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Luckily, I'm a veteran over 65, so the Pittsburgh VA hospital got me in on the third day. I could have been in the first day, decided I didn't want to fight the crowd.

Here is my weak attempt of making humor out of a serious situation: The three big lies: * Your check is in the mail. * I will not cum in your mouth. * I've been vaccinated.

Pondering, we appreciate your presence, and we're glad you're here. Keep posting your intelligent comments.

AND SEX. However, for this post, I'll stick to words. Words matter. Reading through the threads there are often questions that hit at the heart of how open and accepting this community is. There seems to be an assumption that swingers are more open and accepting of non-vanilla activities inside of a 'monogamous' relationship and generally within the greater world of relationships, sex and partnering and when we see language that is counter to that it is somehow surprising. I think swingers are every bit as judgemental as 'vanilla' folks sometimes even when trying to show otherwise. Words matter. People often comment that they are okay with whatever people want to do, and in fact will go so far as to say they are tolerant of certain behaviors they themselves would not participate in. I find the word tolerant tends to get my attention. Tolerate is generally defined as: to accept behavior and beliefs that are different from your own, although you might not agree with or approve of them. Do people intend to say they don't approve? It seems to me that to tolerate or be tolerant of someones choices is to provide your approval for their actions that are in your mind unacceptable in some way. Personally, I don't need someone to tolerate my behavior, especially when it's related to my sexual choices. And in fact, I do not ask for their tolerance, nor are others in a position of power over me to judge my actions. It seems to me that this distinction is at the core of a lot of our judgement of others within and outside the swinging community. Everyone has the right to have opinions and to participate in activities as they please, but I don't believe anyone has the right to judge others activities ( I am no talking about law breaking or causing others harm in some way) and to say "I tolerate that behavior" So, I'm looking for a better word. The best I have come up with is Rejoice. In other words, I'm not interested in anal sex, but I can rejoice in others doing so. It's positive, supportive, non-judgemental and has nothing to do with me either approving or judging another's activities. I think words matter and wonder how others feel. I also wonder if using a word like rejoice vs tolerate can help to brighten the world in general.

I'll start. We are a Lifestyle couple. We mostly enjoy foursomes and moresomes. However, my wife is also a 'hotwife', and we are happy to have a respectful single male join us for an MFM threesome; my wife will also 'solo' with a single male from time to time.

My wife had 2nd dose yesterday. Her arm is really sore and a swollen lymph node in her neck today. No fever. I am still waiting for my 1st. She says she feels "puny" but still worth it.

I recognize that difficulty in creating a poll or survey of any kind. But owing to the fact that none of the choices completely match the situation for my wife and I, I clicked on We have hooked up with single males ten times or less. In actual fact, we do not hook up with single men. She hooks up with single men. I don't need to be there or to hear all of the details, This is, by the way, a great question and I am looking forward to see the result of the poll and to read the responses.

We would like to have received vaccinations but being full-time residents of Pennsylvania and spending just two months in Florida made the chance of getting vaccine very small. We saw on a TV news broadcast that part-time residents were allowed if they could show documentation but the process for submitting this documentation turned out to be more difficult than finding our way out of an escape room. We put a call into that PA hospital at which we have both received treatment in the past and are awaiting a call-back.

I agree. As we've reached a point where people feel while not totally out of the woods yet, we can at least start to look at what comes next, I think this is a common belief. Like I said in the recent BBC article thread, I think the second golden age of swinging is coming.

It's long been said that women are really the driving force behind swinging. I think it's true. It wouldn't shock me at all if there is some sort of biological underpinning to that.

When it comes to threesomes, we think MFM is much more common than FMF due to the fact that there are a lot more single males in the lifestyle than single females. The interpersonal chemistry of MFM is simpler than MFMF and your wife can enjoy being the center of attention. WIn/win/win!