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It will come back, swingers are risk takers and as someone else answered many of us have short memories.

Linda and I are now three weeks post our second vaccine and have both tested positive for the antibodies meaning the vaccines are working as planned. We have been talking to a couple we have been with many times that also had the vaccines and we encouraged them to get the antibody test to make sure. With the new CDC guidelines stating friends that are all vaccinated can now get together safely we are planning a little holiday together.

My wife uses Yandy.com, not that I need to see her wearing it. Slutty clothes were requested by someone else.

COVID cured a lot of other diseases.

Yes, luckier than the over 500,000 who died and the millions of families who are grieving that there is an empty seat at the table, an empty side of a bed, a grandparent’s hug. Luckier than the people who are still living with medical problems caused by a virus we are still learning how it affects the heart, the lungs and your thinking. I’m happy you and your friends recovered and I grieve for the friends we lost.

We are returning now that we both have been vaccinated. We already have plans with friends who have been vaccinated and waited two weeks to build antibodies.

The word "intimate" is a tough one to nail down. Knowing something "intimately" can mean to know it very well, and your lips and tongue are some of the most powerful sense organs. All five senses are involved. So in that meaning, yes, you're intensely intimate with what you're working on. On the other hand, it lacks the intense personal intimacy of being a potentially procreative act, and perhaps of being face-to-face with your partner when you orgasm.

I think you are reading too much into it.

I knew a couple, and played with them on several occasions, who ran a lifestyle website that focused mostly on hotwifing. They were lovely folks, both of whom had full-time jobs. They ran the website in their spare time as part of their lifestyle hobby. It was a nicely done site, with a constant flow of fresh material, much of it — videos, stills and text — centering on her hotwife adventures. The primary revenue stream was subscriptions and I recall there was some advertising. It was a lot of work, particularly for the husband, who was the webmaster. I don’t think it ever made money commensurate with the time they invested, and I wondered at the time if it even covered its expenses. I had dinner with them five years ago when business brought me to their city. Not long after that they shut down the site. I suspect trying to make a business out of their hobby in the end took a good bit of the fun out of the hobby.

I live in the US and since it's mostly illegal here there are no requirements that escorts get regularly tested for covid or std's. Maybe they do if you live someplace where sex for money is legal and it's regulated.

How about starting a club here? "Swingers in Trophy1802's Area" sort of thing. The club feature here is vastly better than what was the "social groups" on the old vBulletin platform, and it's really underutilized. We have some big ideas for it, that may or may not ever come to fruition. Covid, clubs closed, etc. have made it more a time to focus on trying to hold onto what you've got instead of focusing on the new... but maybe someday. Basically, you can make your group public, private (by application and approval), or invite only. Then you can have like your own special forum that is just for that club. It's kind of like a FB group, but better, because speaking as a forum owner, FB sucks Like anything on the web though, visibility is the name of the game. If search engines don't serve you up so people can find you, then it's going to be a very slow go. That's going to be true of any platform, and it is a LOT of work and constant battle to even keep your head above water on the google game. Some sites can afford to have a staff of full time professionals doing just that. Note - this site isn't one of them! We would like some of that please Maybe even just a little piece?? Maybe even just a crumb??? Websites aren't expensive to start, you can do one for dang near free...and then see your site running on your free software and your $4.99/month shared hosting plan melt down right when all of your hours upon hours, days upon days of hard work start to bear fruit and your site starts to take off. But, you can spend a lot of money quick putting up a big fancy building with all of the lights on and it stay virtually empty too... but the bills keep coming. So, the most important thing is to be nimble enough to adjust as needed, but that's easier said than done because the further you go down one road on a platform or whatever, the more difficult it is to switch to something different/better even when you know you need to. Curious to hear more and happy to help in whatever way we can. Don't claim to be experts, talented amateurs even a stretch, but we're still here so doing at least something halfway right.

My professional training was in clinical psychology, though in my case “other sports beckoned” (literally). But those four years in grad school did leave me with a perspective on how psychotherapy can be helpful to individuals, couples and families. From my perspective AndrewandAnn’s advice is excellent, probably the best on the subject I’ve seen posted on this board. The fact is relatively few prospective novitiates to the Lifestyle are likely to follow A&A’s sage advice, but whether they open their sex lives to others or ultimately decide not to, those couples who do work with a therapist beforehand are significantly more likely to find themselves in a good place a year or more down their personal road than those who don’t. I won’t reiterate all of A&S’s recommendations, but there are two that I believe deserve added emphasis: “Since you are specifically going into therapy to discuss having an open marriage, you'll need to find a therapist who is both familiar with these kinds of alternative lifestyles and doesn't have a negative opinion of them. They definitely exist, but there are far fewer of them than those who cater to the mainstream lifestyle.” This is critical. Attitudes toward alternative sexual and romantic lifestyles have changed — to a degree. But many mainstream therapists will, whether consciously or because of their unconscious biases, steer you away from sexual exploration that involves any person(s) outside your relationship. On the other hand, there are a fair number of couples therapists who are open-minded on the subject (and may themselves have relevant personal experience.) In the past I’ve occasionally helped then-vanilla friends find such therapists. A Google search is helpful, though you will be much more likely to find them in larger metropolitan areas than in smaller communities in rural areas. “Lastly, I would suggest you visit with a medical doctor, too, so you can be fully aware of the physical health considerations that are biologically present when you have sex with multiple partners (who themselves have sex with multiple partners.) There is more to be concerned about than simple STDs or an unwanted pregnancy. Again, I'd suggest seeking out a physician who is familiar with alternative lifestyles.” A wise person has an accurate assessment of the risks involved in any activity. Risk can be managed and every person or couple who wish to enjoy the benefits of sex with others will need to decide the level of health (and social — people lose jobs and friends through indiscretion) risks they are willing to accept. Some of my dear Lifestyle friends seem to me to be in denial about the health risks they assume, both sexual and these days non-sexual ones. Try not to be like them.

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