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I'd suggest you put up a paid profile on one of the big three (SLS, SDC, Kasadie) and in the profile state clearly what your looking for - as you did here. You'll be inundated with offers from single males, although the vast majority will be outside your age range. Go on dates with guys you find attractive that contact you. Make it understood there will be no sex on the first two dates - that will clear out some of the guys who are only looking for one night stands. Eventually, something will pop up. Best of luck.

Don't count me as an expert. But in the little experience I have, I'd say that stable swinger relationships are most often the result of an older couple. Maybe the perspectives of age play a role in that. Speaking only for myself, I know that when I was 21, I was way to insecure and inexperienced to be open to swinging. Probably the earliest in my life that I would have been open to the idea is early 30s, and the reality is that it took to my early 40s. Don't be disheartened though. There are going to more guys that match with you each year. Don't let the search for perfection make you reject the good guys you meet along the way. I think the best matches are usually the result of effort, not luck.

Great observation. That's what we did and it worked out well. That approach made her comfortable and she enjoyed it so much that she was eager to continue and move on.

The full message reads, "SLS will never send you any messages regarding your billing. If you receive any messages regarding billing, please report the profile using the "Report" icon on the profile and do not respond to them." From that it appears to me that someone has created profiles on the site and is phishing other members. It doesn't appear to me to be a hack.

One little trick that is kind of fun. I happen to have my own web space with unlimited emails. Every vendor every subscription and every other place that I have to put an email address has its own dedicated email address. That way if I start getting any kind of mail at all other than from the vendor I know just exactly who has been hacked or possibly selling their mailing list. That notice on SLS is making me consider pulling all my pictures off of even my secured folders.

If that is indeed the case, not too surprised. Nowadays, doesn't matter how with the curve or even ahead of it a site is. If criminals see a potential to make money by doing it, it's a matter of when, not if. We've gotten phishing emails that could only have come from high profile mainstream websites or online services being hacked, and just hit the delete key and move on, nothing else you can really do in this digital age. We've had our cards compromised twice - once was at a very popular locally owned mom and pop eatery that has been around for decades (know it was there because the guy with me for lunch that day got hit too), and then once after an online purchase from a site that Google recommended (just suspected that, no proof other than timing). It sucks, but it's the age we live in I guess. Not new in the swinging/adult personals industry either AFF Hacked

Hey. I'm new too

Of course, note that as with any sexual activity, no means no and no one should do anything they don’t want to do.

Welcome! I'm not actually any more experienced than you, but I'll offer one thing that I think I've had success with. When my lady and I were looking to bring another guy in, she was full of doubt and uncertainty. Instead of coming up with a do and don't list, I just told her that whatever she wanted was ok, and that I'd make sure that she stayed in control. It seemed to give her what she wanted. After a couple tentative experiments (I think she wanted to be sure how I'd react when it got real) she was suddenly comfortable doing everything. We both knew that she wanted to. But conditioning runs deep, and we had both grown up in very traditional families. I think she really just needed to feel safe that there wouldn't be shaming or resentment after. Anyway, welcome and I hope that helps.

I swear I always wondered about those poor young girls being secretly recorded. I could have been anyone of those girls when I was in school. How many jerks did I sleep with who only wanted to get laid. I look at some of these girls and they have love on their face. I know many are fakes, just too many angles being recorded and now I’m reading about a guy who set up a multi camera shoot. Then there is always that smirk on the guys face knowing he is recording this. My best thoughts are with the girl and always hope she isn’t faking. You know what you never see? The girl setting up a guy to be recorded.

Real porn is the only kind that I will occasionally watch. In threesomes, I look for wedding rings on the couple and the third without. For me, I like hair on a lady, and my wife too; not full bush, but not shaved either.

I might be in a dorm room porn somewhere on the net. I had a friend who was media major and he had hidden cameras in his room. He was a real filmmaker guy. The girls never knew n he shared his masterpieces with the guys. I asked him to put a camera in my room for a date I was hoping to fuck. He even ran remotes and watched in real-time. She was smokin hot n I was just hoping not to shoot too soon. I have checked thousands of porns looking for my vid and never found it.

I went full hairy during lockdown something I hadn’t done before. Itchy at first, I’ve been there before. We made it fun as it grew in and messy after some real fun. For porn we felt the opposite, we got bored with produced porn and enjoyed the real couples.

That's why professional porn never did it for either of us. Real amateurs all the way!

The gal that I started this journey with was really into the idea of getting double stuffed, and we'd roleplayed it a few times with toys as props. When we decided to take the leap, we had no idea what swinging was or that there was an entire community, let alone any of the websites like this one. But, as nearly fairly common, she did have an ex that would periodically contact her hoping that they could hook up. So, we went that route. It was easy, in that they were already comfortable with each other. He was a bit weirded out at the idea that I was going to be present (it was more of a tag team than a simultaneous 3way), but her "charms" convinced him pretty fast. I think the confidence level of the woman involved has a LOT to do with the ease of setting this up. If she is confident enough to take the lead, it will be really easy. If she is hesitant and needs the guy to take the lead, it will be much more difficult (not impossible).

We started that way as well. Loved it. Actually enjoy it more than MFMF. Something about sharing my wife and having two men totally focused on one lady. Yes, she's still a 'lady' with a little wide side. I'd suggest you consider men without the need for a large cock as a requirement. I think you are just limiting yourselves unnecessarily and will end up passing on a lot of great guys that will rock your world. What we look for is a good man, honest, truthful, gentle, pleasant, with similar values and in our case in good shape. Cock size is secondary, especially in your maiden hook-up. There is so much to be excited about, turned on about and to enjoy. I know it's hard to believe, but even men are more complex than the size of their dicks. Find someone you click with, enjoy conversing with and you find attractive both physically and mentally and then if he's well endowed you get a bonus. Regardless, I think you'll find your first time quite exciting and a huge turn-on. Good luck.

Vaccinated playmates don’t protect you. Once vaccinated you can still pass on the virus.

Good for you! We know many who refuse to take it and we are too young to qualify. We are low risk and just wish everyone would just shut up and get the fukin shot. We know friends who had gotten sick and got over it. I call it lucky. I heard younger people have bad side effects from the shot, did you.