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Our general rule of thumb is "no sex on the first meetup", but there have been a few first meetups that resulted in backseat blowjobs. It's like saying "everything seems to check out, now let's see how he tastes".

I agree. My GF gives out blowjobs like handshakes. Nothing intimate about it.

I never thought sex with strangers is intimate. My wife has sucked cocks of guys she hardly knows and has eaten plenty of pussy.

I've had a different realization over the years. There are a great many people who I wouldn't necessarily want to see naked, just for the sake of seeing them naked. But if they're passionate and into each other, it's still hot to watch them have sex. Maybe it's because over the years, some of my most fun partners weren't exactly models.

Was just bringing this up for another thread. Not really a pron site, but a vintage porn...e-zine for lack of a better word: https://www.therialtoreport.com/

Vintage 80's porn were very often movies that featured sex...most of the best videos are from that time period. Just wish they weren't shot on tape leading to very low picture quality now. We play a different game: when out in public, we look at other couples and debate if (1st) we would want to see them naked and (2nd) if we think that they would swing if they had the opportunity. Most couples are usually a no/no, but there are still enough out there where it's at least a yes/maybe.

People may think that intercourse is the ultimate act of sex and that going all the way means having a penis in the vagina. My husband and I have oral sex only quite frequently and both feel very satisfied. Some mornings I will wake my husband up with a blowjob and not wanting anything in return and he will wake me up other mornings with a tongue pleasing wake up. We were with the couple we have been meeting and I started to do what I normally do with my husband by kissing our friend’s penis. I enjoyed his reactions and continued to give him a blowjob and started thinking how beautiful his penis was. He tried several times to stop me and go further and told him to just relax and enjoy as I enjoyed doing it. I licked and sucked, took him deep in and then only the head. I explored his walnuts with slight pressure. Several times he tried to stop me and didn’t. I could hear my husband talking in the other room and figured they finished what they were doing. When my friend came he said that was the most intimate thing he has experienced. Is it?

We are newbies with porn, well not me... My wife likes a story to go with the action. When viewing solo I would much rather see real couples. Real couples having real sex to really please each other and themselves. Maybe on a beach somewhere... She also likes instructional videos.

I went full hairy during lockdown something I hadn’t done before. Itchy at first, I’ve been there before. We made it fun as it grew in and messy after some real fun. For porn we felt the opposite, we got bored with produced porn and enjoyed the real couples.

My wife and I are getting into 70's and 80's porn. Not because of the hairyness, that's not really a turn on. We like it because there is typically a story of some sort, not just wham bam thank you ma'am.

Numex, When the venue and situation is right and comfortable, we definitely agree! We enjoy watching couples make love, and it can be really exciting (and educational). Making love with others watching can be really hot and exciting for us (performing). We had these experiences several times last summer on our open bow runabout on the lake's west end. Once past "The Point", the water is shallower and the big bolts and sail boats don't go there, so it's pretty much nude. People know this so families don't go past the point. Best Regards, J& R

I don't think so at all. My GF has had far more cocks in her mouth than anywhere else so you could say it's the least intimate sex act or at least much less "exclusive" sex act for her. I guess it depends on the person.

I agree totally with this comment and I was amazed he made a intimacy comment which made me wonder about his relationship with his wife. The intimacy feeling could have come from us being in separate rooms for the first time. Our previous meetings with them were always playing in the same room possibly not being totally free, I found myself peeking over and watching. It was my idea to try separate this time and he was a little hesitant to leave his wife alone. Alone we were able to talk openly about why we were swinging, what made them interested and who brought it up. He told me his wife was the initiator after watching numerous lesbian scenes on tv and movies. I joked that I should be in the other room then. I had no plan other then having an hour alone with him, he is the first man I had been alone with since meeting my husband. Nervous/excited and not sure what I could do. I lost the sense of time as I went between his legs and started to enjoy the differences of his penis to the one I was so used to. I didn't think of this as intimacy, I didn’t do much thinking of much more than the erect penis.

As a man, I find this to be very true. I have never had a woman ask me to do something that I didn't enjoy, even if it was only her getting off. It is the only time I like "dominating" a woman - by her telling me what to do and enjoying it so much that she needs me to continue.

An intimate act is different than intimacy. From the internet Healthline: Intimacy is closeness between people in personal relationships. It’s what builds over time as you connect with someone, grow to care about each other, and feel more and more comfortable during your time together. It can include physical or emotional closeness, or even a mix of the two. Intimacy isn’t the same as Sex. It’s possible to have sex without intimacy as well as intimacy without sex. I am intimate with very few people. I am in deeply in love with one person, my husband. I do not consider myself polyamorous even though I am intimate with others. Oral sex is sex, sex that could be intimate or just a sex act. Thinking about intimacy, the sex I have with most of our friends is just for fun. I have had sex in the past years with tens of people, sex not intimacy. I have both girlfriends and guys orgasm from oral sex and never felt intimacy. Do other ladies feel a sense of intimacy if a man enters you from behind, brings you to a satisfying orgasm and no other attachment? I am sure many of you have oral sex because you enjoy giving it. For whatever reason enjoyment of giving pleasure is pleasurable to me. I have given long slow blowjobs to many and never considered it intimate.

I would suggest that 'romantic' sex is much more intimate than oral, for me. If I'm with a woman who's not my wife and we get into a groove of kissing and touching each other, looking into each other's eyes, I feel so close to her. Then, when we're in intercourse, completely linked, in cowgirl or perhaps missionary, and we're slowly thrusting together, I feel something that's different from just sex. Oral sex, either her giving me a blow job or me eating her out, isn't like that. I'm not putting it down, but I don't feel it's as personal as 'romantic' sex. Lest you think I'm saying that you have to be in love to have 'romantic' sex, I'm not. I've had that kind of sex with women I've met a few minutes before at a club, never seen them again. It can be just a karma you get into for a time.

We certainly feel that oral is more intimate than vaginal sex. And, because of that, we can't really process the "soft swap only" rule that works for some couples. We are more than happy to play that way - just don't get the rationale. Frankly, some of the hottest play sessions we've had were 'soft swap'