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That’s not what happened.. The husband initiated it. It was a first time experience which went mostly well. Now, if they’re ten to twenty experiences in and she’s doing things for new partners and not for her husband, things he desires, that may present something different. This was their first time doing this and you frame her in this way ? Now c’mon, one time is not a trend and she certainly did not do it to spite him. She went with the experience. Lastly, he says he’s ‘kinkier’ ? If that were really the case, nothing she did would have troubled him. Not....a....thing.

Good morning. We found there are sooo many couples that don’t know how to start. We didn’t know either when we were looking for someone. I keep in touch with some of the women we have met giving advice and support in how to go forward. We don’t meet the same couples more than a few times just that we think some become clingy. We have met some where Alan never gets to play, just watching is all he gets to do. This couple was just like many of the others who never did this, she was very curious about women and told us she wasn’t positive she could have sex. She told me she wants to do more if we meet again. Talk is much easier than actions and we never do more if they don’t want it.

Hello Watchful1, please note there are decaffeinated brands every bit as tasty as the real thing..... Is all swinging poly, or , all poly swinging ? I get so confused with subsets when combined with ignorant banality. You strike me as more mouse than man. Perhaps it's the way you squeak up. And lastly, no need to go away mad, but perhaps you need to just.... :::Cannot wait to read the nimble minded attack that is surely coming my way:::::

Mrs. Shy is exactly the same. It is clearly posted in our profile. Since we are soft/oral swap only it is 100% mood killer and deal breaker. First one was a surprise with a chance encounter at a club. She checked it out and reluctantly played with it a little. Luckily he was a giver and didn’t object to the minimal reciprocation but after that she said never again. I believe its one of the reasons she prefers Caucasian American guys in our age range to minimize the risk of any future surprises.

What is a “chocolate room”?

I don't find it unusual that a business, any business, accentuates the positive by dangling out upcoming rewards of some type for existing or potential customers, and tries to move past the negative as fast as they can. Pretty much how it works anywhere. Look at the General Motors webpage and you will see a lot about what they would like to sell you and how great it is, but you won't see much about recalls, other than maybe a link in fine print at the bottom.

I can see sucking a uncut cock could be a change, is fucking any different? Honey said she can’t tell when a cock is in her.

I see both sides of this, because I have had issues with jealousy. One thing that has helped me stop with the jealousy is a couple we have played with a couple of years as of now. I had the wife bent over, she was blowing her husband and my wife was enjoying the show. The wife was enjoying herself and stopped when her husband was almost there and he told her that isn't okay, you have never stopped before. I immediately pulled out and stepped to the side. They gracefully dismissed themselves, talked it over and came to an understanding. I had an epiphany that while I really enjoy banging his wife, I love mine more and I want NOTHING to do with discord in their relationship or ours. They hashed it out and we have continued to play since, honestly with an even closer friendship. It is about trust and there are some rules. don't smother her, don't torture yourself. Love, trust, communication means different things to some, but it is ALL required to do this successfully.

From that picture you look hot

Nope, I've pretty much said the same to women in similar situations. See, what is happening is common. In a new and sexually charged environment someone often 'performs' for the new person in the group. Then, because they actually did what was expected of them, just not in the way they were expected to, the other person is 'feeling ' hurt. If you're going to travel to the edge, you cannot complain if you get your nose bloodied. He wanted a new experience, he got one. As far as what she did in a sexually charged environment, good for her. As many have suggested, be happy for her. What ever happened to 'no crime, no foul' ? This was one time, one night, which by your own admission, went on for hours. I tell ya, one more person tells me how their spouse really came through, the sex was so good the neighbor needed a cigarette, only to bemoan some irrelevant point because they cannot stop themselves from overthinking. Sheesh pal, she had a great time, you had a great time and the other guy did to. That is often a rare thing.

Meeting a couple for the first time is an exciting experience when they have played with others before. A virgin couple needs to be tension packed and you need to be commended on taking it slow. Going from talk to action for women on woman can have traumatic results if a woman is pushed into the act. To have sex with a woman, another man and seeing your spouse having sex for the first time brings back flashbacks for me.

It's kind of disheartening the number of responses that are essentially telling the OP that his feelings are irrelevant, and that the ONLY consideration is whether she's happy. If this had been a woman posting about the a husband that wasn't a very attentive lover and was far more into other women, the streets would be flooded with compassion and the husband would be universally branded as a bad person. While not entirely surprising, this lack of compassion and blaming is sad.

No. However, there are now "real world-data" from first responders etc, just published. The first dose provides about 80% protection at 14 days. The second dose pushes that to 90% at 14 days. https://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/volumes/70/wr/mm7013e3.htm Assuming that immunity is the same as unable to transmit--and that is an hypothesis, the probability that two of the four not immune--one to be potentially infected with the virus and one to catch the virus is pretty low--a fraction of 3%, depending on how well-or badly behaved the non-immune person was in the prior couple of weeks. Dr. Fauci is not going to tell you what's safe. Remember, he also led the national effort against HIV/AIDS.

Our husband has two vaccines, plus 13 days. Tomorrow, I am fully vaccinated. Our wife’s first vaccine is in early April. Will Dr. Fauci give guidance for swingers?

When we play, my ultimate goal is for her to have back breaking, mind blowing sex. It should be better than "at home" that's the point of us swinging. If it's "just as good" then we could have stayed home for that. Other people do things differently and hopefully better than I do. It's sex, we aren't falling in love with someone else we are in lust with someone else. Sometimes it's one and done and sometimes we make new friends. But in the end it's just sex and we go home together and fuck our brains out ?.

We have never been party people and enjoy contact with one couple at a time. Our best most exciting experiences have been with newbies, first timers with curious wives. We had met a couple last year just before shut down, their first time ever meeting a couple and her first time doing anything with a woman. When we left we had a tentative time we would meet for more fun. We enjoyed them as a couple and they liked that we didn’t push any situation. Through lockdown Linda kept contact with the wife and spoke with her many times. I kept saying to just text I don’t like people who might think we are going to answer every call. With all this going on it was good for them, Linda too, to have social calls. Now we are all vaccinated and plans are in for a second meeting. We are looking forward to some fun with them and according to the phone calls it’s all the wife can think of doing.

Well, you lived the fantasy you wanted. Given your reaction to seeing how enthused she was, I would highly recommend not living it out again. She said "she is happy to try FFM, but has no desire to watch me fuck another woman". That seems like she's playing both sides of the issue. What would she do while you and the other woman are having sex? The only way I'd even consider another encounter is a MFMF couple swap. This way you'll get attention and she'll get attention. However, the language and tone of your post seems to hint that your relationship needs spark. Thus, I would take her out on a few dates (get a babysitter), start experimenting at home (e.g. toys, blindfolds, etc). If she was enthused about the new cock, she may get enthused about new experiences with you....i.e. get off the couch. Go to the backyard. Drive around the corner and jump in the backseat. Using another woman, man or couple to spark things up won't help the two of you alone.

This too! Our sex life better now than ever. We worked hard to keep the fire alive despite all the craziness of 2020 including working in healthcare and homeschooling and all the other shit.

If you are meeting people through an online site, you can put it in your profile. My wife much prefers cut, but has worked thru her share of uncut. The uncut guys are very grateful and relieved to get no complaints.

I was never a prolific poster here, but I have found myself spending less time here over the past year. I'm sure you can guess the reason (Covid, cough, cough). I haven't been to a house/hotel party or meet 'n greet in just about a year and it's frustrating. The last thing I want to do is spend a lot of time commiserating with other frustrated swingers. It's just too depressing.

Katrina writing: Well, the first time with a woman, I did get seduced and I was stunned to find myself into being with a woman. She undressed me, kissed me and I was all in. In short order, she had me on my knees lapping up her pussy as she pulled my head more deeply into her. Alternatively, I've never tried to get a girl to change teams and can 'read' someone pretty well. I'm always happy to play straight, but if the girl is being coerced and the husband is 'hoping', we simply do not play with them. We've had on experience where the other woman sincerely wanted to try it, did and we stopped. It wasn't for her. We've also had the situation where she completely got off on it , I worked her to several orgasms and my husband fucked her into next week. Yet, never take one for the 'team' and never try and coerce. It's not healthy for anyone. We're supposed to be having fun here and I'm not into drama.

My wife already was a vagitarian when we met. It would be a struggle to get her away from pussy, and I don't care to try.

A roll? That's a kink I hadn't heard of. ?

I agree that most women in the lifestyle are not bi (and I have some lesbian friends who swear to that). I believe most do it for show. A friend (in the lifestyle) was married to a man who was constantly pushing her to do things. First other women, than more than one guy at a time, then anal, etc. She found a man in the lifestyle who respected her and left her husband for him.

I have never understood the amount of people in the lifestyle that are homophobic. I had one lady say they wouldn't play with a bi guy because she didn't want him checking out her man's butt ?. We know several LS couples where the guy is at least bi curious. But it's almost an instant "pass" for most other couples if you identify as bi or bi curious. While I am straight, I never say never. And with a couple of drinks and under the right circumstance.....who knows?

I think this fits into the same category as guys who can't accept that their wife just isn't open to swinging at all. The fantasy is extremely common, but so is the phenomenon of people who just can't grasp that someone else doesn't secretly share their fantasy.

Have you tried the King of Clubs position? Both guys on their back with their legs scissored and cocks next to each other. The woman straddles both cocks from above.

I don't know if you live in a larger city or not, but in many larger cities there are established groups of guys who advertise for women to get gangbanged by them. There are several in my area. They used to advertise on craigslist and similar sites before federal laws concerning sex trafficking changed. You can probably find them now on established swinger sites. They may not obviously be a group, but I'm sure some single guys on swinger sites are part of these groups. You might have to make an effort to find them, but they are out there.

Too long ago. I think it was late February. I mostly go to house/hotel parties and meet n greets, but all of that has pretty much been shut down due to COVID19.

Hiring an escort is below me.

I enjoy watching it shoot out and feeling the warmth, so I usually like it on my face or tits. If a guy wants to cum in my mouth, that's ok too. I'll usually just take it in my mouth as far as I can to feel it shoot down my throat and feel the pulsations and throbbing in my mouth.

I used to participate in an online nudist forum and knew a woman who frequents PL with her husband and has for many years. She told me that PL has always allowed minors. I just looked that website and it appears to be true. They are restricted after certain hours from some areas, but seem to be able to go pretty much anywhere there during daylight hours.

My wife chooses to have the thicker dick in her vagina, the longer one in her ass. So with her, the guys don't get to choose in a DP. When given the choice with another woman, I'll choose the front. I like looking at a woman's face when she's fucking and playing with her tits.

If the other guy has a small or average cock I can take two in my pussy. If he has a big penis, i’ll let him have my pussy to himself and my husband with take my ass. either way i love it.

There is enough fun to be had for free so why pay. Come to think of free is a bit of a misnomer, with all the associated cost. Let me rephrase - enough fun to be had without paying for act itself. Now that I think about it, paying for it may be cheaper in the long run, but still seems like a hell of a lot less fun than doing it the old fashioned way and looking for people you find interesting and feel the same towards you. I guess if there was a fantasy we just could not fulfill without paying we might consider it, but I seriously doubt it. I am not sure how I would react if some we thought was interested asked us to pay, beyond telling them we pass. I would likely be a bit irritated if we had invested a fair amount of time only to discover at the last minute it was a play to pay scenario. If they were upfront we would just pass and not give much thought I guess.

So, a question...My wife is not attracted to uncut cocks at all. Is it rude to say something about this up front with potential “friends,” or how should you handle this kind of thing? It’s honestly kind of a dealbreaker for her. We’d never want to hurt someone’s feelings - although this post may already have. Sorry, but any advice would be appreciated ??‍♂️

I've seen this a few times in SLS adds, looking for "generous" couples. Meh, not my thing. I'd rather pass myself, and as for doing it hell no. NOT because I am morally against prostitution, I am just against having sex with people I don't find attractive. We were commenting about "the chocolate room" on the cruise (if I ever get my ass down to write the review, maybe tonight) with some couples we met and once we found out the guys couldn't say no, we realized its the worst job in the world.