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It's been our experience that age really is just a number. We have played with people in their 20's to in their 70's. The advice from @adamgunn about a paid profile ( we tend to bypass the free accounts) on one of the swing sites is the way to go. Which site will depend on your location. Another good idea is to find a local meet and greet. Quite often this is the best way to meet others in the LS. Make sure you are clear on what you are looking for. And don't "settle" for a one and done.... unless you you want to. For most folks in the LS it's all about the female. Never EVER do anything you aren't comfortable with. It's just like dating, you will have to weed out the duds, rude, pushy guys. You WILL find that a majority of people in the LS are welcoming and friendly. And it won't take long to find they are way more fun to hang out with than vanilla friends. Please feel free to ask questions and see if you are interested in going further. Everyone here will tell you that communication is the key. If you can't be honest with yourself and your partner it will never work. But it can be the best experience you have ever had. An example: we had a single gal that attended a house party with a group we hang out with it was her 1st time and afterwards she said " no one ever told me that sex could be so much fun!" Good luck and welcome to the board.

The full message reads, "SLS will never send you any messages regarding your billing. If you receive any messages regarding billing, please report the profile using the "Report" icon on the profile and do not respond to them." From that it appears to me that someone has created profiles on the site and is phishing other members. It doesn't appear to me to be a hack.

We have just been enjoying the hell out of each other throughout this pandemic and are both more then okay with that! We are planning on waiting until it is over before resuming any play with others. Sure it is fun being free and playing with others, but it is not the end of the world if we are not. Our sex life together has never been lacking and each other are always our first choice for great sex anyways. There is no shortage of people out there still actively playing though from the amount of messages we are still getting. We choose not to be part of the problem as far as this thing spreading further. Others can make their own choice.

Yep, it happens. Most here probably don't remember, but back years ago, SwingersBoard went down for I think it was like 10 days one time :( That was related to a site upgrade that went horribly wrong, and I'm sure Julie was scrambling night and day trying to get it patched back together and up and running again. There have been other shorter outages, fortunately usually measured in hours and not days. Since we've had the site, it's unexpectedly gone dark several times, and it's not fun, panic mixed with hurry up and wait. It sucks for everyone, but just the nature of the beast. A lot more goes into keeping a site up and running than most people realize, and unless you've got an in-house IT department, a lot of it is outside of the webmaster's control.

Okay, so here's my take on it. SLS possibly has been seriously hacked, or (more probably imho) they tried to do some sort of a site upgrade that's gone horribly wrong. They are working feverishly on it. (Okay, take the word 'feverishly' out of it.) In a few hours or days it'll be back up. The economics of the site are simply too lucrative to be abandoned. Patience, grasshoppers.

? we imagined quarters would just bounce off your wife's gorgeous ass but they damaged the screen...

I agree with everything above about making it clear that your wife has control, that's the best way to have a good long-term swinging experience. But I can say as a woman that my moods change, so once you make it clear that she can do as she wants, don't be surprised if your wife decides to have different experiences later, including those things she doesn't like now. It make take years and it may be only once in a great while, but wants change, we all like to mix it up some times. You seem to be enjoying letting her control the adventure that you two are on, so let her know whatever she does is fine with you, be sensitive and open to what she may want later.

Uhh, we are (hopefully) all amateurs at this. Turning 'pro'...nevermind. This is worth repeating. Start with this and go from there. She needs to KNOW it's okay and you won't hold anything that happens against her (trust is essential). When you are looking for someone to play with, just tell them that she is in charge...what she says, goes. If they break this rule, then it's over, done, instantly, put your clothes on and leave, never again to respond to them again. I've said this before: finding single guys to play with is like finding a cheeseburger at McD's...they're everywhere. If they won't obey your rules and limits, finding the next guy is still super easy.

Same as most of the above: yes and no. We try to stay within ten years of our own age...just for common knowledge and experiences, but we also don't limit it to just that. You are as old as you feel and act. Sometimes we feel and act older older, sometimes younger (usually we feel younger), and add that to the ten year age swing, it can easily encompass 40 years give or take.

I was at a party in California a few years ago. I was in my mid fifties at the time and played with a girl that was 70. Twice. We both had a lovely time and she was very responsive and smoking hot! I would never limit myself by something as trivial as age.

Well, well... a unicorn. Maybe tomorrow will be visited by a leprechaun, too ?

I am new. I was wondering if couples only date within their age range.

Do you guys just see a few people or do virtual stuff?

Hello all. So let me get right to it. Me and my wife are probably why one might say are amateurs to swinging. Our experiences we can count on one hand. We have had one MFM. And we then had a MFM where there was another guy watching us and joined in only to the point he loved the idea of tasting my wife as me and the other had our selves inside of her. The experiences were both amazing, nerve wracking and everything between. We both enjoyed many aspects of experiences, but also found parts we did not like. The first experience was a little more planned and the second was a more like spur of the moment thing. We both want to try again, but as I said we are amateurs and for some reason are just both super nervous to pull the trigger on it. Like I said there were things about it that she did not like and things about it that I did not like. She more than me wants to start the next one with just finding another guy that would be willing to massage her with me, then kiss her with me all over. But she only wants me to be the one to penetrate her at first and he would be able to touch, go down in her and she would at the least stroke his cock with her hand and possibly go down on him if all goes smoothly. She really just wants the control and doesn't want the other guy to just want bam thank you mam, or have control and do as he please's. I enjoyed some of it so much I would honestly love going all the way again. But I want her to be comfortable and happy. Anyways I just rambling. How and do you think it's possible to find the perfect guy that is patient enough for that.

This too! Our sex life better now than ever. We worked hard to keep the fire alive despite all the craziness of 2020 including working in healthcare and homeschooling and all the other shit.

Not exactly sure what we're expecting. We've been together 23 years (married x 20), are best friends, and want to explore this side that we've opened up to each other about the past 5? years. New connections, new memories... anything that will take what we have (already amazing) and add additional layer of fun - we had a deep discussion about it about 2 years ago and decided we would never explore this if we are looking to fill a gap in our relationship; but if this is something that will add to it we're game to explore it. Narrowed a bit more Hubby open to some fun with couples; wifey leaning more girl only play and couples - wifey talks more of threesomes, hubby more of foursomes but we're flexible; ultimately just want to meet some decent folks who respect boundaries and are drama free lol - which seems like a lot to ask judging by some of the few misses we had prior to covid.

Agreed! Actually we hope the only real challenge is finding a babysitter... lol

I like that there is lots of open mindedness. What do you expect to get out of swinging

I understand your trepidation and concerns; I'm not making light of them. But . . . if you jump into this, my bet is after your third time with other people you'll say, "What the hell were we worrying about!" You'll be fine.

Thank you for this comment - actually all of you - this is a helpful topic for us newbs who are hoping to explore as the world slowly... slowly.... c'mon... slowly gets back to normal. We're mid-40s couple, with kids 8 & 11 (we started late after careers established); so we're not really sure what range of folks we might run across but we'd love to meet up with folks who can identify with our plight uh... journey ? both of us have felt that in order to really move into this realm, we have to be able to play with folks who we can relate to and could relate to us or at least that is our sense of what we think would be an added turn on (beyond the physical)...

I am not quite willing to see this as the demise of SLS. It does however point up the issue of how do you contact people. That is one reason why we use the same login across all of our memberships. We also use the same Avatar. That way if something like that were to happen when people migrated they would recognize us.

Different couples have different age preferences just like they have different tastes as far as body types and personality! For us it can be a little bit of a challenge at times due to me being 13 years older then her, but we always seem to be able to find interest from others. We generally look for people that fall into the gap between our two ages give or take a couple of years. She tends to not be interested in guys that are older for the most part unless they are in great shape and look a lot younger then they are. Not much interest from her in dad bodies. She does find a lot of older women sexy though. For whatever reason it would seem a lot more women take better care of themselves then men as they age.

Well, it's well into the Afternoon, Eastern time -- and no updates. We can't even access the site. It apparently doesn't exist at the moment: "Server Not Found" This is kind of worrying -- we had a couple we were making arrangements to meet, and hadn't exchanged email addresses, yet. Hmmmm.

I'm looking for dominant partner into swinging. I see the other options are good for the current time.

The advice here is good, but if you're looking for a man who is into swinging and a long-term relationship, potentially marriage, I don't think that like every other guy is into that. Men who want to share of life of non-monogamy and swinging with a wife are certainly out there (and if they are like my husband and the way other husbands here seem to be, the are above average spouses), but you need to be honest about what you are looking for and be choosey. Most men still think that they want monogamy, so you need to say that you aren't going to be monogamous up front so as not to waste anyone's time.

Our pictures on line are also Vanilla. Still having them labeled as sourced from a swinger site has its potential downside.

Still other problems. https://www.isitdownrightnow.com/ shows that the SLS server has been down for 1 day and 23 hours.

We prefer people around our age but have found that our get togethers were becoming more diverse. I find the girls in our group will play with men 5 years younger and 10 years older. The guys have no limit on the legal younger side and for that matter none on the older side lol. My girl playmates are usually around my age and I just wonder how many of the girls think I’m too old now.

"Requirement" is too strong a word. As a practical matter, our playmates have always been people similar in both age and social circumstances. That's who we were surrounded by, so that's who ended up in the play circle. Would we have playmates whose ages are greatly different than our own? Well... I can't say we're for, or against, the idea, but it seems very unlikely to happen. We simply do not have enough in common.

Two quick points: Concerning the issue of illegality, recording someone without their written consent is not criminal behavior in most, and certainly not all, situations. The laws are, at best, quite murky and confusing around this point. It very much depends upon the jurisdiction and circumstances in which the recording occurs. Some states, and even cities, have stronger legal protections and others do not. Any potential criminal behavior often revolves around what happens with the recording. Is it made public? Is it disseminated on the Internet? And how do you "enforce" the law? More often than not, the remedy is a civil matter, not a criminal matter. Turning to the practical reality... we are recorded without our written consent all the time--at the airport, at the pharmacy, at the grocer, at the department store, at the hospital, at the office building, at every major intersection or highway exchange, etc. There are more than three billion smart phones in the world, all of which have the ability to record high-quality video, audio, and still photographs. Not to mention the billions of other private cameras, private security videos, drones, etc. The notion that any personal privacy still exists in this day and age is nothing more than an illusion. If you take off your clothes in any place outside your own home, plan on the probability (not just possibility) that it is being recorded by someone, somehow. Bear in mind, I am just the messenger and do NOT endorse this kind of behavior. But, sadly, it is reality.

No. We do not. Although most of those that we have played with fall mostly within ten years up or down of our age. We both have enjoyed one time as well as long term intimate relation ships with many ten to thirty years younger and a few fifteen to twenty five years older. Age is a number, it really has to do with mind set and personality with us. many of our younger playmates wanted/enjoyed the actual play session. Enjoying the drawn out pace, build rather than the quick to mount and finish.

Self acceptance was first for me, then accepting my partner as-is. We all change and grow over time. But I think it's important to be 100% ok with yourself and your partner. That goes double if you're going to attempt a non-monogamous relationship. The opportunity for jealousy and insecurity is multiplied, so the firm foundation becomes even more important. On the other hand, if you have that at the start, there are a lot of other things you're ahead on too.

I'd suggest you put up a paid profile on one of the big three (SLS, SDC, Kasadie) and in the profile state clearly what your looking for - as you did here. You'll be inundated with offers from single males, although the vast majority will be outside your age range. Go on dates with guys you find attractive that contact you. Make it understood there will be no sex on the first two dates - that will clear out some of the guys who are only looking for one night stands. Eventually, something will pop up. Best of luck.

Don't count me as an expert. But in the little experience I have, I'd say that stable swinger relationships are most often the result of an older couple. Maybe the perspectives of age play a role in that. Speaking only for myself, I know that when I was 21, I was way to insecure and inexperienced to be open to swinging. Probably the earliest in my life that I would have been open to the idea is early 30s, and the reality is that it took to my early 40s. Don't be disheartened though. There are going to more guys that match with you each year. Don't let the search for perfection make you reject the good guys you meet along the way. I think the best matches are usually the result of effort, not luck.

Welcome! I'm not actually any more experienced than you, but I'll offer one thing that I think I've had success with. When my lady and I were looking to bring another guy in, she was full of doubt and uncertainty. Instead of coming up with a do and don't list, I just told her that whatever she wanted was ok, and that I'd make sure that she stayed in control. It seemed to give her what she wanted. After a couple tentative experiments (I think she wanted to be sure how I'd react when it got real) she was suddenly comfortable doing everything. We both knew that she wanted to. But conditioning runs deep, and we had both grown up in very traditional families. I think she really just needed to feel safe that there wouldn't be shaming or resentment after. Anyway, welcome and I hope that helps.

You could specify that your wife is soft swap in which she will receive or give oral. But it is really difficult to micromanage what partners can and cannot do, other than general instructions like no nipple play or no BDSM or no anal. If a person is too scripted, they cannot express themselves. Leads to constricted performance and erectile difficulty.

This is cool! I was unaware of this site’s existence. Thanks for sharing it, Gold. ?

I've had a different realization over the years. There are a great many people who I wouldn't necessarily want to see naked, just for the sake of seeing them naked. But if they're passionate and into each other, it's still hot to watch them have sex. Maybe it's because over the years, some of my most fun partners weren't exactly models.

aint that a trip down memory lane