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Please don't ever think that, we welcome all of your posts! Speaking as the webmaster of this site, here's the simple truth - the number of new posts is directly correlated to the health and continued viability of this site. Like it or not, that's in Google's hands. Google sees it as "fewer posts must mean something is wrong with that place so we aren't going to send people there, more posts must mean something is right about that site and we will send more people there." So, it's sort of a feedback loop. You can easily enter into a death spiral of less activity, which means less Google traffic, which means fewer new members, which means less activity, and so on until the day comes the lights have to get switched off. There's a saying, "Content is king". As @lcmim mentioned, we work really hard at keeping this place welcoming and a good environment for people to post their questions and thoughts aka content. One, because that's the right thing to do to have the type of community we want to have here, and two, because it's the strategy we have chosen to maintain a viable site. It's frustrating sometimes when you see the anything goes kind of sites outperforming yours, at least in the short term. But, this site as been around 20+ years and is still kicking, and that's eons in internet years, so we must be doing something right. So, moral of story, please post, and then post some more, and encourage other people to post :) Those things all help the site.

Midwest. There are VERY few flamers here. Those that try get shut down pretty rapidly. The same goes for people trying to sneak an advertisement onto the list. This group is pretty protective of its honest and polite environment Those that step over the line get reported by members and the admins clean things up. Sure we entertain many and diverse opinions of things. Some of the opinions are forcefully stated, but in the end we all know that they are just opinions. We , for the most part, are speaking from our own experiences and know that others have different experiences. So relax, speak up. If you skin is thick enough that people can express opinions contrary to yours, then you will be adding to the discussion in a meaningful way.

That’s how he got the name Nutter.

The new member is channeling James Joyce.

We were offered to watch the game on Zoom with another couple, but I seriously like to watch the game, so we rescheduled to Zoom dinner another night. We have out of state friends having a multi family Super Bowl party. Bad idea. With vaccines out, you can almost taste the end. Why get sick now if avoidable? We are NY Giants season ticket holders. No fans of Tom Brady. My wife once told my cousin from Mass. “Brady is our bitch!” Um, ok.

I was never a prolific poster here, but I have found myself spending less time here over the past year. I'm sure you can guess the reason (Covid, cough, cough). I haven't been to a house/hotel party or meet 'n greet in just about a year and it's frustrating. The last thing I want to do is spend a lot of time commiserating with other frustrated swingers. It's just too depressing.

First, jealousy, is something to accept, pat nicely on the head and send on its way. Just because you feel an emotion does not mean you indulge it. That's the choice you get to make. Sex is what he's experiencing with another woman, love is what he's experiencing with you. Now, if he falls in love with a swing partner, you never needed him, because you deserve better than a man who does not know what love is. He's not 'coming back to you. Being in love with you means he's never left. Again, sex and love are two different things. I've never made love to another man, but I've had some very good sex.

Thank you but our lives are mostly on hold too. I try to be honest in my opinions and also try not to flame. I realize being a New Yorker, even if I live across the river now, I can be brutally honest. Some of the posts I read immediately start blasting the BS alarm, I try to add to the crap. Sometimes I just ignore, I should do that more often.

Many of my friends in Pennsylvania are having a Super Ball party lol, sadly we won’t be there. I miss seeing my friends and the parties we would have a football weekends, this year some of them did get together and I know a number who got sick after. I’m just too scared to tempt fate, my luck I would get sick and even though we are younger and it might just be nothing serious, we don’t want to find out. We will have our very good friends with us, people we have been with often and possibly another couple. What are you all doing?

Don't know if I was ever considered a power poster but for us it was the wife. She got tired of the fake people. Endless meetings where one or the other was an obvious no or they failed to show up. Or call to tell us that they weren't coming. That's probably close to 8 or 9 years now. We had two bad meetings in a row and the final one was the final one for her. We met a couple in a pub. He had pitched this woman as his wife. Turned out she was just a date who had driven 150 miles to spend the weekend with him. She had no idea about his desire to swing and hadn't been told that's what we were meeting for. It was hugely embarrassing for us and for her. Him...I just wanted to pound his lying fucking head in. She did falter a few years back and ask if I wanted to start again. I just said no, I wasn't interested. It hasn't come up since.

Go Chiefs. The only swinging today is going from wings to nachos to guacamole and back to wings. We are making prepared plates with no cross touching of food. Just two couples joining us but only one we have had sex with the other has no idea.

The most amazing thing about this post is that it is one single sentence. If it had been my wife, I would have been proud of her, turned on, and wanting her more than ever. But then, we don't have rules.

Wow! Has anyone ever kicked you in n the nuts, really hard? If not they should.

Isn’t she cute and honest? I think she really embraced the joy of life.

We didn’t get our invitation! We feel your pain, no big party and not seeing your friends. If I remember all your football parties are Ball parties. I get your double entendres. You and your husband are smart not traveling to a party in another state, from what I read some areas have not been very safe a most likely a large party could be a spreader party. Pun intended. We have invited vanilla friends to watch with us, no big gathering. We will be cheering on KC, never a Brady fan.

PSU: We'll always still enjoy hearing what you have to say, even during the rare time we may not totally agree. Having a dissenting opinion, but still being able to be respectful and articulate, occasionally shows us the errors in ones previous mistaken beliefs.

From what I have been reading I think some are misconstruing what the vaccine actually does. What I am seeing is that is gives protection to the recipient from getting seriously ill from being infected, NOT from getting infected and passing it on. Refer to the difference between "effective" and "sterilizing" immunities. In terms of getting back in the game it is important that we are inoculated to protect us from getting really sick. It likely does nothing for those we play with. It also does nothing to protect loved ones who may catch something that we pick up, even if we catch it from a vaccinated partner. The main benefit in being inoculated is that Covid 19 is being reduced from a life threatening illness to a bad cold for those who receive the vaccine. Would one of our medical people step up and say whether my understanding is correct? I hope that I am very incorrect, but I do not think that I am.

We joined here bc the rona brought our lifestyle activities to (almost) a total halt. If it wasn't for our involvement here it might seem to us that swinging is dead - except for the occasional online swing party (we attended one and found it depressing and sad). So we like this board bc it makes us feel connected to a culture that has almost ceased to exist. I can't imagine not swinging and also not interacting with the swing community online. At that point you have gone full vanilla [shudder].

My husband never just sat and watched, he jumped in whenever he wanted, during an interlude and afterwards. He preferred watching while excited then going second because post orgasm it wasn't as much fun for him. Boyfriend was the opposite, he preferred me "fresh" then leave and not watch, although sometimes I stuck him with sloppy seconds. He never turned me down. "Different strokes for different folks." Fortunately, I got all of the strokes. BTW, I always go out of my way to give hubby anything he wants whenever he wants it.

She enjoys it be supportive . Say I love watching you enjoy being so sexy for another man . Your so beautiful sucking and getting fucked. Makes me want to love your sexy cum filled body . We mush do it again .

My wife I shared before we married . So we both loved sex with others. She wanted me to fuck her girlfriends and she fuck there husbands. Strangers. She sucked and fucked . She bring a women home for me say I will be back in the morning. Climb in bed with us. She was cool . Our marriage lasted for 30 years . we still talk.

I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. She loves me because am not the jealous type.

A woman's frustration - I like watching my guys lick Clair or Lora's pussy, but the female anatomy doesn't make cunnilingus a good spectator sport. It does enter my mind when I go down on the girls, I spend time admiring their part before I start and imagine a guy doing the licking as I please her.

Even if you're willing to take your chances with the percentage risk of death, I would be scared of being one of the long-term sufferers who are debilitated for months, perhaps life.

I think the experienced members will all tell you the same thing, that we will be blunt with what we think about a post. It's no service to you for us to tell you one thing and think another. So, I'll be blunt here. I'm seeing red flags; not enormous ones, but fairly big. I don't think your wife is being totally forthcoming with why she wants to sell her used panties. It obviously isn't for money. There's another reason. That the two of you aren't talking honestly and openly about it is a big red flag to me. Swinging demands honest and openness between you, else it will lead to disaster. ? Your wife's experience is also apparently leading to her progressing this far more rapidly than you are quite ready for. It's a common piece of advice around here; always move at the pace of the slower spouse. It's ok to be slow. It's not ok for the other spouse to rush ahead and leave you in the dirt. This, too, is razing a big red flag to me. She has to want you to be fully onboard with this, and both of you will enjoy it far more if you're both on the same page, in full communication, and in full support of each other. ? You appear to be very conflicted about how much you do or don't want to know. It's a dawning realization that your wife is a very strongly sexual creature. That can change your view of her, and if you're not 100% open with each it could be for the negative. There's nothing wrong with her being so intensely sexual. It doesn't make her a slut, and doesn't mean she's less of a person for it. Give her a safe environment to open up her deepest desires to you, without judgment, without criticism, and you will find yourselves becoming much, much closer. Same goes for her giving you that environment. I don't see that environment right now. I see both of you holding back from each other. This is a major red flag too. ? I don't see a huge problem with your wife's sexual experiences overlapping with your relationship with her, in that you weren't serious with her yet. Ok, you were staying at your place, but by your own admission it wasn't a serious relationship yet. It would have been nice if she'd been more open with you about it, but it's water ten years+ under the bridge now. Let it go. Work on the future. Communicate with her. Your wife obviously has a very high sex drive. That's perfectly fine. Swinging is a way to satiate that desire. If your relationship is otherwise very loving, very close, then swinging can be a great release for her to have all the sex she craves. If your relationship isn't that way, then swinging will cause great harm to your relationship. As for your desire to have another man have sex with your wife; there's nothing wrong with that. For me, I can tell you this; I absolutely love watching my wife have sex with other men. I love seeing it, hearing her reaction, seeing her reaction, and if she's giving me head at the same time _feeling_ her reaction. It's intensely erotic. Probably the most erotic thing to me is when my wife had a regular boyfriend (two, at different times) and she played with them without condoms. When we had threesomes I really loved making love to her right after her boyfriend came inside of her. Early on, this was very confusing to me, like it seems with you. I tried really, really hard to understand how I could want and enjoy my wife having sex with other men. Nothing in our lives prepares us for understanding why I as a guy would want to have sex with my wife right after another man came inside of her. I gave up trying to answer that question. I came to realize it's not a logical question and doesn't have a logical answer. It's purely emotional, one that feels fantastic for her and for me. It's ok to want to see your wife having sex with another man. You don't have to explain it to yourself. It's ok to just relish the thought and enjoy it if it happens. It's great that your wife gets that wet. My wife occasionally does that with a swing partner, where she starts to (what I call) cream on her partner. You can see it on his cock as she's fucking him. Delightful It also lets me know she's thoroughly enjoying him, and having a great time. As for having 4"; stop worrying about it. Virtually every woman will tell you it's not about the size. That said, my wife has enjoyed a wide array of penis sizes and enjoys having it all. I've seen my wife have sex with men about your size. I've seen her have sex with a man whose penis was absolutely enormous, both in girth and length. She loves it all. You aren't insufficient; the proof of that is your wife is married to you after these ten years and chooses you. It's ok if you have little interest in having sex with other women. That might change, but if it never does it's ok. MFMs are lots of fun, and if that and variants (MMMFMMM, etc ) are all you ever do, it's great. In general; I'd say the two of you have quite a bit of talking to do before going any further with this. Feel free to keep asking us questions. We're a helpful bunch and will be happy to answer.

When I first joined the swingersboard in 2004 I was 29 years old. I may contradict myself but I recall using 40 or 45 as our upper limit. I felt it easier to connect with those in my age group. Now that I'm 45 my target age is probably more like 25 to 60. What I've learned is the numbers are definitely never a hard rule. It's more a tool to narrow the field and help zero in on that great experience. You have to start somewhere though to find that compatibility and age is just as good as anything else as a place to start.

We went to a nudist resort last summer to meet a couple we had been corresponding with, and really wanted to meet. We met them there, and over the course of the afternoon met two other couples who were friends with our friends. All of these couples are in the lifestyle. Well, all eight of us seemed to be hitting it off very nicely, so we decided to have some fun in one of the couple's room. We put all of the women's names in a hat, and each guy picked a name at random to play with. We all had a great time! Closest thing to a key party that we've ever done, as well as an amazing, eight-way "click"!

Just a funny about key parties... I was sitting at my mothers kitchen table with various siblings sitting around with me. My older brother looked at me and asked me if I knew some couples from up around where we used to live several years ago. Well, obviously I did know them. He proceeds to tell me that they have key parties every once in a while. My mother, without missing a beat and obviously missing her hearing aids says, "What? You're having a party?" "Ummm, not me mom, but I think (Name of my brother) is!"... She turns to look at him, with a grin on her face and expecting her invite... Without being too obvious, I wanted to ask him how he knows about these key parties and how often they have them. But he's staring me down, a look that says, "Of course you know them -- you're one of them!!" But, he just laughed. Yes, they do still have key parties in our neck of the woods. It still does happen. Kinda funny, isn't it? Dave and I laughed ourselves silly while driving home. Mi familia es loco.