us both until we each came in her mouth, and at the end we all were looking at each other like did that really just happen?? lol K and I did it again after we got back to her folk’s house, and it was so hard trying to be quiet! Our friends will be visiting this summer, and we’ve begun exchanging sexy text/pics and agreed to some ground rules. We’re not sure exactly what the future holds, but we’re expecting it to be fun!

His parents had a closed circle of friends and still got it. It happens. (not swingers) There is no way to be 100%. Everyone has to make the choices they are going to make based on what they feel safe with. Both of us are going to work every day, 5 days a week. Our kids are in school, live and face to face. We just don't see the risks of a meet and greet as that much worse, or even playing with people who are just not showing any signs.

IMO you are leading him on, I know you are trying to be nice. But you know this is heading for a crash and burn. Just by what you have said I really think you already know that. We really don't have many rules. But the one we we follow religiously is if one of us doesn't like it for whatever reason. It stops then and there. No playing, no texting, sexting or communication. I don't mean that we pretend it didn't happen we will probably talk it to death between each other. IMO you need to block, ignore and cut off this person entirely. You are going to destroy your relationship. We have run into people in our group that one of us can't stand for some reason. And we respect that opinion. Even if we don't agree. We just ignore them. For us this is something fun (ok and naughty) for us to do. If one is uncomfortable then both of us are.

Going into this you both KNEW it was NSA, but at some point, HE forgot this and attached strings. Him coming back 'pleading' should have told you this. Saw this coming a mile away. Our partners usually want us to be happy and so, unless the lines of communication are completely open, they have the tendency to say what we want to hear instead of what they want to say. Just a reminder for all of us, OUR PARTNER COMES FIRST, ALWAYS. Also, if this was truly just a FWB on your side, you wouldn't keep talking with him as well. You also have some feelings for him and he knows that. Did he tell you this BEFORE you told him it was over, or after? Sounds like he was going for your sympathy. This is beginning to really wave the :redflag:. You really should have blocked him a long time ago. That you keep communicating with him lets him think that there's still a chance for him. BTW, the new FWB might have also been an attempt to make you jealous. Read: I would rather have you. Because he would rather have you and you keep giving him the feeling that there is a chance by talking with him. How do I know? Well, while it didn't involve swinging, I was the guy in this same situation. We couldn't be together because of distances and I was in a loveless marriage where I was staying for my son, but every now and then we would still talk so I knew she also still had feelings towards me. She had even eventually gotten married, but we would still talk and I kept thinking maybe someday we would be together. It wasn't healthy for her and it sure wasn't healthy for me. Eventually I had to block her so I could move on with my life instead of being stuck hoping for something that was a fantasy in my mind. It was a dark time of my life and very hard to do, but it was the right thing to do. You really should be worried. Block him and move on with your life and your husband. Remember, this will only hurt your husband more if things continue. If you do run into him, just ignore him and if he presses you, be polite but explain that it was fun but now it's over and leave. Even in the best case, nothing good will come out of this, and that's the BEST CASE. The worst case...is scary. Congratulations to the both of you. Keep things going between the two of you, but DON"T end up back were you started by letting this other guy back in. No matter what you may say, there are some feelings between the both of you, but you need to put an end to it. Block him and move forward with your husband. Good luck and I wish you the best.

We swing together. Sometimes separate rooms in our house or a house party, but we are in the same locale at the same time. I think that swinging separately can lead to trouble. But even swinging together, we have had to let a couple of couples go because the husband thought my wife was their girlfriend. This hobby has its risks.

That question brings me back to how my life drastically changed, having a threesome with a college girlfriend. At the time I had no bi feelings and no need to have sex with a guy I hardly knew. I had a bf and wasn’t looking to cheat. The only reason I was with them was a snowstorm and the need for a shared hotel room. To this day I’m amazed that I allowed myself to allow my friend and I guess I was being bold to participate. I was more upset I allowed her friend to join, I felt I was cheating on my bf. Since that day my bf became my husband and we have had many threesomes with both guys and girls. He had confided to his best friend and encouraged him to join us. Before Covid that friend would keep me company when my husband traveled for work. We have also played together. I have a girlfriend, my best friend who found out and joined us too. Now with us not meeting others both of these friends are our the ones we play with. If I had my choice, my husband alone first, and then I enjoy one on ones.

Sounds like bragging and trying to impress people on here. I don’t know if you are off the bell curve as I know many men who can go forever or quickly recover. Why do you think you are special?

Yes Steve love to Kiss me after and we know its ok with our friend too lol he loves to Kiss me with a full mouth and I enjoy it too

We have a standing rule, when in a MFM session if she brings you to completion and swallows, she expects a deep kiss afterwards from both of us.

I don't get texts or pictures, just sloppy seconds, which I prefer.

My first multi-person sexual experience was a soft swing session with my first wife and a couple who were close friends of ours. It was the mid-1970s and we were all in our mid 20s. After a few glasses of wine at our friends’ home one winter evening my wife persuaded the rest of us to take off our clothes. We proceeded to some slow dances with each other’s spouses. I was fascinated watching my nude wife holding another man close and move sensually to the music, her breasts pressed closely against his chest and his hands pulling her hips close against his. (I was so taken by this vision that at one point my wife had to remind me to pay more attention to the other woman.) There was no intercourse or even oral that evening, but I was fascinated watching my wife masturbate the other man to a series of loudly-announced orgasms. Meanwhile, I was kissing and fingering the other wife on an adjacent sofa. I would have been happy to have proceeded to intercourse, but neither of the wives were up for that, although by that time the activities have moved to the bedrooms upstairs. I remember being in bed with the other woman, both of us still nude, and suggesting we should fuck. She declined. ???? I went off to join my wife in the guest bedroom and suggested we should fuck. My wife said she was too tired and suggested I should jerk off off on her. Which I did. My wife and I were both interested in swinging, but the combination of the challenging logistics of that era (the mid 1970s) and the press of our respective professional and educational lives meant for the time being our curiosity went unaddressed. Later our friends marriage broke up, and my wife and I suggested the woman should become my lover. But, by that time she had a boyfriend and declined the invitation. My curiosity about having casual sexual partners in a setting of three or more remained, including past the end of that first marriage. I was in grad school by then, and though I had sexual partners almost too numerous to count, all of those encounters ere one on one. I knew threesomes (and moresomes) was something I wished to pursue. It took another half-dozen years before I was able to enjoy that experience for the first time. This encounter was also unplanned and was also with a couple who were friends. We unexpectedly found ourselves sharing a hotel room at an event and unexpectedly discovered the room had one king bed rather than two queens. While the husband was showering, the wife made clear they were interested in playing. I was so excited I was literally shaking. She had to assure me everything would be fine. I’m not sure she understood the trembling was not anxiety but anticipation. The three of us got into bed in our nightclothes. Soon the woman said “this isn’t how we sleep at home,“ and began pulling her nightie up over her head. She had ample and gorgeous breasts. Her husband and I got out of our night clothes almost as quickly. There was a little kissing and then soon I was sitting up against the headboard with my legs spread she was sucking me. Her husband sidled up behind her and began fucking her doggy style. watching his face as he thrust into his wife was very hot. After he ejaculated in her we switched positions. While she sucked him to another erection I fucked her until I had come as well. Rinse, repeat and we fell asleep, all exhausted. I awakened in the middle of the night and found her still receptive. I climbed on top of her and began to fuck her in the missionary position. She call softly to her husband “he’s taking me again.” I found her words exciting, and apparently her husband did as well. He fondled my balls while I fucked his wife until I came yet again. (Ah, the energy of youth.) I played with the wife every now and then over the next 20 years, though sadly the husband never joined us again. There’s been no sexual play with her for a decade now, but I am still friends with both of them. In fact, I spoke with them on the phone earlier today to congratulate them on recently becoming grandparents. Happily, I’m also good friends with my first wife, after some years of estrangement. We exchanged New Years greetings and spoke about mutual friends we’ve known for half a century. Oh, and I did get to fuck the woman in that first couple. In fact, I just fucked her again yesterday. More than a dozen years after our first marriages ended we were platonic friends, until we had dinner one evening and after the meal we ended up in bed. One thing led to another and in January we will celebrate our 31st wedding anniversary. ??

Twenty three years ago. But we never thought of it as swinging. We were single, In our early 20's, and recently engaged. We swapped one time with friends, who had recently gotten married. Then nothing for 20 years, till 2017 when we started swinging with our friends. These two occurrences do not really relate. We never discussedmswinging in the period between. I am an enthusiastic participant but give my wife Amy all the credit for our involvement in the swinger lifestyle.

As folks in the LS adjust to the world with Covid-19, we expect that there might be a shift to small numbers of couples over longer periods of time.

We like to play with one couple at a time, i fact, once we find a compatible couple we like to stick with them, assuming that is what they want too. How do we know? We ask and hope were are not getting just a story. We are always honest with our play partners, That is why we have not had that many.

I love them all... large and small

I personally dont think size matters to be totally honest. I was blessed with being well endowed in both length and girth, but I have personally seen my wife recieve quite a bit of satisfaction from a partner smaller than me. In fact, my length has been a hinderance at times as deep thrusting causes her to wince with pain, this in turn sets up a momentary pause during our lovemaking so that I can allow her a chance to recouperate from the pain...this bothers me as I can never really tell when Im about to strike a nerve inside her. She can accomodate my entire length provided she takes me in very slowly. Now this is something I personally love, to be completely engulfed by her vagina and the senstations that brings with it. There are times we simply stay connected withoutout moving and just enjoy a few pelvic thrusts here and there...its quite a thrill...good for a night of movie watching etc, etc.. In a nutshell, I have to be careful how I use my erections so both my self AND my partner can enjoy the act... ANDE

I am fascinated by the differences in cocks...the way they curve, their texture, the way they point, etc. Now that we are swingers, I get to explore more than just one. >>>>>>> same here experiencing new ones is what i like variety is the thing, like someone said earlier, if i like the guy, ill like his penis. jana

I just don't care...if I like the man, I'm going to like his penis. Mmmm.... What was I saying again?... If they are extremely large or extremely small, it can cause a few issues, but it can be worked around. I echo Dare2Share's comments about giving blow jobs to very large men though...I like to be able to get it all in my mouth. Ditto to the doggy style comment too; this just happened to me this weekend. Very small ones...well, I've never seen one up close smaller than about four inches (and skinny too),a long time ago. But there are certainly lots of ways to make the experience enjoyable for all. Peoples' fixation on size, while I understand the reasons for it, is perplexing to me in its sheer intensity. I am fascinated by the differences in cocks...the way they curve, their texture, the way they point, etc. Now that we are swingers, I get to explore more than just one.

I'm not too turned on by extra large penises. My favorite position is doggy-style and that tends to hurt if the penis is too long or if your cries for help are mistaken as cries of pleasure. Also, I enjoy giving blowjobs and pride myself on being able to suppress my gag reflex but even my most heroic attempts will not allow me to swallow an extra large member. That hurts my pride. My husband, while of average length, is very very wide. I find that to be more enjoyable, personally.

Not for me. My husband's cock isn't large at all but I've had great sex with him. One of my lovers is 9inches and thick and the sex is great but I'm not hung up on huge cocks. Just one woman's point of view.