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Love communication and trust. Be patient and don't push too hard. She needs the time to know that you are really okay with doing this, that she can let down her guard and consider it as a possibility, and that you are not trying to find a replacement for her. Take your time, but it sounds like you are doing just fine so far. At some point you will need to have a serious talk outside of the bedroom to let her know that you are good with this and find out if she is as well. Good luck and thanks for the update.

Yes, it's just the nature of things I guess, but I miss people too. Sometimes though an old familiar voice shows back up, and it's always nice when that happens.

No longer swinging, divorced, no longer interested in the topic, no longer with us. I miss some of the old posters.

Maybe Covid and they are staying safe? or They come look and only see the same posters posting and they have nothing to add.

We aren’t! Even in the midst of the worst of this situation, my husband and I both agreed it wasn’t the lifestyle that caused this to happen, just a big eye opener and lesson that boundaries were needed In the future. It was a mistake for us to go into it so causally. I think since we have done this for so long and we haven’t had any issues so far, we were just overly confident and didn’t realize that could happen to us. We all played a part in why things went bad and we all learned a lesson I think....

He works during the night Sunday-Thursday, away from home between 7 p.m. and 3:30 a.m. Some evenings she invites one of her male fuck buddies to keep her company for a while when husband is at work. She makes sure they are gone before 2 a.m. We live in a modern 2-bed apartment so the neighbors can't see other men coming/going and when they hear "something" they assume its just us together, they would be shocked/disgusted if they knew what was actually happening. Other times such as on Friday or Saturday nights if she is out on a date with someone, he is at home either playing a video game, watching a movie, or has a friend round or out with a friend for a drink, just normal things really. We are kind of past the jealousy and excitement stage of when the other is sleeping with someone else. We sleep with other people without the other half knowing as if it's all routine and plain normal to us to the point that we no longer inquire if the other has been "playing away", he usually knows from tell-tail signs when she has been with another man no matter how discrete she tries to be.

I agree. It’s been more active with some new and interesting voices in the last six months.

Some folks are posting a lot more.

Sometimes life just happens and 'hobbies' are put on hold. I know there was a month or two last year where I wasn't as active with the passing of my father. Now I just wish things would go back to 'normal' so we can start enjoying our 'hobby' again.

Depends . My wife will stay out with her date fucking him . I just don't let it worry me. She's comes home. Wakes me up with a blowjob . Wants to fuck or me to eat her cum filled pussy . I gladly do it. we fuck some more I get go shower . let her sleep.

When on a diet, most would prefer to stay out of the bakery aisle.

There are three women and two men in our poly family. When two or three or four of us are going at it, whoever is left minds the children. Then we'll rotate. Another advantage over a monogamous couple.

After reading posts about problems I think oh shit is that going to happen to me. Then I read and see viagra commercials and think the same thing, is it that bad. I’m happy to read positive comments it gives me hope that sex isn’t going away soon and then there is a problem in that his wife only cums from fucking and not from pussy eating so I read women taking viagra makes their clits more sensitive. Can’t verify cause Honey doesn’t need it as her clit stays hard after cumming ten times.

I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. She loves me because am not the jealous type.

One small detail would be not just to talk before changing the rules, but to talk alone. Even with someone you trust to be honest with you very much, it's a good idea to make sure neither of you are just being polite or because they think the other one is more enthusiastic than they are.

Let's get back to basics. Why are we instilled with sexual desires? To reproduce. The most successful reproducers, the ones with the most successful sexual activities, are the ones that get their genes carried on. For men that is fuck everything and drop your seeds everywhere. For women, it is to find a sex partner that not only has good physical attributes (i.e., physical attractiveness), but also will take care of the resulting child. So women look a little deeper. That's why the men in my poly family are so appealing to me as sex partners, even after our years together, and why I and many other women don't mind if they are fucking someone else because I am confident that they will take care of me and my children. We women do share a boyfriend as a side sex partner, however, with no emotional attachment other than he's a pleasant guy (he too is married, his wife knows and approves). Lora, Clair, and I enjoy sex with him but knowing that we have our men back home to take care of us and any child that may result (theoretically/instinctually speaking) gives us that drive.

I agree I just don't know if everyone else would agree. I have never played with a guy or purposefully touched them. The only reason I enjoy them in the MFM is the kinkiness and visual aspect of it. But I have zero sexual desire to do anything with another guy.

Variety is the spice of life! Swinging gives you the opportunity to connest with different people of different races - enjoy! Welcome to the board!

Am I crazy or are some people overthinking this entire thing? Your wife is not a child. If it were me I would be open, honest, and direct with her. She brought the idea up in bed so you already have the opening. If you're direct with her she should either say yes, no, or maybe. I am not really into playing games so maybe I'm a bit bias but I would be upfront at this point.

We started playing with our best friend and his then wife in 1986 when they seduced us into us into the lifestyle. At that time our best friend and my wife were available during the day - he worked nights and my wife did not work. For the first few months they got together to play very often. I was really turned on knowing they were likely playing while I was at work. A few years later when he started working days and my wife got a day job, they would get together and I would stay home with our kids. That really turned me on. During that time they would play anytime they were alone together. They even played occasionally at a local park at night and a couple of times during the day when he took her out in his Jeep to do a little hill climbing. If they thought they were alone in the area, they would have sex outside Jeep. One time we went hiking with him and his then wife. They broke off from his wife and me and found a place secluded enough to have sex. Those were the good days.

I never understood using the term 'sloppy' seconds. Yes, it does make her well lubricated but I don't think sloppy at all. I've always considered that the other man simply got her in the mood and lubed up for me. I, too, love being second, or even third! But I'd like to think that I'm always last!

My husband watches movies when I go out on dates

The same thing happened to me before we got into swinging. We had given each other permission to have other partners, just to see what it would be like. The marriage was not in trouble. After the first time she told me about her affair, I also became a "sexual dynamo." I would get an erection almost any time and bang away. I didn't know why knowing my wife had banged another guy made me so horny. Years later I found out this is characteristic of the Madonna-whore complex that I apparently suffered from. After I found out that she had screwed another guy, she was no longer on a pedestal and was more like mother earth. What I apparently really wanted was a sexual creature, not an angelic wife.

WOW, just reading and thinking, I'm not ready for that step yet. I really enjoy being there to see for myself her pleasure.