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I used to post a lot on here, then I stopped and now I'm dipping my toe back in. That's the short version. If you want the long version, keep reading... Honestly, the reason I stopped is that I felt that at the time the community had changed. A different group of people seemed to be driving the conversations and doing so in directions I wasn't comfortable with. I didn't feel like it was a place I wanted to be anymore, so I left. Now, I know this probably comes off as harsh and accusing, but I don't really mean it that way. (Maybe I would have then, but I don't now.) Groups grow. They change. It's natural. Sometimes, when a group changes, people don't fit anymore... so they leave, maybe for a time, maybe forever. That's also natural. Sometimes, people come back. I came back because... well, I was bored. The community we've moved to is small and rural. The nearest swingers group is an hour away and after COVID hit, even that was off the table. After a long time with no one to talk to, I wondered what was happening with the community here... so here I am, dipping my toe back in the water.

My objective is for my wife to have the biggest, back breaking, squirting, mind blowing sex ever. What's the point of having sex that's "just as good as at home"? Bigger, smaller who cares? If it feels good and everyone is having a good time does it matter?

Lionheart, we've had our shares of night's like that at the club. In fact, it isn't rare that we'll find a foursome at the club (or we've prearranged one) and an hour or two after we leave the room Mary will announce she's randy again. The solution: Find a single guy. There's always a few hanging out at 1:00 in the morning.

Back in our club days, we hooked up with a lot of single guys and, toward the end, my wife would go out to the club alone and hook up with single guys. On the whole, we found it was easier to find a single guy to hook up with than a couple. To state the obvious - with a couple, we needed to find a lady who was interested in me, and who I was interest in, as well as a guy my wife liked, who liked her. With a single guy, we basically needed a single guy in a swingers club who my wife liked the look of, who had a pulse.

Sigh . . . not really disagreeing here, there's a lot of confusion out there. The National and state and local governments are issuing various regulations. They have their own agendas, formed by different needs, the differing political constraints, the very real need to not tank the economy. And the media, whatever their particular bias is (they all have bias!) will report what they think their readership wants to hear, damn the implications. Let's not even get into the uninformed opinions masquerading as fact on Facebook and other social media platforms. I am a simple guy. I decide to listen to only one spokesperson about what I should be doing in this pandemic. I've decided my guide is the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Here is what they say about travel: Travel increases your chance of getting and spreading COVID-19. CDC recommends that you do not travel at this time. Delay travel and stay home to protect yourself and others from COVID-19. And on dining out: While the safest way to enjoy and support restaurants and bars is to take out food and eat it at home with people who live with you, there are ways that you can go to a restaurant and bar and still reduce your risk of getting and spreading COVID-19. They then go on to say don't go there at busy times, watch the ventilation, wear a mask while you'e not actually eating, etc. By listening to only one source of information, I find the confusion diminished. If you care, the CDC's recommendations can be found at CDC.org

Like you, we split our time between various locales (at least I am inferring you do, too.) Although we normally fly, we made the decision to drive. Ugh, was that miserable. But, overall, we think it was far more safe than being hustled through airports like cattle and stuck in a flying aluminum tube where it is *literally impossible* to even pretend you can maintain any kind of social distancing. And we brought my mom down, too. Normally, she would fly down with us and stay for a month or so. Then she goes back. It was a difficult decision this year with the pandemic... but, we decided it was her call to make, not ours. In the end, she reasoned that, at her age (mid-80s) she doesn't have many more opportunities to travel and decided it was worth the smallish risk. And staying back had its own set of risks for her. She's terribly arthritic and being cooped up for many months was not doing her body or mental health any favors, that's for sure. Thankfully, the trip was uneventful and it all worked out fine. Just ranting, here... But, I can understand why some people don't trust the government spokespeople or the messaging. It is so confusing and full of glaring, obvious contradictions. They tell us: It's not safe to eat at an indoor restaurant, right? But air travel is okeydokey? And this makes sense?? Anyway, thanks for listening. And I hope your ankle heals up soon ? We are glad we made it down south and don't plan on returning until late May or June at the earliest. For fear of you hating me, I don't even want to tell you what the weather has been like! Lol ?

Happiest place on earth...

Sometimes it's not the verb, but the context that matters. Consider three non-sexual scenarios... 1. Our home backs up on lovely woods. Someone buys those woods and puts up a three story home and we now look into a wall of aluminum siding. (hypothetical, we back up onto a ravine, no one will build there) 2. Those new neighbors have an older relative living with them who has decided to forego aggressive cancer therapy that might be successful in favor of living the time she has left without treatment, in direct contradiction to what her (and our) spiritual leader has told her (hypothetical, has not happened to our knowledge) 3. The matriarch of those new neighbors is a state legislator and has announced her support for a bill aimed squarely at restricting voting rights in our state by eliminating mail-in voting and demanding that all voters physically show up and produce a state issued driver license or equivalent. (Such a process is indeed happening in our state where one party lost to another party that effectively waged a campaign to turn out the mail-in vote, but there is no matriarch in our backyard who is a state legislator). What is the expected level of "tolerance" here? Reciprocally, if *you* happen to be erecting the new home, if *you* happen to be the person foregoing the treatment, if *you* happen to be the legislator, do you expect your actions to be tolerated? The first situation impinges on what we might perceive to be a right and would likely cause us to check with the planning commission, try to reach an amicable agreement, file a lawsuit, or--failing all that--move; the second might pain us but is clearly none of our business; and the third we would object to vehemently on the principle that no one should be disenfranchised, and if an elected legislator lives across the street we are going to let them -- and the neighborhood--know our opinion.

I had a sore arm, not are. I also have a sore ankle. Unrelated to the vax, I slipped on ice and fractured my ankle. But for the pandemic, we would have been in Florida. But we didn’t want to travel. Could have been much worse, air cast for a month.