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We have been to parties that had both massage tables and gyno tables complete with stirrups. If that's your thing, great. But not us. We just don't find any instruments used in a Dr office even slightly erotic.

We found the way to handle this problem was to stop going to parties or swing clubs and host our own small swing parties with compatible couples and singles who accepted us the way we are. We use several Internet swing sites to find and get to know folks who like our profile and photos. Then we work the list to set up each swing session.

Yeah, not really a selling point for us either in profile pics. Nothing wrong with some nudity, but a screen 100% filled with cock or pussy not our choice. Kind of depends on the whole gallery too, if there's a good mix of pics then no big deal to have the occasional more hardcore one, but if that's all there is, then that's a turn-off and probably a good sign we aren't going to be compatible. When it comes to just porn viewing in general, just depends on my mood how much of it there can be before turn-on turns into turn-off. Hadn't really thought about it before, but interestingly, my tipping point there would be more generous than it is looking at profile pics of someone we might be interested in actually meeting. Random anonymous internet T&A vs real person you might be interested in actually meeting I guess.

We both had our first Pfizer dose this morning.

I never found close up pictures of genitalia in online profiles to be a turn on. I much prefer to look at happy faces or even erotic outfits. Microscopic shots of pussy and penis don’t rev my engine. Am I alone?

I think some of you are answering a question different than the one that was asked? If we are limiting the subject to on-line lifestyle profiles, extremely explicit photos right out of the gate are generally not cool. At the start, we would expect something far, far more demur. Someone who thinks posting granular pictures of her hoo-ha is the best way to find play partners...? Yeah, that would be a solid indication we would not be a good matchup. I'm not saying I would mind looking at them... lol... but that doesn't mean we'd have any interest in making a connection. If we are talking about on-line erotica and porn, it entirely depends upon my/hers/our mood/s. Most of the time, we surf stuff that is fairly main stream. But, sometimes... raunchy is exactly what the doctor ordered ?

We started a chat on an online swing site with a couple. When he started telling me that Soros and Gates controlled everything and covid was a hoax (last year), it was game over. A relative of mine who is a human superspreader (gave covid to four close relatives) gave my father bad advice on taking tylenol before his vaccine. Have no idea where she gets her info. I get Gold’s advice to seek objective sources for info. Some news sources give intentionally bad news because bad news sells.

As long as they're not super closeup we're fine. My wife is not fiercely anti dick pic. She considers one or two dick pics to be a normal part of any guy's online swinger profile. But the one thing that makes her want to puke is when there is a toilet in the pic - and it's amazing how many guys take dick pics standing over the toilet. The other thing she can't stand is when you can see their place is a mess in the background of the shot. Again, amazing how much of that you see too.

A thought about the Dick Pics. They are a handy indicator. It is just such an obvious red flag. They save a lot of time reading before discarding.

First of all, this thread has become horribly derailed. Second, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix. It explains how (and more importantly WHY) people have become so opposite and polarized in their opinions by SHOWING how we are not getting impartial data regarding ANYTHING from the internet. Google, FB, Instigram, etc, only presents links to information that supports what you already believe and not necessarily the truth by any means (it even tells of how a pro football player fell into the 'flat earth society' and came out supporting this belief). Unless you don't use these platforms, or really know how to search for data, you are only hearing one side of things, and it may not be the 'accurate' side. This is MUST WATCH TV before you should take a strong stand on any topic.

Dick pix should never be allowed...don't care how big (or not) you are, for most women it's the skill not the size (understanding there are a group of women who only care about the size). Most guys posting dick pix are usually dicks themselves and therefore someone we are not interested in meeting. We prefer personality and intelligence more than looks. Ban the dick pic!

It has been a while since we were in that neighborhood. I remember Como had a lake and Paradise Lakes had the pools. Paradise Lakes back in our day (early 2000s) was a bit more upscale and swinger-oriented than Como but its possible things are different today.

Off Off Off. No Dick or Pussy pics. We usually think they are fake and stupid. Close ups of anything is never good. Hardly any are posted by women, that tells you something. Want to impress us, a picture dressed in a normal situation tells us plenty about you. Do we enjoy a nude picture? Sure, it does say something too as does some sex shots, just no close ups please.

I thought it was funny to watch Honey get into this contraption to fuck her friend. We have a man who enjoyed watching us have sex and he was the one who brought up the idea and bought us the pretty big purple strap on cock. We had played with this girl before and we all had laughs getting this done. With our friend on her fours I got her pretty juiced up with my mouth before Honey penetrated her. At the time I was very new to this with that man watching too I didn’t want him near me. Honey got into a good rhythm and was fucking like a guy.

I know you are not trying to be argumentative and neither am I. With that in mind, it's worth reminding that the CDC is equally guilty of contradicting itself. It wasn't that long ago when the honorable Dr. Fauci, head of the CDC, went on national television to explain, in significant detail, why the wearing of masks by the general public would actually *increase* one's chances of getting the virus. Today, they tell us that wearing one mask isn't good enough and that we should probably wear two. Lol... In fact, Fauci now publicly admits that he has been intentionally misleading the public about aspects of COVID-19 because he felt justified in doing so; he felt the public "wasn't ready" for the entire truth. I find that to be very Orwellian and more than a little scary. Concerning your decision to limit your information to one source, I have a 180-degree opposite viewpoint. Throughout my life I've found that paying attention to a variety of sources, especially those with opposing/contradicting view points, leads to a better, more full understanding of any issue,COVID-19 included. The CDC is not agnostic or entirely objective. It is, just like every part of our government, a bureaucracy staffed by bureaucrats with their own egos, agendas, biases, etc. Getting only one side of any issue is probably not going to serve anyone very well. Lastly, it doesn't take a Harvard-educated epidemiologist to tell us that staying home will limit our chances of catching *any* virus. But, it is not a zero-sum game. Staying perpetually isolated for months on end creates its own sets of very real, very dangerous health problems, not to mention the massive socio-economic consequences that we will be feeling for decades to come. I am reminded of the way Howard Hughes, one of the richest people on earth at that time, spent his final years in complete isolation, dying as a miserable, lonely, hollow version of a human being. Collectively, we seem to have lost sight of the fact there are worse things that can happen to a person than catching a virus from which we have a high ninety-percentile chance of total recovery.

When I became confident enough to let hubby start having sex with other women (while I already had a boyfriend for two years), I recruited among my friends and acquaintances for those reasons. Sex talk among the girls came up often, and if any of them made a positive comment about my husband (and almost all of them did), I would say that hubby finds you attractive too (whether he had said anything or not) and that it could be arranged. You would be doing me a favor... Women like screwing married men, even when the wife knows and approves. It was empowering for my husband to let me have a boyfriend; it was further empowering for me to tell, not ask but tell, hubby that he was going to have sex with a women that I had selected. He never complained though, so I guess I wasn't exploiting him.

We are older swingers. We decided not to swing until we are vaccinated from covid. Everyone has their own idea on this topic. This seems to be the consensus among our friends. When you resume swinging, you can try to find couples who are bi or attend a bi house party or event. There is a lot of intolerance towards bi-males in swinging, but everyone finds bi women fine. It will just require some searching on your part.

Menopause has been the biggest underlying reason that allowed us to even discuss swinging. My peri menopause began just shy of my 45th birthday. I knew my older sister started early and my mother did too. I was very open with my doctor with all of my symptoms, missed periods, flashes, and lubrications. I feared loss of wanting sex and I like saying I became more sexually involved with my body. My husband was very excited with me wanting more not less, we were ordering more sex toys along with all types of lubrications. I’m sure our mailman had to be thinking I was a freak. You need to have discussions, your wife needs to be open with her gynecologist, as she can prescribe medications that help. Show your wife you understand, don’t blame, don’t argue over sex. If she needs lubrication, oral sex is a great start, flavored gels, toys and female oriented porn. My husband always thought pleasing me was important, he was even more patient as I went through the menopause journey, and with going on vacation is not an option currently, we have both been on this journey together.

I advise consulting with a doctor. There are medications that help with certain problems, such as lubrication. Not everything can be the way they were, but there are things that can heip.

Cock block!