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One of us works in the "acutely ill" segments of hospitals (trauma, ER, ICU). We see body are acquired during youth all the way into the ninth decade of life. (Some of this began with servicemen deployed during WW2 and Korea, e.g.) 1. Skin is dynamic. It stretches and sags and discolors with time. 2. Dyes used in tattoos differ in terms of response to light and to oxygen and other compounds in the local environment. It's not just "fading", colors change. 3. Sentiments and images that seem appropriate during youth may not translate well to older ages. All told, these are sort of "visible memories"--faded, distorted, sometimes happy and sometimes awkward. From a clinical standpoint, we take care of the patient the same way--with or without body art. From the patient/family standpoint, we have heard both perspectives--they enjoy the enduring memory versus some level of embarassment around "a youthful indiscretion". No tattoo remains unchanged over time, however. Biology isn't like that.

Yes, I am aware of this behavior. It's called "confirmation bias" and it occurs when people seek out seek out information, opinions, etc. that mirror and support their own beliefs, values, etc. and avoid anything that might pose a challenge to them. Business has been profiting off this human tendency since the beginning of time. Today, the difference is the size and scope of the monopolies and the fact that they are posing as being independent. At least when Joseph Pulitzer or William Randolph Hearst published an editorial in one of their newspapers, you knew it was the expression of an opinion and it was designed to sway you. The motives were entirely transparent. In contrast, the slime balls that run the social media monopolies lack the integrity, transparency, and truthfulness to admit they are manipulating their subscribers to both line their own pockets and promote their political agendas.

The human brain is not fully formed until the age of twenty-six. Unfortunately, many decisions that can effect someone for the rest of his/her life are made before then. Many people under the age of twenty-six simply lack the intellectual capacity to project into the future. They are impulsive and want immediate satisfaction. To them, "long-term" is a season watching The Bachelor. The "acceptance" of tatts, body mods, etc. entirely depends upon both the local social culture and/or business culture. Unfortunately, there is a tendency for people, especially on the coasts, to think of the United States as being this one, big cultural monolith. In reality, it's nothing of the sort. In fact, there can be huge cultural differences from one town to the next in the same state (for example, Austin versus San Antonio; Miami versus Tallahassee.) Likewise, certain industries have entirely different cultural norms. Being covered head to toe in tatts and ornamental hardware might be perfectly acceptable in the worlds of, say, big tech or certain hospitality businesses. But in the perpetually conservative worlds of, say, finance, economics, or advanced medicine? No chance.

Sometimes threads do go off topic, and sometimes we split them, sometimes we don't right then, just sort of depends on the topic, etc. If it is two swinging topics, they will probably be split. If not, probably no split. Sometimes it might be even a good while later when we run up on a thread where it temporarily derailed and on those we might strip out the off topic stuff that is now probably years out of date and leave the never goes out of date original question about "how do I talk to my wife about swinging" or whatever the question was. I look at threads as having two lives. There is the here and now conversational type life that may have some off topic or bantering back and forth about whatever, and then there's the thread's second more focused and more enduring life as a reference source that someone 10 years from now may find useful and informative. Both have value in their own way. In general, we try to use a light hand on here and now conversations since we want people here talking with each other, pretty much why we exist after all

Let's be honest... At least in my experience, swingers as a group have always been a little cavalier about health. We have anonymous sex with strangers in the world of AIDS. A significant minority of swingers I know smoke like chimneys and drink far too much. So, I guess I'm not really shocked that in the face of a global pandemic, at least a few of us are looking to get one more orgy in. Personally, I don't smoke, I don't drink, we use condoms and we stopped even looking to go out when the pandemic started but that's us. We're basically nerds.

I work with a young woman who has a large tattoo of a naked woman on her arm that would make a sailor blush. After the first several days of employment she started wearing long sleeves all of the time.

There is a pool. There is a clubhouse. No apparent need to have a separate club-house membership in order to enjoy these facilities. It is not as swinger-friendly as Paradise Lakes or Caliente. It is more likely to see children walking around.

Our industry is heavily tech dependent, but is involved in a business line that skews quite conservative. As a result, we have a lot of young employees who remain fully covered year-round. I'm certain most never considered that would be a consequence of of being "cool" when they were nineteen. Honestly, I wouldn't have, either. I probably would have been the first person in line for a tatt or three if they were part of my culture growing up. Thankfully, they weren't.

I think as more people get tattoos and piercings, and as those of us without age out of leadership roles, it will become less of an issue. I've already seen my employer shift their policy regarding visible tattoos and body piercings - not to radically embrace them fully and freely, not yet, but to allow a little flexibility and to acknowledge that they can no longer afford to pass up good prospective employees for an increasingly outdated aesthetic standard.

Depends on the tattoo and where she gets it. It's art on skin. Naturally, as the skin changes shape so will the art. Still, as I said, depending on the design and the location, it will probably stand the test of time.