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With all the shutdowns and not going to the gym for what feels like forever I finally started going after my vaccinations. It was nice seeing some of the women who I had seen over the years, women and men who I only know in passing at the gym. My old gym friends who I would have very little conversation and mostly just idle gym talk. There are people you notice and say hello to and don’t know their names. I was on the elliptical, with my mask on, and not paying attention to anyone and then I see a woman two machines over having mask problems. I recognize her from classes we both took over the years. Feeling bad I motion that I have extra masks she could have. I now know she wanted to get my attention. She told me her name and said she knows someone in common with me. My heart blipped when she said who, a woman we met a few years ago. She said she knows we haven’t talked in years but she her friend knew I worked out in this gym. Don’t know how she knew or how she would know I would be there at that time. I didn’t know to react when she said if we could talk after our workout. The couple she knew were one of the couples we met on a site who were just starting out. The couple lived not close to us, something we did for many reasons. Now I have someone who is in our everyday life asking me questions about swinging. I couldn’t get a real answer of how she got my name or why her friend would bring my name up. Her friends are swingers, they have met others after us. Her promise of discretion is gone, I’m not sure how to handle this new friend. Her and husband have not met anyone, even if they are friends with swingers. She told me that they have talked and knew her friends met us and for a year her and her husband talked about what it would be like. Her friends refused to be the first for them, too close they said. So much could go wrong and jealousy could ruin the friendship. She asked if we would just meet with her and her husband for drinks. Her and her husband have been vaccinated and have been monogamous in their marriage. She showed me a picture of her husband who I recognized from the gym. They both workout and she said they live a healthy life. In the years we have met others we always kept our lives separate from our play. Not sure if meeting someone who knows more about me, maybe stalking me, is someone we should get involved with.

I'm going to do a follow up to a my follow up: Attended Caliente in March of 2021 Everything from my past posts still apply. There was a cold snap the weekend we went. It seems like they have put new flooring in all the hotel rooms which is awesome. The carpet was looking dated. The rooms do look a little dated still but the flooring really helps and you won't be in the room that much. The food is still outstanding. Masks were worn but most people were not wearing them. Staff was, but it was personal choice if you wanted to wear one. I didn't see a single instance of any problems with people wearing or not wearing a mask. A lot of people had masks that matched their clothing or looked sharp, I went with the LED scrolling mask with my SDC screen name on it. Sadly though I didn't wear it enough to have fun with it! We stayed Friday to Sunday. We arrived several hours late due to an minor emergency. We checked in, had dinner at the restaurant and went to our room. We changed, got dressed up and went to the Club house at about 11:30 pm. There were space heaters outside on the patios of the clubhouse. There were tables, chairs, a bar, and the DJ in the covered area on the first floor. The clubhouse was fairly empty. We laughed because we drove to Caliente, had dinner, dressed up and missed the party. Please note when I say Clubhouse I mean the main Clubhouse that has a restaurant, bar, lounge, sports bar and night club inside. The nightclub was closed due to covid but everything else was open. The gift shop was open and we browsed. The Mrs. picked up a sequined sparkle purse to match her dress. We had a really nice conversation with the gift shop employee. Nothing but praise for the staff. Saturday was much busier and there was a lot of people out and about. The pool was empty because it was cold but the heated conversation pool and hot tubs were full but not over crowded. People stayed in the covered area to keep out of the wind. Recently Caliente opened up Club Rouge. It is located on the 1st floor of the Club house and opens generally around 10pm or 11pm depending on the night. It was recommended that we get a reservation from an online site (SDC) but there was no information about this. There not a lot of information on the Caliente website either. Here's how it works. Club Rouge is a set of on premises playrooms located inside the main club house. We didn't need reservations but they limit the amount of people that can be inside at the same time, and this is a very good thing. We attended without any reservation or advance action needed on Saturday night. There was a short line outside the club, similar to what you would see at a night club. There were velvet stanchions and you couldn't bring drinks into the club. They did provide free bottled water inside which was great. You can roughly see who's going to be entering the club by judging who's in line next to you. If there someone you want to see naked get next to them in line. Everyone in the line was friendly. One lady was a little bit on the drunk side of classy but it wasn't a problem. The entry room is lighted in low light. There's red carpet and art on the wall. Very nice ambience. The staff takes your names and you have to have identification or a driver's license to gain entry. You get a wrist band so they know you have been checked in. There is a smaller locker room with lockers so that you can secure your personal items. The locker room is a little tight for a Saturday night but it kind of makes it fun. You are provided with a towel and are required to take your clothes off to enter. The staff is wonderful. They are super personable, fun, professional, and respectful. I have been naked briefly around the pool at Caliente or when in the hot tub or water. I have been naked one two other times inside where there are other people present. The Mrs. had only briefly been naked in Public and there happened to have been no one else there. There was a wonderful nervous excitement from the entire crowd. Everyone was very nice. There were people of all shapes and sizes. "What are you getting me in to?" The Mrs. disrobed shook her head and just grinned. She was nervous but handled it like a champ. She admitted that she was nervous but displayed nothing but an amazing confidence. It was incredibly attractive! Once you enter the lobby and locker room the lights are kept comfortably low. It sets the mood well. The actual playrooms are through a doorway so there is no fluorescent light bleeding in from the clubhouse. I would say there was probably 15-25 people in the Club. It never felt crowded and they nailed down the number of people perfectly. Enough people coming in to people watch and not enough to feel too crowded. The first room has velvet bench seating along the edge. There is a minifridge that is stocked and restocked with bottled water through out the night. You help yourself. This is a nice touch I really appreciated. The rule is that is the curtain to a room is closed, don't go in. If the curtain is half closed, feel free to watch, and if the curtain is open feel free to enter. If I recall there was one or two rooms with no curtains, and if you were to use that room you knew people could come in. Most rooms had one or two beds. There was a dungeon with some leather straps and a six foot tall cross with straps on it. The room was empty while we were there. It was the only room with tiled floors and I think the room had been converted from the shower area of the spa into a sex dungeon. In the main sitting room there is a window to a room with a round bed. This is a room you would use if you want to be seen. It was initially empty but later a couple went in there and put on a show. They kept things very slow and spent quite a good bit of time in the room. The woman was straddling the man and was almost imperceptibly moving. I don't remember the exact layout of the room but there was room for two couples. The window is very large and is just slightly frosted. There is a hallway with several rooms with beds. Perhaps four rooms. At the end of the hallway there is a larger room with eight mattresses. This room had two televisions with pornographic programming on. There were several couples in the room that were naked. Not wanting to be the center of attention I took the Mrs. to the bed that was on the end and in the corner. The linen was clean and fresh. We dropped our towels and enjoyed each other in this new type of environment. There were three other couples in the room while we were there. There were between six to ten people in the room while we were there with couples coming and going. There were no single males in the playrooms. I don't know if they are ever allowed in but I did appreciate the fact that it was only couples. The age range was all over from a few late 20s, some people in their 30's with most people being in their 40s and 50s. The couple with the female that was a little too intoxicated were probably in their late 50s. It was funny because you would be in the moment....and then they would loudly say something that took you right out of the moment. Nothing bad, just mildly annoying. For example, we would be in the moment then a loud comment would come out that was so out of place that it would cause us to stop and laugh. So, not even a bad thing. But it got to the point that it was apparently mildly bothering everyone because a male voice piped up at one point and said "shut up!" with the frustration of a man with a naked woman in front of him and an annoying guy next to him! It was totally funny and the timing was priceless. That great man caused the entire room to crack up. Props to you sir for getting all the girls to laugh and take all the annoyance and tension out of the air. The couple that was being loud certainly was not offended, and was finishing up. I don't think any of the men came to completion but I can't say for sure. For me, I was brought to the edge five or six times. I didn't know if it was appropriate to finish or not. I've never been in this sort of situation, and it actually felt better to not climax and get to keep going to enjoy everything. There were several couples that came to the doorway and watched, and some that came in and used the beds. Since we were on the end no one came to our area (it was two mattresses next to each other). I can't say how long we were inside the playrooms. It was easy to quickly get comfortable. Everyone was either in a towel or naked. There were no single males so the atmosphere was great. There were other couples that were vocal and it was pretty hot without being obnoxious. There were plenty of people being intimate and I didn't feel like there was a lack of participation. There was a natural lull and since I didn't know how long we had been inside I thought they were closing. Several employees took the opportunity to come in and change the sheets. I think controlling the number of people entering allowed them to change the sheets between couples. I thought they were closing the place down and took that as a sign to finish up. It turns out it was just a turnover of linen, and more people came into the room after the employees had applied the fresh linen. Once we were finished we took a few minutes to look in some of the rooms and watch a couple that had the curtain open. I sat in the main waiting room for a few minutes while the Mrs. used the restroom. The conversation and jokes in the viewing room were great. Sitting there for a few minutes without the Mrs. actually wasn't awkward although it felt more comfortable when the Mrs. was with me. We went back to the locker room and changed into our clothes. There was a great vibe from everyone the entire time. Going in nervous energy and and euphoric vibe changing back into clothes. You can tell everyone had a good time. I was VERY impressed with the cleanliness of the entire place. The staff was outstanding and personable. They are always top notch at Caliente. The other patrons were great. This was our first time in an on premises location and the other patrons were great. This was entirely new for both of us. Never felt uncomfortable. There is no charge or fee to enter the playrooms. There were no phones or property allowed inside. A staff member verified your locker number by wristband. I have nothing but good things to say about Club Rouge at Caliente. I found information a little hard to find online. So I wanted to write this review to let people know about it. Feel free to post any questions or comments and I will do my best to respond.

Who is Number 1?

I would say this is a Win-Win for you. You don’t need to look for a willing couple who has never been with anyone. They already know you and made the first move. She must find you attractive and you acknowledged you know her friends. I think your secret is no longer a secret.

I got a text response but I needed more so I called her. She claims she told me about her friend when we met, something I don’t remember if she did 2 years ago. She said she had a friend who went to my gym, again I don’t remember. I asked why didn’t she and her husband play with her friend and she said she tried alone and it didn’t work out. Her friend, the one at my gym, couldn’t do it. We then got into a discussion about turning 50 and changes we go through and the pandemic and what we have been doing. I told her we keep our private life private and I hate that too many people know what we do and she apologized and said she should have reached out not knowing both me and her friend would be at the gym at the same time. She swore nobody was stalking me, she thinks her friend just built up her nerve to approach me. Then she thanked me for being so nice when we met knowing how scared she was. Alan suggested I talk to the gym friend.

We would not tell anyone that other people are in the lifestyle or even nudism without the other people’s express consent. It’s not a matter of helping. It’s about privacy. One of our nude beach buddies (female) was on a bowling team with one of my wife’s co-workers (male). Our buddy let it slip that she hangs out with my wife at the nude beach. She called my wife immediately and apologized profusely. We did believe it was accidental. Everyone survived. The co-worker never said anything to my wife or anyone else as far as we know. I am sure our buddy was mortified and told him to forget she said it.

Sounds ok to me and I am sensitive to conflicts. Only question is if you do not go on to play or it’s a one and done situation, do you mind seeing them at the gym? If so, is there a swinger couple you can fix them up with? I am alarmed that a previous couple outed you to this woman. That is a problem. Most swingers would never do that.

My wife is scheduled for April 7 and May 7. I was vaccinated on Feb 16 and March 16, so my two weeks after vax is approaching.

I’m not sure where you are on the list, you should still get the vaccine when you can. Unfortunately too many people near us are not getting vaccination and the numbers in NJ are still rising and are the some of the highest in the country. Warm weather is coming and I want to get back to doing normal things like getting back to Gunnisons Beach.

We both received our Positive results for the SARS-CoV-2 (Covid 19) DiaSorin Ab IGG The results do say there are false positives possible due to other past human coronavirus infections which infrequently occur. Being we both tested Positive I’m not sure of the odds we both got false positives. We have plans with out of town friends that both have been vaccinated to visit us this week. They want to see NYC and have waited for this week but knowing we weren’t vaccinated they were unsure if they should stay with us. She was one of the first friends I played with and it’s been a long time since we have seen them.