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Regardless of what takes place with others or what the situation is, MFM, FMF, MFMFM, etc.....we have a rule that it ALWAYS ends with us. Her and I together at the end of the night reconnecting, sexually, passionately, emotionally, and on every level possible for us to reconnect. We have found this to be a very powerful and necessary feeling we both experience and very much need with each other. The reconnection is something we have come to look very much forward to. When we do play with others we never sperate and we always try to be a part of each others experience either by being involved or watching or both. We do enjoy talking over much of the events either while we are reconnecting, at a later time or both. For us, its all about being together, sharing in our experiences together and making sure that the end of every situation it ends with just the two of us. We know everyone has their own way or choice of how that reconnect happens, this is just the way we have chosen for ourselves.

Reconnecting with your partner is the best part about the LS. It speaks to deep affection, honor,...and unbridled lust. Swinging enables and encourages couples to view their partners in an erotic light that is often extinguished by work, routine and so forth. Seeing ones partner as the object of others' attentions and desires -- and knowing that they are truly your partner--rejuvenates relationships in ways that vanillas cannot comprehend. Yes, the after-party sex with one's spouse is breathtaking in its intensity and duration.

So I will play a little game by myself whenever I watch a threesome/moresome porn video. I prefer the videos that present real people/real couples. Then, while watching the sex scene occur, I like to guess which pairings are the real couple, and who is the "extra" person in the video. I judge by how the participants kiss each other, how they look while giving a blowjob or going down on each other, little playful verbal banter caught on film, type or amount of dirty talk, volume or quality of vocalized pleasure during the scene...so I guess the question is: Am I the only one who does stuff like this, and what else do you do while watching porn (aside from the obvious activity)?

I agree. My GF gives out blowjobs like handshakes. Nothing intimate about it.

We're still very new to the lifestyle and there are so many emotions/feelings to work through. We've been with the same couple on 3 separate occasions now and also had an encounter with a new couple over the weekend. We are really excited about our experiences and have both had a great time, it's getting better ever time. What I'd like to know is how does everyone else reconnect with their significant other after playing, especially after full swap. We keep it same room but we each have separate emotions and experiences that we need to talk about to keep each other informed about everything that went on. Is there anything in particular that any of you all do to reconnect and if anyone has any great ideas please share! We want to keep this fun and exciting for both of us. Mr. Jare wants us yo tslk about ehat we liked/didn't like, what we want to do again or try out. I'm all for it, just dont really know how to get started. Thanks

Rec is legal here. I have no issues with people who use it for medical whatsoever as i use it myself recreationally. With that said i prefer edibles. I do not feel compelled to say we use on our swingers profile. Feel it might run people off.

That's why professional porn never did it for either of us. Real amateurs all the way!

The gal that I started this journey with was really into the idea of getting double stuffed, and we'd roleplayed it a few times with toys as props. When we decided to take the leap, we had no idea what swinging was or that there was an entire community, let alone any of the websites like this one. But, as nearly fairly common, she did have an ex that would periodically contact her hoping that they could hook up. So, we went that route. It was easy, in that they were already comfortable with each other. He was a bit weirded out at the idea that I was going to be present (it was more of a tag team than a simultaneous 3way), but her "charms" convinced him pretty fast. I think the confidence level of the woman involved has a LOT to do with the ease of setting this up. If she is confident enough to take the lead, it will be really easy. If she is hesitant and needs the guy to take the lead, it will be much more difficult (not impossible).

Numex, When the venue and situation is right and comfortable, we definitely agree! We enjoy watching couples make love, and it can be really exciting (and educational). Making love with others watching can be really hot and exciting for us (performing). We had these experiences several times last summer on our open bow runabout on the lake's west end. Once past "The Point", the water is shallower and the big bolts and sail boats don't go there, so it's pretty much nude. People know this so families don't go past the point. Best Regards, J& R

I never thought sex with strangers is intimate. My wife has sucked cocks of guys she hardly knows and has eaten plenty of pussy.

As a man, I find this to be very true. I have never had a woman ask me to do something that I didn't enjoy, even if it was only her getting off. It is the only time I like "dominating" a woman - by her telling me what to do and enjoying it so much that she needs me to continue.

An intimate act is different than intimacy. From the internet Healthline: Intimacy is closeness between people in personal relationships. It’s what builds over time as you connect with someone, grow to care about each other, and feel more and more comfortable during your time together. It can include physical or emotional closeness, or even a mix of the two. Intimacy isn’t the same as Sex. It’s possible to have sex without intimacy as well as intimacy without sex. I am intimate with very few people. I am in deeply in love with one person, my husband. I do not consider myself polyamorous even though I am intimate with others. Oral sex is sex, sex that could be intimate or just a sex act. Thinking about intimacy, the sex I have with most of our friends is just for fun. I have had sex in the past years with tens of people, sex not intimacy. I have both girlfriends and guys orgasm from oral sex and never felt intimacy. Do other ladies feel a sense of intimacy if a man enters you from behind, brings you to a satisfying orgasm and no other attachment? I am sure many of you have oral sex because you enjoy giving it. For whatever reason enjoyment of giving pleasure is pleasurable to me. I have given long slow blowjobs to many and never considered it intimate.

We have always communicated well and we are not shy to share what we like. The on thing we have always done, every time, we finish the night with just each other. No matter the quantity of action or who with ....or how many....we always finish the night with each other. We also will grab each other during the festivities to have each other or from time to time only play with each other at the party....just cause.....it’s a turn on.

Sounds like this is one thing that's pretty much universal across the board. We were fortunate to have a little break in the middle of our first play session to take a shower. It was a good chance to talk privately and make sure neither of us secretly just wanted to go home, and to check that we didn't need to discuss any of our rules. After round 2, we just slept. The next morning? We fucked, worked out, talked about all the fucking over breakfast, went back to bed and fucked, talking about it over dinner, met our friends for drinks, ended up playing with them again, then fucking each other, then falling asleep and fucking again in the middle of the night... I haven't gotten to the "the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak" stage for a long time. To your question, a lot of our conversation was about things we'd seen but weren't completely sure what had happened. How did she feel about a woman going down on her (good, it wasn't as uncomfortable as it seemed in her imagination, but she prefers cock), did I really like watching her swallow someone else's cum as much as I told her I would (almost to a fetish level), was getting spitroasted the way she thought it would be (great, she wasn't ready for it to end), did I feel as intense about looking her in the eye while I fucked her friend from behind and her friend's husband fucking her from behind as she did (yes), did it turn her on to see her friend get off with me (embarrassed yes). It's always been the technical details about sex that get us to have better conversations about what we're actually doing and why. I thought it was going to be a much more delicate conversation than it actually was, and I was surprised by that.