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For me breast size is a combination deal. On some women the visual is a great thing. There is a limit for me on how big though. For play I prefer smaller. A's and B's. You have more important irons in the fire though. Work on your body image issues. We all have them and for the most part they just plain do not matter. Boy friend. How serious and long term? Is he expendable if this goes South on you? We prefer married couples or very long term committed couples. It keeps the drama at bay. Jealousy.... There are many ways to deal with that but they all are internal. I dealt with that demon myself. In my case I opened the discussion by giving my wife a permanent, unilateral, non limited green light. I just plain forbade my self the option to be jealous. For me that worked just fine. In my case it was the worrying about loss. Once I fully internalized that losing her was not going to happen, it was just the cyclic ingrained fear that most of us have picked up at one point or another, that was the problem. That solution would NOT be for every one. It could be very risky if you underestimate your relationship. We had thirty years together work from.

Many of my friends in Pennsylvania are having a Super Ball party lol, sadly we won’t be there. I miss seeing my friends and the parties we would have a football weekends, this year some of them did get together and I know a number who got sick after. I’m just too scared to tempt fate, my luck I would get sick and even though we are younger and it might just be nothing serious, we don’t want to find out. We will have our very good friends with us, people we have been with often and possibly another couple. What are you all doing?

PSU: We'll always still enjoy hearing what you have to say, even during the rare time we may not totally agree. Having a dissenting opinion, but still being able to be respectful and articulate, occasionally shows us the errors in ones previous mistaken beliefs.

This is the thing. Maybe people in my circle just had bad luck, but several colleagues in their 30s and 40s have ended up hospitalized. Not intubated, but still. One lost two elderly family members from spread within their family. Everyone has to measure their own risk, but sometimes it just doesn't add up. On the upside, we haven't played with our local partner since the end of summer, when our local outbreak took off. She works in a relatively high-risk field and it was one thing when she was being regularly tested and very careful at work, and local cases were almost non-existent, but another when it was everywhere and our neighborhood was the epicenter. It's still not good, our numbers in our city are still 20x what they were during the summer, but half what they were at the peak and steadily declining. Now she's gotten the first shot of the vaccine, and we decided to set up a date if the local case count kept declining every day for a week. We're on day six and hoping nothing spoils our first Saturday night socializing of the winter. Things are slowly getting back to semi-normal, and will hopefully improve drastically this summer.

No longer swinging, divorced, no longer interested in the topic, no longer with us. I miss some of the old posters.

Hello, So I am both new to the forums and have not yet tried swinging but am very interested. However, due to my upbringing and experiences, I am both extremely jealous and I have skewed views on men and their desires. My current boyfriend and I, have a great relationship so far. We have hours of sex a day and are both very attracted to each other. Now for reasons I do not want to go into, right now with this man is the best time I believe to try swinging. I want to try it for a variety of reasons, one is I love sex, sleeping with other men, and turning him on. The second reason is kind of an exposure therapy you could say; I want to so badly work through my jealousy and be okay with seeing my man with another woman. So my two questions are; Men are very visual. I am an attractive woman, but there are way more attractive women out there. I fail to understand, If I let him sleep with a hotter woman, how can he happily come back to me? for example he loves large breasts, but I have very small A's, wouldn't I just be f*cking myself over by letting him sleep with a large breasted woman as then mine will seem even more unappealing and inadequate? Secondly I would like to hear of any tips or advice about going into this as a jealous woman. Thank you

Has he shown any interest in meeting others? He might take your suggestion as you not enjoying the sex you are having with him. Bringing up swinging can cause problems if brought up the wrong way. Big Boobs, every man ogles big breasts, it doesn’t mean he wants you to have a woman with big ones. He already picked you and your A’s , it seems men like boobs in any size.

Thank you but our lives are mostly on hold too. I try to be honest in my opinions and also try not to flame. I realize being a New Yorker, even if I live across the river now, I can be brutally honest. Some of the posts I read immediately start blasting the BS alarm, I try to add to the crap. Sometimes I just ignore, I should do that more often.

That's our understanding, as well, but it's also a decision we made after discussing a couple weeks ago based on multiple factors. Essentially, in our community, new cases are almost back down to summer levels, so the total cases are dropping fast as earlier patients get cleared out of the count. In addition, our neighborhood is no longer the hotspot in our region and hasn't been for a while now. The vaccine is just a positive footnote. We're going to be just as careful as we were all year, but are comfortable that the situation that caused us to stop is over for now. This is different for every community, but the point was that things are moving forward. We expect Mrs. E will be in the next group to be eligible for vaccination for professional reasons, as well, although it may be a while for me.

As I said in the beginning...doesn't mean it will ever bear fruit, but if the seed is never planted, the outcome is already decided.

bbarnsworth: I keep this bookmarked because I seem to keep referring back to it: Monogamy-isnt-biblical-its-roman

Some of the newer power posters have lessened my interest in sharing my own thoughts. I’m finding myself not even reading some of the posts by many of these im posters.

From what I have been reading I think some are misconstruing what the vaccine actually does. What I am seeing is that is gives protection to the recipient from getting seriously ill from being infected, NOT from getting infected and passing it on. Refer to the difference between "effective" and "sterilizing" immunities. In terms of getting back in the game it is important that we are inoculated to protect us from getting really sick. It likely does nothing for those we play with. It also does nothing to protect loved ones who may catch something that we pick up, even if we catch it from a vaccinated partner. The main benefit in being inoculated is that Covid 19 is being reduced from a life threatening illness to a bad cold for those who receive the vaccine. Would one of our medical people step up and say whether my understanding is correct? I hope that I am very incorrect, but I do not think that I am.

We joined here bc the rona brought our lifestyle activities to (almost) a total halt. If it wasn't for our involvement here it might seem to us that swinging is dead - except for the occasional online swing party (we attended one and found it depressing and sad). So we like this board bc it makes us feel connected to a culture that has almost ceased to exist. I can't imagine not swinging and also not interacting with the swing community online. At that point you have gone full vanilla [shudder].

With the Swingersboard generally, I find it easy to pass over posts that I'm not interested in, ignore the very few posts that rude/offensive/stupid, and appreciate the vast majority of what I read. In an increasingly insane world, I am glad for this place and the honest, polite and intelligent people it attracts.

Ok, so we had a kitchen table talk. (Idahocouple6969) this was already planned, I didn't just rush in due to your post earlier today. She said yes adding another person to our bed is a fantasy, but there's a lot more to consider. Safety, emotion, feelings jealousy etc and even how to find someone interested who doesn't have baggage attached. At the moment the door is closed, but she will think about it. If she does decide she's interested in further pursuing it, she thinks we should go to couples/sex counseling to make sure we are doing it for the right reasons. I also brought up that there are sites and communities that we can reach out to if she is ever interested in exploring more, even just to learn about it. We discussed our feelings for each other and I explained that this is not because I need something more, but because it is a shared fantasy, and that yes or no she is still all I need to be happy and satisfied. I'm happy with our conversation now that it is out there, even if it wasn't an immediate yes or erotic reaction. We will see what the future brings.

When on a diet, most would prefer to stay out of the bakery aisle.

We canceled out on Mexico now for the third time in the past year. Last week at the Casino, during the week, we went to the 360 View Chophouse for a snack and drink at 11 PM. From there, down to blackjack and craps... Julie can feel more comfortable with masks on and late during the week. It tended to be cool so Julie's nipples really popped. There were maybe an 1/2 dozen couples of various ages around the casino and a few dozen men. There really was very little reaction about Julie's dress...... Robb

Trying to stay out of this debate, but the bigger question should be: Is Covid the death sentence that it all too often is portrayed to be? Can it be deadly: Absolutely. In most cases is it deadly...